i.e. traumatic events, number of parters, sketchiness in general etc.
2006-06-19 07:41:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess that really all depends. What value is there in your partner knowing how many previous partners you've had - as long as you and he are both clean? Traumatic events, in my own opinion, if you think that your past traumatic events could create some problems in your relationship, then it might be best to consider whether or not you and he are meant to be BEFORE indulging him in your entire past. The only reason I say this is because you'll need to trust him completely, and he shouldn't be frightened away by what you've been keeping. Though I'm sure sharing the information would give you some sens of relief, he might become more afraid to engage in certain activities with you knowing your emotional past. Not only that, but what if he leaves you not long after, and were to share this information with others? Childish - yes, but you need to watch out for number 1 first - That number 1 is YOU! Good luck! I hope it all goes well!
2006-06-19 07:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by loving father 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There's a difference in being dishonest, but there is also an issue of respect when it comes to your past. I've known a lot of people who have gotten dumped after telling their bf/gfs how many people they've slept with. I think its an issue that should only be approached if you are willing to accept this number as part of your partner's past and not judge them for it. It's all within a question of how comfortable you are with that person before you let them in on this subject.
2006-06-19 07:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by cup_o_shina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I share your concerns approximately actual protection pertaining to to intercourse. in spite of this, as long as he's sparkling now, it truly is beneficial to end nit-picking his sexual previous. One effortless thank you to piss off a guy is to back him into corners with questions you think you will no longer in user-friendly terms like the answer to, then get mad at him for no longer "self-incriminating". If he's primary with of the thank you to function with women persons ordinarily and he's suggesting a threesome he's probable no spring chicken. i could subject your self with glaring threats on your actual well being, like his monogamy or cutting-edge sexual well being, and overlook something.
2016-10-31 03:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by holliway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stds maybe.History no. It does no good. It makes your parner not trust you. Men or women neither forget that stuff. It's the past no one can change a thing. Just let the past be gone.
2006-06-19 07:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends upon that undividual person...however u dont have to reveal EVERYTHING u ever done in the past....lol..some people just can NOT handle all of that information...so just judge how they would react by listening to certain comments they may make upon certain situations....there is no time limit to this kind of disclosure...in fact u dont have to disclose anything at all ...its up to you..
2006-06-19 07:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely be upfront before your first sexual encounter with someone new. Be honest, don't deceive or you will pay the price.
2006-06-19 07:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by TonOBricks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont do what i did. im like the most honest person on earth and thats y i get stuff thrown back into my face. my advice is -- when u feel its time
2006-06-19 07:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by i luv penguins =0p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its important to tell them only when you are attracted to them in the way that you think there will be some sexual encounters
2006-06-19 07:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by team_ank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how comfortable you are with the person i will say does he needs to know all this?
2006-06-19 07:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by nax_alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋