2006-06-19 07:40:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
According to Robert Sternberg's research, "Love" is an emotion consisting of three components: intimacy, passion & committment.
Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
-Intimacy alone is Liking (true friendship without passion or long-term commitment)
Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone. Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
-Passion alone is Infatuation (passionate, obsessive love at first sight without intimacy or commitment)
Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship. Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.
-Commitment alone is Empty Love (decision to love another without intimacy or passion)
Romantic Love: Intimacy & Passion, no Commitment
-Lovers physically and emotionally attracted to each other but without commitment
-“As in a summer romance”
Companionate Love: Intimacy & Commitment, but no Passion
-Long-term committed friendships or a marriage in which the passion has faded
-I love you but I’m not IN love with you
Fatuous Love: Passion & Commitment, but no Intimacy
-Commitment based on passion with without time for intimacy to develop
-Shallow relationship such as a whirlwind courtship
Consummate Love: A complete love consisting of all three components
And it hurts if you desire Consummate Love but cannot achieve it...
2006-06-20 03:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Chuck W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts because you love with with your whole heart and make yourself vulnerable. You have to expect that when you open yourselp up like that you are going to get hurt one way or another. But the benefits of being in love far outweigh the downfalls.
2006-06-19 14:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts bcoz its still teaching u lessons.
Once u've touched fire, u kno not 2 touch it again, coz the last time u did... It hurt! Basically, to make mistakes and learn 4rm them! U'll kno what it is when it stops hurting!
2006-06-19 14:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by AfroSistah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is something u cant control; its this amazing feeling. and the hurt is the part that just comes w. it. =o( sad but tru
2006-06-19 14:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by i luv penguins =0p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love could be a day @ the beach,or,a punch in the stomach!
2006-06-19 14:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Drew V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i can answer this one with another question.
how can you know love hurts if you dont know what it is? you might consider amending the question to get an answer youre looking for.
2006-06-19 14:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by crikeyme_mate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there_is_no_such-thing_as_love
2006-06-19 14:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ashika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋