my mother and step father and their 4 children are losing their home due to his job down sizing... they have a month and have no idea as of where to go... my husband and I own a small 3 bedroom 1 bath home and have a 3 year old. is it my place to offer them a place to stay here? they have a 2 , 4, 7 and 10 year old i think it would be too little room and alot of strain on our stressed out marriage. what should I do?
2006-06-19 07:04:22 · 9 answers · asked by JeNe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you feel. I have been in something like this myself. And it is not fun at all. I mean it is stressed on you and your husband and also you child. For if you and your husband is having problems this is not going to be good for it. For you and your husband needs time for one another and yall want if you let them move in with yall. You need to see if you can find them some kind of other help. I know this mite sound mean but , I am telling you this want work out. Not if you're having problems anyways. There are places that will help people , just try helping this way. I will keep you in prayer on this for you are going to need it my friend.
2006-06-19 08:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your family's troubles.
IF you decide to host them, make sure you sit with your husband 1st & decide on a 3-6 month period to help them get back on their feet.
Make your mother & stepdad sign a statement IF they agree.
I don't think it's legally binding, but it would help them to have a fixed date in mind, and it would help later if they try to dispute what was actually agreed upon.
IF they do own the house that they are losing, even with bad credit, there might be a way for them to salvage something.
They should get in touch with the real estate investors who buy distressed properties from homeowners.
These investors pay cash for a quick deal.
Of course they are making money from the deal, but it can help a homeowner get some of the money out, IF there is equity in the house.
It is much faster than trying to sell a house with only a month left for a regular kind of home sale.
Sometimes the investor even lets the homeowner stay on in the same house as a renter.
Good luck.
2006-06-19 14:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by well wisher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice if you tell them that they can stay for a while ONLY, give them a time limit and some rules to follow. It would mean so much to them if you help them out in the time of need. But you and your husband have to talk about if first. Your marriage should come first, But that care of your people.
2006-06-19 14:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You should only offer if they have absolutely no place to go, and for a short time. A bank loan might not be a bad idea, you can suggest it to your Mom and see what she thinks. You can go out of your way and help her find something that is affordable. Good luck, hope this helps. Jim.
2006-06-19 14:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by rockjk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try to talk to attorneys? Maybe there is a chance to keep the house.If not,go to people, to Church,maybe there are some kind of organizations who might help them and you.If your husband is not a strong man,you should not sacrifice peace in your family,but you also can not just sit there and wait.Yty to find someone who can help.
2006-06-19 14:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by sand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necissarily your place. But if you let them move into the home, do not have any un-realistic expectations. If they cannot pay their mortgage, they wont be able to pay you. I think in this case helping them would be enabling them. What motivation would they have if they lived free in the home you are talking about it? I say do not do it.
2006-06-19 14:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by educated guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would no way be enuf room. Maybe you could suggest to them that they could get a loan to help for the payment on their home? I hope it works out for ur mom and her family. I know how it feels to be evicted way too well....
2006-06-19 14:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by girlie [♥] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy.......yes i think you should ask them to stay ONLY if it really means they're livin' in the car......otherwise i would help w/ trying to find them an affordable place, maybe help them w/ packing, moving ect......good luck
2006-06-19 14:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have any room sorry
2006-06-19 14:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Orangie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋