we met and he felt that i should be with him cause he wanted and not because of what i wanted. he basically accused me of cheating but we are not together like that. He is in the military now and it seems that he thinks he is perfect and can do no wrong. I am being pressured to be with him by family too without really knowing the true him. help me. I have intentions of being single if he doesn't change, i just want more opinions if you were in that situation.
2006-06-19 06:43:01 · 5 answers · asked by cutie pie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let anyone pressure you into the decision.. friends, family, him, whoever. The decision is yours and only yours. You are the only one that has to live your life and deal with your decisions.
Now, do you love him? Have you discussed his jealousy and is he willing to change or seek counseling? You need to ask yourself these kind of serious questions and do some soul-searching.
I have a feeling that in your heart, you already know the answer. Trust your instincts.
2006-06-19 06:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be with him if YOU want to,not because someone else wants you to.If he is in the military,how are you gonna try to work on things if he is stationed real far away?Maybe he could go to the chaplain in his unit and get some counceling for himself.People think just because you have a kid with someone that you have to be together,it's 2006 not the 50's.Now women have more freedom and are able to make it as a sinlge mother.Sometimes it's harder on the kids when they do stay together for that reason.You end up resenting each other and then the kids have to pay for it.Maybe you guys can work things out,if you want to.But don't bow to pressure from other people.Do what makes you happy and I know it's hard,my mother tried to get me to stay with my alcoholic ex-husband because he made good money,notice I said ex.So just make yourself happy and things will work out.
2006-06-19 07:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by dismalrelic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first concern should be for your child. You don't want to subject your child to an uncertain environment. You need to do whatever it is that will make you happy, not what everyone else wants you to do. There is nothing wrong with being a single parent. If you do not love this guy, than don't be with him. If you don't think that it will work out, than don't be with him. I guess the best advice I can give you is to follow your heart.
2006-06-19 06:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should! Your child's future is far more important than your own self. Children will feel more secure and comfortable living with both parents, than in broken homes. They also perform well in school, and less likely to smoke, and or get involve with drugs and alcohol. If you are not commited with anyone personally right now, you should really consider being with your child's father and even consider marriage with him.
2006-06-19 06:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nonie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.daylon.com/dating/
that site might help
2006-06-19 06:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋