hard to get..?

Question

I perfectly agree with the people that say a girl needs to keep a mystery about herself to keep a man, and not be all over him , available all the time. In other words this is a more sophisticated version of hard to get... But what exactly would one do specifically to keep that something - "mystery" whatever - if it is soo hard to keep away from the guy, when you both want and need to be together a lot, But eventually he will get tired of too much availability, so what is the alternative - how specifically to act to for lack of better words be "hard to get in the correct amount"?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months, and I am afraid that as a typical guy he will start losing interest soon, because we spend too much time together. How do find and keep that "mystery" about myself without changing much in our relationship. Guys walk me through it!

Answer 1

I think that mystery is more like - talk less, dont tell him in one night the story of your life since you were 3.Some guys like to listen that kind of stuff, other no.Most of them - no.
So make him be curious, and make HIM ask you what you did today, how was your day etc....
And if you take mystery as escaping, being not available etc... it's other thing.Doesnt matter if you also want to be with him sooooooo much, but try to calm down, do not lie to him, but just say its better to see eachother tomorrow, because you have a lot to do or something like that, and talk to him nice, romantic, so he will think about you all that day that he doesnt have you infront.Then, next day, he almost would not be able to calm down without to jump on you, hug you.....and other sweet things you do when you miss someone so much.
Or try to make dates shorter, like - you gotta go.But no problem, see you very soon.
It will make him a little bit of jealous, but also wanting you more, and waiting for next day he will be with you.
But girl, do not do that too often, because also as you get tired of seing non stop, you also get tired of non seing .....
For example, I was acting silly.I had a wonderfull time with my boyfriend, we were all day and night together having fun and enjoying sooo much, and then, I didnt want him to get tired of me, so I disapeared for one week.
After that week without knowing where am I, not just that he didnt care more about me, as I tought that he will miss me, care about me etc...HE GOT COMPLETELY COLD ! Because he was confused.Guy dont think like us, girls, nomater coz its like a rule that girls are those who want to be ALL THE TIME with love ones, but we are mysterious in our ways, nomater if we plan it or not.With running away, and too much mistery, guys just get confused, like - yesterday it was all cool, what is happening now ? Where am I wrong ?
I think you get my point.

But, belive or not, if you feel that you are getting tired, or he is getting tired, if you really LOVE eachother, you will be free to tell him that you need some time on your own, or that you UNDERSTAND that he needs some time just for himself alone...or with friends...It is only way that it works out, trust me !

:)

Good luck, and have fun !!!!!!! And do never give up on love !


Melina

Answer 2

I get what you are saying. I have found that if you hang out and contact him as much as you want - it can crowd a guy or get too intense for them or scarey to them. Even if they call you when you agreed you would give each other space, try to resist the urge to be together 24/7, even if you are living together. It is healthy for us to each have alone time. Try to do the things you did with your time before you were so into him. Keep seeing your friends, your relatives, going out and exercising or whatever you do to make you the well-rounded you that he likes so much, there should be time for him amongst all that you do too, but too much of a good thing really does accelerate the amount of time the relationship has before it fizzles and dies our or blossoms into something more. You can never go back and start over - once you move forward you are where you are. So start out slowly, see each other like every other day at the most perhaps. Some guys would even like once or twice a week I bet. Especially in the beginning.

Answer 3

There is no correct amount. It's kind of a; you get to know me the more you spend time with me; type of thing. The mystery is getting to know that person over time.

Answer 4

I agree with OOGA Just ask him. If you play too long you'll be playing by yoursle because he will loose intrest.

It's like when a lion chases down its dinner. If the dinner keeps pulling away he eventually leaves and finds something easier to get.

Answer 5

Why do girls do this! If you like someone, just ask them out. I know it is not tradition but honestly, where are you going to get in life if you sit there and wait for someone else to ask you the million dollar question? It is always worth a shot....then later down the road he will ask you the billion dollar question of "will you marry me?"!!!!! Just give in and ask....it will not hurt, you can move on to the next cutey if he says no.

Answer 6

Don't, just ask him out. If you keep playing hard to get, he will think you don't want to be with him and he will move on.

Answer 7

Your playing a dangerous game, if he wants you and is chasing you now why not let him catch you before he feels that he cant and gives up?

Answer 8

Be creative. Unpredictable. Have at least one interesting thing to say every day.

Aria

*The illnovelist*

Answer 9

just B yourself and stop trying to be all 'hard 2 get' no 1 digs that

Answer 10

Playing hard ti get may be good for you but, when you find yourself alone, just remember why !!!!