recently my mate has lost alot of weight and become very pale.we have tried talkin to he about this and she assures us that she is eating enough and isnt losing to much weight.At school she only has a youghurt for her lunch.if we go out anyway she always finds an exscuse not to eat anything.me and my other two mates have spoken to one of our teachers and she says she has noticed this to,but without anything drastic happening she cant do anything.i really dont know what to do,i dont want my best mate to be ill yet i dont want to upset her if i say anything else to her.what shall i do?
2006-06-19 05:34:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
i cant speak to her parents because well basically they hate me
2006-06-19 05:43:26 · update #1
she still thinks she is fat
2006-06-19 05:58:11 · update #2
You might have to speak with her parents and have some sort of intervention.....
2006-06-19 05:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your friend, you'll talk to her parents. Even if they hate you as you say, you still need to talk to them - if you show you're willing to speak to them about how worried you are about your friend, they'll appreciate that whatever they think of you. Her parents may or may not have noticed but either way they might not realise how serious the situation is. Your friend is seriously risking her long term health and any chance she may have to have children if she wants those one day as anorexia is a very serious psychological problem with horrible physiological repercussions such as her heart, lungs, brain and so on failing.
You'll have to bite the bullet and talk to her parents, her teachers, some other relative of hers - anyone in authority who might be able to help your friend.
You being there will also be important, especially when help starts to be given to her. You could also sit her down and have a serious chat to her about how worried you are - not just ask questions but a really good, serious talk. Good luck.
2006-06-20 15:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep speaking to her - she wont like it, but what you describe sounds worryingly like she is anorexic. Eventually, she may be able to face up to the fact and she will know that you are a good friend and are there to support her. You may well have to go to her parents - even if it initally makes you unpopular with her, it may be best in the long run. Good luck, I hope it all turns out OK.
2006-06-19 12:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's loosing weight and she seems happy that's ok. Just make sure she doesn't think she's fat. If she's always asking you/others about their weight I think you might have a problem.. but if it comes to that you need to be the 'adult' and sit down with her parents and explain that you think their daughter has an eating disorder.. they'll thank you in the long run if she has.. and if not they'll see that you really care about her.. xD =)
2006-06-19 12:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by noname. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is anorexic, she will need proper psychiatric help. It's a tough road she's following, and you need to keep talking to her, your teachers and anyone else who will listen about it. Anorexics are mentally fragile, and she may also be showing other strange behaviour patterns, like obsessive actions and self-harm. Keep a close eye on her in a very supportive way, and let her know that you are there. Good luck.
2006-06-19 12:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI RECENTLY DARE HAS BEEN A LOT OF STUFF IN MAGAZINES ETC BOUT GIRLS LOSING WEIGHT NICOLE RITHCIE ETC CUD SHE B EASILY INFLUENCED BY CELEBZ. NOW IM NOT SAYIN UR FRIEND ISNT ANOREXIC BUT A WHILE BACK I LOST A STONE AND A HALF WEN I WAS 17 ND PEOPLE TAUT I WAS I WASNT I WAS STRESSED AT THE TIME STARTED A NEW SKOOL ETC IS UR FRIEND IN EXAM SUITUATIONS ETC.
SHE SHOWIN SIGNS OF ANOREXIA SO WAT U SHUD DO IS SHOW HER PICS OF SUFFERS D REALLY SCARY ONES SAY UR DOIN A PROJECT ETCSHE WONT WANT TO ADMIT SHE HAS A PROB BU SHE HERSELF WILL NO ALSO TALK BOU D HEALTH RISKS LOSS OF HAIR ETC
2006-06-26 07:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by parisxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her mum and dad that you think shes got a problem, and tell your friend that youre not trying to upset her and you just dont want her to be ill and you are worried about her.
2006-06-19 12:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 make her parents aware - its not her fault anorexia is an illness and she needs medical help, the longer it goes on the harcder ti will b 4 her 2 face it
well done 2 u 4 being such a gus friend - its wat she needs rite now, good luck 2 her x
2006-06-19 12:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by amie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she looks fat.
Laugh at the spoiled brat.
Send her to work at a soup kitchen and see what its like to really not have food.
2006-06-19 12:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by areyoustupid3214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your teacher at school. She may be able to shed some light on this.
2006-06-19 12:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋