When will bad things stop happening to me?

Question

I try to be positive. How can I stop bad luck from happening?I started praying, but should I go to church... will that make it more powerful?

Seriously, my exhusband acts nice, but does things to hurt me. He got my daughter, 5year old, to lie to child protective services. I wish my ex would move on and stop using our kids as pawns.
I love my kids(three), but I'm afraid of them now. They could lie about anything and CPS will believe them. This is all about bruise on her butt (one time occurance (I saw the fall)).

Answer 1

bad luck happens to everyone...if you look around you im sure you will see that your problems do not compare to so many ppl out there..are you starving..dieing of a terminal disease? homeless?are you being persecuted against?are you enslaved?fighting a war? start to apprecite the good things and realize what you have. BE the change you want to see in the world..you have to turn your life around b/c in the end faith will give you the STRENGTH to turn it aroudn but YOU are the one who has to complete the task.

Answer 2

Your situation 'is' terrifying and dangerous. You just don't expect this from the man you gave your heart to, and who loved you. You are living your worst nightmare (any woman's worst nightmare.) If you have a relationship with God, then sure, pray to him and ask him to help you to cope and to guide you. I'll pray too.
Ensure that your lawyer believes you and that you keep going with all the integrity and clarity that you can. Many times the lawyers/judges/can spot a liar because they see this sort of thing all the time so take consolation in that at least and make your case.
Your kids will respect your consistency - they will know that it is you they can really trust. You are the dependable one. Always take the high road and remember that discipline is a loving thing - even if you are fearful - just be a little more cautious since there is a snake in the grass.
You have the truth on your side - and you can only do your very best at winning, and the rest is really out of your hands. So get some good references and get it in writing and make your case!
Really in a divorce/custody thing the courts/childcare have the control over the decisions. It is a pretty powerless feeling, but do what you do already - and that is love your children - come what may - that love will never change. Hang in there sweety, and be what you are - their darned good and caring MOM!

Answer 3

Sorry to answer your question with "somewhat" of a question, but in all fairness you ended with an exclamation point so perhaps I'm somewhat merited. If a God created a perpetual system that required constant intervention on it's part based on circumstance, then that system could theoretically be improved in order to become perpetual without requiring intervention on this God's part. Therefore a system requiring intervention would be less complete, less good, than the latter mentioned system, thereby reflecting upon that God imperfection on it's part. (I'll assume you're willing to take the leap that if we're considering a question on the existence of God, this God would have to be perfect, as contrary to this would require us to have a much longer and different discussion) This is an impossibility, due to God's obvious limitless perfection, and therefore could not be. So "bad" happenings should not be attributed to God's inaction, but merely to our perception of "bad", which is limited to the present, and the consequence of a system whose perfection may well be out of our grasp when limited to such a small perspective. If you take prayer in it's intended context, a personal communion with God, it surely becomes an essence beyond measure. If, from a religious perspective, life is merely a journey to heaven, then happenings on Earth are of little consequence. The slightest relationship with God would then be exponentially greater than anything else in life. So perhaps prayer is being looked at incorrectly, if when "praying" for help of some sort, the true "help" is realized in the prayer itself - as a communion with God - rather than the supposed enhanced quality of life that is proposed to follow.

Answer 4

I don't know what sort of bad things are happening to you, but they're not about luck. Luck is superstition.

So you have to ask yourself, could they be the result of something I'm doing or failing to do, or are they the result of the actions of others or circumstances?

If they are consequences of your actions or inaction, you can change that. If they are the actions of others, what can you do to change the dynamics of your relationship with him/her? If they are the result of circumstances, are they circumstances that can be changed?

Some things cannot be altered. Some have to be endured. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can change is your way of thinking about your circumstances.

I believe in prayer, but prayer is not about changing God or even changing our circumstances - though I believe that can happen. Prayer is about changing us. While going to church should give you a support structure and encourage your growth and relationship with God, it is not a means of making prayer work. Praying is not like a spell that you can amplify by doing certain things. Prayer seeks His will, not ours.

Without knowing specifically what kinds of things are happening, it's hard to answer what specifically you should do about them, but I recommend counseling. A good Christian counselor should help you see the connection between what you are responsible for and can affect change in and what is just circumstance to be dealt with. And they can help you build the skills necessary to change or to cope.

No amount of trying to be positive will make bad things good. I believe that God can bring beauty from ashes, but it's a process - like building muscles through training. It's not pleasant, but the results are worth it. That doesn't come by pretense, but development. It starts with being honest about what is bad and our part in it.

Find a counselor or a mentor. If you want to start something right away or need a supplement to that, I highly recommend "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

The bad news is that you are not powerful enough to keep bad things from ever happening. No person is, and God doesn't promise that we'll never have trials in life. The good news is that if you learn how to take responsibility for yourself and how to avoid taking responsibility for things beyond your control, you can affect change in your life and you can get support and healing when you need it.

Answer 5

There's nothing that you can do in and of yourself to stop a string of what seems "bad luck." If your a believer in Jesus Christ He will take care of you. Even so, the Christian life is not a walk in the roses but as a Christian I know that not matter what evil or "bad luck" I may suffer through Jesus Christ is right there encouraging me and strengthening me. By just simply praying or going to church will not solve your dilemma. It's a personal encounter with the Risen Christ that changes lives and circumstances. Just talk to Him about all of this and He is faithful to see you through if your truly sincere.

Answer 6

There is no such thing as luck. What you need to do is sit down and figure out what you want, and need, to accomplish. Set small goals. After completing a few small ones, you will find that the big ones just seem to fall into place. Email me if you would like to hear more.
BTW: I am not religious, yet very successful. This is because I realize that I control my life; not luck or God.

Answer 7

Bad things happen to people who have faith in God all the time. I've always believe that your faith is being tested. Stay strong dear! Continue to pray and read the Bible, go to church and seek out your fellow Christians who can support you in your time of need, etc. Life is never going to be perfect just because you love the Lord.

Answer 8

First, I don't believe in luck.
Maybe God is allowing bad things to happen because He is trying to get your attention. Praying and going to church is good, but it will probably not solve your problem. What God really wants is for you to accept the free gift of His Son, Jesus Christ. He died on the cross in payment for your sin so that you don't have to die.
However, trusting Jesus to be your Savior does not necessarily mean that all your problems will disappear, but it will certainly help you deal with them. Don't use church and prayer as a "lucky charm"

Answer 9

Bad things will stop when you start truly believing that God has a purpose for what's taking place in your life and start to think positive. Prayer is GREAT, but you also need to worship and praise God at the same time. Get yourself into a good bible based church and watch how God will turn things around for you.

Remain Faithful!

Answer 10

Yes. Only one thing to do. Just ask the mind to stop classifying what is good and bad. The mind compares constantly, verifies with memory and "judges". And you have complete freedom to clearly see what best can be done in any given situation, and an impartial mind would always guide correctly to plan and prepare for future.

Answer 11

I believe that praying is an awesome way to defeat anything that Satan is trying to throw at you. It has been my number one tactic against him from the start, however, in order for your prayers to be effective you must first except the Lord Jesus as your savior and trust that he will work all things for good.

Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.