why do parents over protect you?

Question

my dad is very srtict and makes our house like prison. im 15 and my sis 16 and is very strict on both of us. what can i do?? why cant he understand that we are in a certain age that we want to go out with our friends??

Answer 1

maybe ask for a cell phone for like a family plan so he can call you and make sure he knows where you are. and act more responsible around him and maybe sti down and talk to him. if he just gets mad then atleast you know you tried. and if he does let you do something don't take advantage of it and little by little he'll get used to you going out.

i think 'rent over protect us because they miss us always being around them and holding there hands when gonig places when we were little and maybe they are afraid of all those creepy people these days.

Answer 2

Why do parents act this way? Because they love you very much and they know more than you do about what some of the dangers to you are. Depending on their experiences, they also know what it's like to make certain mistakes and reap their consequences and would like to spare you if they can from making the same ones.
It won't be long before you and your sister will be old enough to be on your own. But have as many parent-approved, safe experiences with friends as you can BEFORE you move out so that you're not tempted to go wild after you leave. Then you really do get hurt.
Your dad probably DOES understand your desires, because he was your age once, and he was a GUY no less. He knows what guys are often mostly about.
Are there some friends or groups your dad does feel good about? You might be able to reach some compromises about these matters by seeing his viewpoint and suggesting reasonable alternatives to the things he's worried about.
Sports teams, church youth groups and other activities you can get into may help you both be satisfied. Blessings to you. I hope everything works out. Remember, the teen years with their many challenges are over soon, and the decisions and friends you make now do affect your future. Buttercup

Answer 3

It's a parents job, given by GOD, to protect you, raise you properly & send you into the world to do something good with your life. Watch the news & listen to the parents of missing kids begging for their safe return, knowing they will probably never see their child again. I have 2 teens & I'm strict. It's not like a prison but they are not alone w/opposite sex, even for a minute. They can go with friends ONLY if a parent is present at all times & I must meet the parents of ALL their friends before they can hang out. MY son just moved in with his dad. There are no rules there. Less than 2 weeks later, my son is smoking & there is alcohol in the house at all times so he's probably drinking now too. We don't do that in my house so I could protect his health, now all I can do is watch the destruction of the soul I raised for 15 years. Now get off the computer & go hug your parents! :)

Answer 4

A loving parent will always try to protect their children from any harm. If you and your sister haven't done anything to make them mistrust you then maybe he doesn't like the friends that you want to hang out with. Try having your friends hang out at your house when they are home where they can all get to know each other. Also ask your dad to take the time to meet your friends parents. Maybe if he sees that the other parents have the same rules and values as him he will be more trusting of your friends.

Answer 5

Truthfully there isn't much you can do. He is trying to keep you from getting hurt and I know it's hard my mom was the same way. A lot of times though later in life when you move out or go to college you will realize he did it for your own good, and that it probably help you in some ways. One thing is after I started driving my let me have a lot more freedom, but I got into a lot of trouble because of that. Please be careful and don't make any decisions that could hurt you or harm your future. I'm not trying to be like your father but I have been there and I don't others teens to have to go through as much trouble as I did. Good luck and I hope things get better

Answer 6

Because he'd rather see u become a happy, healthy adult, than see u be a happy, unhealthy teen. Because parents have done a lot more living than kids, they tend to feel like they know what is gonna happen in a given situation and rather than letting u go through that they protect u by saying no to certain things.

Soon u'll be on your own, and you can make the decisions, until then, just try to get along with him and know he does it because u are so special and precious to him that it hurts to THINK about anything harming u.

Answer 7

Well he's strict because he loves you, and wouldnt want anything bad happening to you or your sis. Now the fact that your in an age where all you want to do is hang around with friends, doesn't neccesarily means its ok. Sure you should be able to go out, but not alone, or late at night. If you want your dad to trust you more, make sure you go by his conditions, and present him the people you are going out with, I know it seems ebarrasing but that way he knows who your hanging around with and feel more secure to let you go. Just remember that your only 15 and theres going to be plenty of time for parting, just at the right time, theres no rush.

Answer 8

He was a teen be4 he was a parent too. He does love you thats why hes protecting you, he's more worried about ur well being then he is his own freedom, thats why hes keeping u safe with him where as u prob have friends whose parents dont really give a hooty patooty thats let their kids run wild because they want to party and act irresponsible themselves. Maybe u can suggest he go to the malls & movies with u & ur friends so he can establish trust with u & ur friends. Just be patient, he loves u & knows that someone has to be a parent to his kids instead of a pal. Godd luck!

Answer 9

Because they love you! Your parents did mistakes and they have experience and don't want you to do the same. At your age a lot of things could happen, not all of them good and they want to protect you from that.

Trust me, it is much better to wait until you are older to do the things that you might want to do now.

Understand them....

Answer 10

He just wants to keep you safe and protect you from all harm. It is what parents do. I always said I wouldn't, but now that I am a mother, I find myself trying to do it as well. It is hard to let go and let someone you love that much go someplace unknown where you have no control over their well being.