We have been dating for about a month and we have been talking about taking our relationship to the next level. I am still a virgin but she has already had sex. I Love her and i feel like i have to do this to prove it. she says that she doesnt want to rush me and she wants me to be ready but i still feel like i need to compete with her ex. im 16 and she's 15, i really do Love her but im just afraid of losing my virginity... what should i do?
2006-06-19 05:26:17 · 16 answers · asked by Tobias 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any 16 year old girl who has to have sex to "take her relationship to the next level" is not worth your time. If you really do love her, my answer is no. It sounds like she is fairly immature and equates love to mean someone that she will allow to have sex with her as long as they do what she says and buys her nice presents.
If you are not interested in a long term relationship, and you are ready to handle the responsibility of having sex, then go for it! A relationship based only on sex can be fun, as long as you understand that is all it is. When you are tired of sleeping with her and want a real relationship, move on and find a girl who is grown up enough to understand love is about trust, respect, common goals and interests, and caring and supporting each other. This girl sounds like a drunken sorority girl or an unwed mother in training.
2006-06-19 05:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never have to prove to anyone that you love them. if you have to ask about weather you should have sex or not then your not ready. if she can not wait or understand that you are not ready then move on cause in the end you may end up resenting her for pressuring her. you are no less of a man just for respecting your body. sex is a gift that you give to someone and you have only been together for a month so stop rushing man, it will be worth the wait. do not have sex with her till you have no doubts.
2006-06-19 05:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by guerisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever allow someone to make you feel insuperior, especially in this area. You are in a very dangerous stage, if it doesn't go perfectly you will remember that for the rest of you life, however, just so you know, most 1st times suck. But don't ever allow someone to make you feel like you have to do it, you will now when it is right and with the right person, this girl is most likley not, you will want someon who is going through the same emotion as you. But then again, maybe you just want to get it over with. Either way be safe, and good luck
2006-06-19 05:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhey... I was your age too and horny as hell.
Bottom line is do it if you want to, and if she's willing. You will eventaully learn that sex and love are two different things.
You don't need to compete with anybody... but why miss out on something that is fun?
Losing yoiur virginity? Unless you're saving it for marriage, what's the difference. Most ppl will tell you don't do it, etc. But they don't hesitate in having an affair when they are married.
2006-06-19 05:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absoulutly no reason for you to be having sex!
are you kidding me??? lol
as a rule of thumb think of it this way....can you aford to have a child? are you ready to give up your friday nights of movies and hanging with your friends? you say you love her, are you willing to stay with her if she has a chile? anr you ready to condem her to 9 months of throwing up and gaining a bunch of weight? how about school? are you going to quit so you can have a job and get a 'family' car? how about her school? not if you are carful there is a very small chance that you will get her pregnant, but are you willing to risk your life on it?
now how about deseases? she has had sex before, i'm guessing with one guy, but what about that guy? how many girls had he been with, and those girls? you know not all deseases show up right away....
don't worry about compitition, wait til you are emotionally and financially ready!
sex is not a game!it's real and emotional and it makes a connection between you and your partner. idealy you should only be with one person, the person you love and want to spend your life with. 16, even 18 is an awfully young time to making life changing decisions. there is so much life ahead of you and lots of time to make mistakes, there is nothing you have to prove to anyone but yourself. be a man of your word, be a man of value!
don't throw away a life changing moment just to prove something, you can never go back.
2006-06-19 05:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking that next step can be very nerve wrecking. It all depends on if you both want to do it. If you don't feel you are ready, tell her that. If she says she doesn't want to rush you then she will understand. When you are ready is when it will happen. My honest advice would be don't plan it..just let it happen when it happens. Always have protection with you, but just let fate take over.
2006-06-19 05:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by <3*manda*massacre*<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it feels right for you then do it, but their other ways to show her that you really love her, you don't have to prove anything to her. But maybe you should wait a little more you only know her for a month get to know her a little more.
2006-06-19 05:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young. You shouldn't have sex to prove something to anybody. If you aren't ready, don't rush it. She should understand and if she doesn't, she is not the right girl for you.
2006-06-19 05:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it. you dont have to prove you love her by having sex with her, there are other ways. plenty of other ways. if she cant accept that, get rid of her, she is not worth it. there are many that have had sex but only a few that havent, dont let no one pressure you. it will happen when you are ready, dont take it upon yourself to do it just to impress someone. good luck ♥
2006-06-19 05:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by BeAuTiFuL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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You guys really need more experiences with life before you become that intimate with another human being. Sex adds such needless complication to relationships, especially when the couples are so young.
I believe your instinct, which is to wait, is correct, and you should follow it.
2006-06-19 05:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by fallenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋