i know when a person has been in a relationship for more than 1 year its considred longterm and your business is there business esepcially if you all share bills, and a life. but my God my man is a looney! I mean i have never made it my business to get so involved with his life that i get mad at things. meaning he gets pissed off to the point of not talking to me when its something he has no business in. he gets mad at me going to college, my church,me seeing my family, he even complians about MY JOB! He gets PISSED off if i have a stain on my shirt? he even gets mad i mean really pissed when the distribute checks every 2 weeks. what is his issue i tell him over and over again to mind his business, and get mad about things he can change but he still manages to find time to argue at me about my life. what is his issue i mean what do i say. i dont bother him about his life becuase there is nothing i can do about it becuase its things that have to be done.
2006-06-19 05:13:37 · 24 answers · asked by gotchafool05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say he has a control issue....meaning he wishes to control you. I would be careful in your relationship with him cause sounds to me he is on the first step.......witch is getting you away from the people you care about and the ones who care about you.....be careful and good luck
2006-06-19 05:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by game_girl35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even want to be in a relationship like that? There are better guys out there, trust me. I was in a relationship (a good one at that) for over a year, but we did argue some. Then I met my boyfriend now, and we have been together for almost a year. He supports me in everything I do, from going to school nights and working full-time, even leaving the country for 3 months when I won't be able to talk to him but every 2 weeks. He wants the best for me. We never really argue, because our realtionship is very balanced.
Please don't settle for someone like that. You deserve better.
2006-06-19 12:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by lledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a bit too controlling and you might want to re-think your relationship before he gets to where he chooses what you wear, who you hang out with when you go places and where you go and IF you can even go. If he won't relax a little and fix his controlling issues, it can only get worse, but he first needs to recognize that he's has an issue with being contrlling. Good luck girl. I'd get out if I were you, but then again, I been there and know how much worse it can get.
2006-06-19 12:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me your man got issues, you might want to take some time out and consider the alternative...leaving. If you have to put up with that kind of behavior this may turn more "combative" later on. Do yourself and him a favor leave or show him the door.
PS. Is he employed with any Law Enforcement agencies?
Good Luck !
2006-06-19 12:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by brooklynbornson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out, he is either too insecure or he is a control freak, and about 1 fight away from beating the sh** out of you. You need to talk to him if you want this to work, if not show him the door. You don't want someone like this. To tell you the truth, most likely he doesn't enjoy being this type of person, but if he does get away quickly.
2006-06-19 12:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit this boy down and have a serious long talk~try to work it out at first, if you can't talk because he gets to angry, then he needs anger management classes~and tell him you need a break!! Sounds to me as if he is on the edge~and could crack any second now~I wish you the best of luck, but don't put up with **** you don't have to, and this you do not have to take!!! :)
2006-06-19 12:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by click 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with him? is it about him or about you? Why do you feel you have to tolerate such beration when relationships should be more about making your life more pleasurable, not less? I believe people should be together because they want each other around, not because they "need" each other there. Usually friends don't hang around each other when they make you miserable....so why tolerate it from a relationship that should be one of the most important ones in your life...your significant other? Your relationship should be one that makes you feel good, happy, secure, safe, loved, and supported......not angry,miserable and insignificant. good luck!
2006-06-19 12:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by rruehlen45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if someone has definate control issues, find out if his father was controlling with his mom. chances are if his father was its likely hitting was included anyone growing up in this situation can do the same to their wife or girlfriend. although he may not be hitting you now does not mean he will not hit you later so be careful. abuse is not ok and it sounds like he is already starting to go there.
2006-06-19 12:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by guerisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you keeping things from him on purpose? Maybe he is sensing that you are and that may be the reason he's getting upset. Otherwise, I'd think about this. He sounds like he's trying to be controlling but you are standing your ground (good girl) -- don't ever let that happen to you.
2006-06-19 12:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but he sounds absolutely pitiful!
Find a man who acts like a man---not like a spoiled little boy who gets mad when things don't go his way.
You can do much better, my dear!
2006-06-19 12:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ginny Lou the Peachy One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋