2006-06-19 04:59:42 · 17 answers · asked by smil3_fo_jaz_daddi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It could work, but I would give it a little more time than 6 months to make such an important decision. A 17-year-old and a 20-year-old are in completely different places in their lives. By waiting two or three years, the couple would be in more similar places in life. If it is true love, the relationship will still be strong (stronger) if the couple decides to wait a little bit. Good luck.
2006-06-19 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread carefully. She has her heart on a very thin string. I agree that 5 months is not nearly long enough to really get to know someone and if they are really determined to get married ask for a long engagement. Also check the laws in your state. Some states will not allow a person under the age of 18 to make the decision to get married with out parental consent.
She is in love and mom's are the last one that need to break you child's dream but you are still her mom and love her. Suggest that they get some marriage counseling from a minister that you all can trust. Make sure that all of you are honest with each other, keeping an open mind, and making sure that love is the reason for the question in the first place.
From my own marriage, 15 yrs and counting, we got married and I was in school. I get pregnant after only 3 months and school was out of the question. Women today must have a quality education in order to make enough money to support their family just in case. A 17 yr. old woman is just not ready to give up that much freedom.
Good luck and blessings on all your decision.
2006-06-19 05:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by alltheextras2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is a very wrong thing because the girl is young and still has her whole life ahead or her. she should just wait for the right moment and first enjoy life and live life to the fullest while you can because then, you are gonna regret it. TRUST ME. i am a 16 year old girl and i am engaged to my fiancee who is 21 years old. he lives with me already in my house and for one i do love him but there are more responsibilities when you have a man to take care of and to cook for him everyday. (which can get pretty boring and tiring) and then when you want to go out with your friends, you can't because you have to stay home with your man because he does not like your friends or he does not trust you. So my advice to a 17 year old and a 20 year old getting engaged is a pretty bad idea. For 1. she is too young and she does not know what she is doing. 2.she is gonna REGRET IT. and 3.maybe she should back off on the whole engagement thing and should just date more and maybe stay with him for a much longer time because 6 months ain't enough to know the man of your dreams and certainly isn't enough time to know that she is in LOVE. My opinion is to hold off and get to know each other better. they'll be surprised what other things they learn about themselves than they thought.
2006-06-19 07:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously ur questioning marriage with this guy which means you obviously love him and it's so wonderful to spend the rest of your life with one of your first loves believe me it's better this way your fresh and your almost 18 no big deal that's like saying I'm 18 should I date a 20.I went out with a 22 when I was 17 my family flipped now I'm 22 and we're still like bestfriends and I actually was messing around on my fiance at that time who was 20 but my family thought he was 18 and now they know the truth and there is no problem cuz I'm over 18 and I lost my virginity to him and we're still goin' strong nothing wrong when the guy isn't just out to use you and when he don't think he's more mature just cuz he's older,if ur responsible it's fine I guess at 17 but not legal unless your parents agree!!
PS Just wait to enicially get married and have kids.I'm 22 and we're still not even preparing for the wedding.Always use protection and do some good things for yourself, make a life that's what I mean by be responsible. We just know we're ready for the ring and commitment now,cuz we love eachother and understand and acccept eachother.Do u ? We haven't fought for 5 yrs.
2006-06-19 05:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by devotion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the best idea. At 17, even though you think you know what you want, you really have a lot to learn. (Believe me, been there, done that!) Once you get into your 20's, you will find out so much about yourself. Plus, you've only been dating for 6 months, that's not that long at all. You're still in the blissful stage of the relationship. If it's meant to be, it will be...don't be in a hurry....
2006-06-19 05:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 17...you have alot of life ahead of you, including college! At 17, your thoughts should be on your career and the road ahead of you, not planning a marriage you might regret. You have only known him 6 months. At your age, that really is not that long. I would reconsider or at least just keep dating. You are too young for a commitment like a marriage and family.
2006-06-19 17:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged at 17 and married at 18. Had a baby and a divorce by 21...Take your time. While I thought I was ready for it we were just way too young to know what we really wanted and how we really felt. I think young couples can make it work, but I advise you to have a longer courtship or engagemnet to really get to know each other.
2006-06-19 05:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by slim122077 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on the two people involved. My husband was 37 and I was 19 when we got married. And we had only dated for 3 weeks! We have now been married 3 years, and couldn't be happier. I think that it is just important that the 2 people are on the same page.
2006-06-19 06:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in life people have to make thier own mistakes , take a look at arranged marriges for example , the people involved sometimes arent even allowed to meet thier future wife or husband until the day they are married. the only thing i can say is shell find out if it was a mistake or not on her own, probably a very quikly , and hopefully not 3 kids down the road either
2006-06-19 05:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jail Bait! It is illegal for a child of 17 to be with a man of 20.
2006-06-19 05:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋