Is being a mother worth it?

Question

I have a son and honestly I can't really say I love him. I mean you raise them, they become teenagers and think you're stupid, and then they grow up and move out and get married and you're left in the cold.

So what is so rewarding about being a mother again?

Whats so exciting about seeing him get married knowing that now he won't ever be there for you because he has a wife. Is that why we raise them, so they can eventually dump us and break our hearts.

Answer 1

The rewarding part comes from the smiles they give you when they are happy, when they are young and rush up to you to give you the biggest hug in the world, when they tell you they love the 'the mostest out of everyone' , and then when they become parents and tell you thank you for all you have done for them, sacrificed for them, and taught them.

Answer 2

being a parent, whether you are a mommy or a daddy is the most prescious gift that anyone can have. It is so hard to raise a child. all you can do is teach them right from wrong and pray that you get through to them. Just asking if being a mother is worth it is wrong. If you get stressed, take a break, but dont ever question the love that you should have for your son. We all survived being a teenager, along with our parents, it is just a stage of life that everyone has to deal with. Just because a child gets married, you arent left out in the cold, it is the beginning of another stage of life. I am closer to my parents now than I have ever been and I am married with a child of my own. Our kids are only small once and we should enjoy every minute that we have with them, not only when they are small, but as adults also. My mom is my best friend.

Answer 3

It is a job and most of the time, unnoticed and unappreciated. All you can hope is that when they grow up, you did all that you could to raise a child that will get married and pass on all that you have taught them. I love my mother and I have been married for almost 13 years with 4 kids. I would never leave her no matter what happened and will always make an effort to see her and talk to her whenever I get the opportunity.

If you give your son the love and attention he needs and deserves, then he should never leave you in his heart. Yes, he will grow up and move on and hopefully have a family of his own and then there is more of "him" to love later. Remember he didn't ask to be here, so why punish him for being here? If you want to know what is so rewarding about being a mother, next time you sit down and look in your sons eyes, REALLY look at them. See all the love that is there for the one and only person who nurtured and cared for him for 9 months. Then look at the belly button and realize that spot is what connected him to you and never forget that it was YOU AND ONLY YOU who could have done that!

Answer 4

First of all, that is the way life is, they grow up, think parents are dumb and don't know anything, and then they get married and move away, but that is not the end, as they are married, they eventually have children of their own and through being parents they realize that you were wonderful and right and realize just what you did for them as they were growing up and believe me, they eventually come around and show you love like you have never seen from them before. I am a mother of 2 grown boys, ages 21 and 24 and my 24 year old is getting married in july and he is just starting to realize all that I sacrificed when he was young and it is all worth it when they remember the little things you did and when they finally tell you they love you and you know it is truely coming from their heart. So, don't give up, Children in my mind are very much worth it and if I could I would have another one. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

How old is your son? If you have a baby, then you need to talk to someone. Your son needs you and if you feel as though you don't love him, you need help for his sake.

If you are writing about a teenage son, then you need to realize that the teen years are rough for almost everyone. Teenagers are testing boundaries and trying to become independent thinkers. Although they may think their parents are dumb, soon they will grow up and learn that parents know a lot more than they are given credit for.

So what are the rewards of parenthood? The list is endless. I can't imagine my life without my three sons...once I had my first, everything in this world was brighter and more exciting. I began to see things differently...the simplicity of a butterfly on a flower outside my window...holidays became more fun...summer vacations took on new meanings. Children discover something new every day and even though I experienced their new 'discoveries' for years before I had them, watching them grow and learn changed me.

I hope that you are able to realize what a blessing it is to have your child. Motherhood is the greatest gift I have been given.

Answer 6

By the time your kids move out of home, you can say to yourself that you have done a nice job raising children. They are finally independent and are not like some people that are 28 years old and still under their parent's roof saying that it is their parents' job to raise them for the rest of their lives. Your son becoming successfully and independent is a reward to you that you have been a good mother.

Unfortunately, everyone have said that their parents are stupid. You can't expect kids to say you are smart all the time. The older they are, the more they have to use their own judgements.

Answer 7

Being a mom is truly a gift. Even if a teenager tends to be on the "snotty" side. I remember being the same when I was a teen. BUT the good thing is most grow out of it. They want their independence and don't want the kind of love and instruction they get from their parents. It's rough but in the end those children grow up and start families of their own. Families that we as parents can love. Just remember that you got to help God in a miracle...Creating your son.

Answer 8

It sounds like your depressed, have you thought about seeing a Dr, and getting some medication. It's terrible to think that you don't love your son. Sure, we all have been a disappointment to our own parents, so why do you think that your child would be any different. Remember that our children did not fall far from the tree. It sounds like you will miss your son more than you let on..Children are not placed on this earth for us to have constant companions, they will start to olive their own lives. How often do you see your parents or grandparents? It could be that you are projecting your own inadequacies on to your son. Maybe you needed to set a better example for him to follow. If you are caring and share your life with your parents and grandparents, then your child will see that as normal, and they will follow that pattern. If your a negative personality, nobody wants to hang around, so try to maintain a positive attitude. Good Luck.

Answer 9

And the Complete and Utter Lack of Reading Comprehension Award for today goes to Tishalynn.
(do some people even read what they're answering?)

I'm a mom and I say it's worth it. Have you never loved your son? Don't you have good memories of his younger years? Sure, teenagers can be a PITA, but he'll outgrow his current attitude and come to appreciate you on an entirely new level.

Answer 10

Being a father, I can tell you it's the greatest role I've ever played in my life. I can't think of doing anything else. My two kids - ages 5 and 7 - give me focus. They were the first born grandkids on both sides, the first niece and nephew on both sides, and the first and only kids from both of us. They are truly the heart and soul in our family.

As for your question, it's really a good one. Maybe my wife - future ex-wife - who is divorcing me and leaving the kids and I should answer your question. I'm sure you'll get a real interesting story.