What should I do? Please help me your opinion will be help full?

Question

I'm a 22years old mother of a 11months old baby girl. I want the best for her like every mother should for their child.
I'm having problem finding child care for my baby.I had a babysitter but I can't afford the pay her price, she want more than what I work for .My daughter father naver do any thing for her he always in and out of jail I can't take him for child support because he don't know how to keep a job.he won't watch her because he always running the street with his friends. All the day care I went to they are book up for a long time, Family also want money I can't afford to pay them.If I don't work my daughter and I won't get by And lately I been taken off because I have no-one to stay with her.My daughter didn't ask to come into this wold so I want her to be well taken care of and not be hurt.another job will mean spending less time with her and she already don't have a father I don't want her to feel like she don't have a mother too.Please give me your best advise
Thanks

Answer 1

You are a wonderful person for looking out for your little baby girl. You are doing the right thing to seek help in your time of struggle. Several have suggested government assistance, which is a good idea to help you get on your feet. Besides government assistance, try a local large church. Many large churches have the resources to assist single parents in making through such difficult times.

You are in hard times and life seems tough, but remember, trust in God. He will help you when you are down, and he will guide you to a man that will be willing to take care of you and your baby. You have proved your strength by seeking help and caring for your daughter. Continue to talk with your family and tell them that you want their help before seeking free government aide. Families usually want the best for their children and grandchildren. Also, try telling your family that the money is not for you but for your daughter.

Keep up the good work and God Bless!

Answer 2

Check with your local community college. There was one school in the area where I used to live (SE Michigan) that had a program for early childhood education. As part of the program, they ran a small daycare center and charged reduced rates. The caretakers change every semester, but it's supposed to be a really neat program. The only thing that might turn you away from this is that most of the girls are pretty young...(18 or 19) but they love kids and babies, or otherwise wouldn't be in this course of study).

How about your mom or a neighbor who doesn't work? Are there any other parents on your block who are stay-at-home moms who wouldn't mind watching your daughter?

Answer 3

I don't live your life, so I can't tell you whats best for you. You have to take care of your daughter the best you know how. I am also 22 years old and have a 1 year old, but I have family support. Do you have any family near you that could help you out babysitting wise. Or with the summer vacations, maybe a teenager wouldnt charge as much for some extra cash...Sorry i couldnt be of more help, I wish the best for you and your daughter.

Answer 4

Check into programs from Social Services, Dept of Human Services, etc but also look for early-headstart. It is a goverment ran daycare for children 6 weeks and up. there is normally a waiting list and the hours are normal school hours but most programs run year round. Looking for a teenager is also a good idea. You might also be able to swap babysitting with a friend who works a differnet shift from you. I did when I was a single mom and neither of us paid the other one we swapped hour for hour. When I had 2 kids, it still worked I just sat for her for 2 hours for every hour she had my 2 kids. She only had one. Talk to some of your friends who have kids. Everyone has a sitter they just LOVE who is worth 10 times more than they charge. You might also find a SAHM who is looking for some extra cash and sit for what you can afford as long as you provide your daughter's snacks, meals and diapers. That is what I do. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

Your situation is a difficult one. I respect your responsibility for trying to take care of your baby girl, but I don't think you are in the place to have a baby right now. This is a very hard descision to make, but maybe you can have your baby stay with some people that you trust until you get back on your own two feet. Adoption is hard for the both of you, but sometimes it is a necessary option. I wish you happiness for you and your daughter.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear that....that is tough...I myself babysit my grandbabies..I only get paid what my children can afford..never a set amount. How about taking care of other children? You will be at home...and also have time with your daughter. You can also try going to your local civic center...ask about affordable babysitters in you community. Good Luck

Answer 7

Go to the Department of Human Services office, they can help pay for daycare, especially if you're the only one working in the home. I know a lady who gets assistance from the government, they pay childcare for her three kids, they pay alomost 12000 for their care, so there are options.

Answer 8

You could try renting a room to someone, in need of room and board who attends night school, in exchange of lower rent for their services. Do your research for screening, to make sure you have someone who is dependable and knowledgeable for any emergencies should they arise. That's all I can think of, good luck!

Answer 9

try welfare and foostamps, im really sorry to hear about her dad hes a jerk and doesnt deserve to be in your lil angels life anyways.also try wic, they will give you the formula to feed her and try churches for clothing, money ext, go to your local department of families and get started on it...good luck and you can do it your a strong woman

Answer 10

you are mnot going to find free child care. have you looked in to goverment assistance for child care. go to the social services office they can help