It seems like an accepted thing for an engaged guy is to have a stag party prior to the wedding with a stripper in attendance putting on a show. Does this bother you, seems to me to be the opposite of what the preparations for marriage should be?
2006-06-19 03:55:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well I didn't think it would bother me but it did. Alot! I guess I was being a bit naive about the whole situation and figured oh its just watching. Wrong! He came home with marker on his body where they wrote on him and lipstick on his chest where she bit his nipples! Needless to say the wedding almost didn't happen!
2006-06-19 04:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal decision. I know some people who say no to topless bars or strippers of any kind. However, I know other women who said topless bars were fine, but no strippers were allowed to come to the hotel room and dance for all the guys. You have to decide for yourself what you feel comfortable with. My husband has a friend whose fiancee told him that he could have certain kinds of sex, but not others (!!). He never did anything at all, but that just goes to show how different people feel differently about this topic.
Here's a checklist to think about:
1. Are you ok with Topless/Strip bars? Yes / No
2. Are you ok with Topless/Strip bars, but not the "Champagne Room" where men have lap dances ? Yes / No
3. Can strippers/dancers perform in his hotel room? Yes / No
4. What is off-limits - kissing, touching, more?
Your fiance should understand and respect your requests, and you should understand and respect his. Do not let anyone (whether it's your fiance's friends, your own friends, or your fiance!) pressure you into something you do not feel comfortable with. This is the beginning of your marriage, and it would be terrible to start off on the wrong foot.
Best of luck!
2006-06-19 11:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a HUGE problem if my husband had done this before we got married! If the guy loves you, why would he want to look at strippers dancing around? There is nothing wrong with going out with his friends, and evening drinking heavily. I just don't think a man about to be married should be ogling some nearly-naked chick.
2006-06-19 13:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like it either. I think it's really stupid and if you're agreed to love and marry someone and only have eyes for her, why would he need it? But, I'm sure my fiance will go out and do something similar and I'm just going to shut up. We've agreed, he'd better not spend any of our money to see a stripper. Other than that, I know he wouldnt do anything more than look, and I know who he's coming home to. In a marriage you have to pick your battles. This isnt one I choose to fight about.
2006-06-19 11:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didnt bother me at all because you have to trust your mate and if you had a party with a stripper im sure he trusted you and yes it seems like it suppose to be the thing to do but sometimes this is the true test of love and trust for a beginning of a marriage
2006-06-19 20:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by 2forme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me.I'm not the jealous type or whatever it is you call that,but hey if it bothers you just find someone not interrested in that deal!Whatever makes you happy! That's what loves all about understanding and accepting eachother totally ,being there for eachother through anything,knowing eachother and making eachother as happy as you could be for the rest of your life my fiance and I use to fight but now we understand that and we haven't fought for 5 yrs.Good Luck!God Bless You!
2006-06-19 11:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by devotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm engaged and it bothers me to think that my fiance would want to look at another girl naked!! I have to agree with you that having a stripper at a bachelor/bachelorette party isn't the best idea.
2006-06-19 11:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by prettycute4u62040 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutely would bother me. I don't understand that tradition, it has nothing to do with getting married. If you really loved someone and wanted to marry them then I don't see why you would need this last night of "freedom"
I am engaged and my fiance and I have discussed that and he is not going to have one because he knows how much it bothers me.
2006-06-19 11:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by kelley2387 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didn't bother me a bit. I was okay with it because I knew that he wouldn't do anything that he shouldn't....my brothers were there as well though so that might be the reason.
But really if you are secure in your relationship which you should be if you getting married then this shouldn't bother you because you should trust him enough not to make any stupid decisions.
2006-06-19 10:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately bother me, getting married is no excuse to go hog wild. My husband opted to not have one, I think it has become a dated thing to do, at least where I am at (West Coast.) That, or if they are looking for an excuse to act like an idiot :)
2006-06-19 21:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋