why am i scared to fight i want to defend myself and others?

Question

people walk all over me and i have so much anger but i cant exspress it i need to learn

Answer 1

I don't know that expressing your anger by fighting is a good thing. The best thing is to be prepared to fight, but to know how to get by without fighting.

Did you see the movie 'Man On Fire' with Denzel Washington. There is a scene where the conversation goes something like this. The little girl says that she is a lousy swimmer. Denzel replies that there are no lousy swimmers, only 'trained and untrained'. Your fear of fighting will go away if you are trained. Take karate or boxing lessons. Good luck.

Answer 2

All young men have a hard time with this until they go through the process a time or two. This happened to my son a couple years ago and this is what I told him to do. He didn't want to hurt the guy by hitting him with his fist and he was very nervous about even being in a fight. I told him it was normal to be nervous and the only way to get over it was to face the fear and to walk up to the guy in school and WITH OUT HESITATION b*t*h slap him as hard as he can across the face, follow it up with at least two more HARD b*t*h slaps, grab him by the neck and put him up against the wall and tell him that if he bothers him again you'll make this look like a picnic. The guy was bigger and older than him so I was a little worried but I knew when it was over, win or lose, he would feel better about himself because he stood up. The next day he found the courage to do it and it worked out beautiful. Not only is the guy still scared of him to this day but he EARNED the respect of everyone in that school and NEVER had another problem with anyone.

P.S. The guy he did that to was a bully. He was teased by other student for about two or three weeks after that and he also stopped being a bully to others. Him and my son are not friends but they do talk civil to each other.

Answer 3

There is no shame in being meek but there will come a day when you must react. You should practice taking your anger out in the form a workout regiment at the gym, practice some "comeback" lines to let those individuals know that you aint the "fall guy" anymore or just simply stay out of the company of those type of people. There is even a website for those individuals that is being bullied (if that's what it is). But believe me, this won't last always. Peace and Love

Answer 4

Perhaps you are lacking a bit of knowledge in social skills. I would suggest joining volunteer work, and or a sport of something you enjoy. The more you get out and meet new people the better. Be clear of your dislikes, and/or rather what you will or will not tolerate as far as behaviours are concerned. There are different approaches to obtaining this...ask for guidance for this by someone you see as a positive role model, and if you don't know of someone like this ask around, but to be safe, do your research. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I think you should find something you enjoy doing, and then use all of that anger to do it. If you find something you do well, you will build your confidence, and it will show in just your mannerisms.

If you choose boxing or karate, they will build your confidence because you will know you can defend yourself, and you won't have to use it. They teach you not to use it to "kick a**", but simply as a last resort. But you simply knowing you could kick someones butt will give you the confidence you need to stand up to people when they walk all over you.

Answer 6

Take up a class like boxing or karate.You will soon build your confidence and the best way is not to fight. Good luck,look after yourself.

Answer 7

Because you are a caring and loving person.keep it that way you are doing great, all those bully will soon back off