well i am in love with my best frend.we have been frnz for abt 3yrs.when we met we all had our love life but now we are both single .we made a vow that we are never to date each other for we know too much abt each other..for the past 4mnths we have been doing it and she still doesnt want want to go out with me .she feels the same way as i do for her and this happens all the time ..i cant seem to get what she wants from this relationship..i like as a frend and so does she but i now want to spend the rest of my life with her but she does not want ..tell what to do so that i make her change her mind ...i LOVE HER VERY MUCH....
2006-06-19 03:09:54 · 21 answers · asked by Funkmaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really don't think there is much you can do, if she doesn't want to go out with you you should stop sleeping with her and tell her if she won't go out with you then you can not continue the relationship the way it has been going.
2006-06-25 09:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by i'm_a_goodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the hardest thing to find is right under your nose and you can't see it. But she will have to figure it out for herself. Maybe she has been hurt and afraid. You say you know to much about each other. She will have to realize that if it does not effect your relationship now, then why should it if you were a couple. You will both know exactly what you are getting into from the get go and there will be no nasty suprises. My husband is my best friend and he knows everything there is to know. It doesn't get any better than that. Just sit back she will realize that YOU are the one that is and always has been there for her. Everyone has to learn from their own mistakes, and if you love her that much you will wait and let her figure it out.
Hang in there my friend. And Good Luck !
2006-06-19 03:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by luv to observe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad thing when love is one sided but you know sometimes it is that way. It is like a country song I heard the other day. I cant be your friend any more.
Sometimes people deny love because they have someone such as yourself in their life and they fear that trying to be more may crush what they have and they could not take losing such a great thing. I personally think you two are too close and it may prove to benefit your relationship if you both spend sometime apart just to see how both of you react to not being around each other.
I know I am not offering a fix but sometimes for many there is no fix just have to accept what you do have and keep it close.
2006-06-19 03:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I have a same kinda situation goin on here, only that i am not sure if my best friend loves me back. Well, in ur case if she is not wantin the same thing then I feel she is not ready for a commitment. Try and talk to her . approach her directly and tell her u wanna know excatly what she wants so u can plan ur course of action further... best of luck
2006-06-19 03:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just need to sit her down and tell her how you truly feel about her and that you know you said you would never date. But you didn't think that you would ever have the feelings that you do for her. Tell her that their's nobody else out there for you except her and tell her that you what to spend your life with you. Its better to be with someone who knows everything about you then be with someone who doesn't. Best friend's fall in love every day. I fell in love with mine and we have been together almost 2 years. Hope the best for you.
2006-06-19 03:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by BabyBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont rush eventually as you get closer maybe she will change her mind or you could just ask her to marry you and see what she says tell her she is the love of yor life and the only girl for you this is how most relationships start out just from friendship maybe she is afraid to commit to a relationship because maybe she has been hurt in the past
2006-06-19 09:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by misty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was/is my best friend when I married him. That's usually better for the relationship. She doesn't want to. You can't make her. Or ask her what is she afraid of. Or maybe you''re both too young. Be patience. Or end the relationship now. It can go either way. Good luck!
2006-06-19 03:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gonna need to put the funk on her funkmaster!! hahaha... just kidding. well i dont think you could make her feel the same way. that's up to her. i think she's just scared though about what could happen to you guys if things don't work out. good for you to want to take a risk, but if she's not willing dont push it or you will push her away. i think what's best is that you should let her know your feelings and leave it at that if she doesn't respond then don't go anything furture and quit doing it with her. that's only gonna cause you harm. anyway good luck....
2006-06-19 03:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously wants one thing from you. i think she is your all to you but had the same been true for her she'd be with you now. you guys are best friends right? so why do you need to know less about each other? draw the line and it will all fall to place. maybe you just wanna have female company and she's the only available one (readily i might add.)
2006-06-19 04:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aye 'tis a pity, she seems to want you just as a friend, maybe she loves you too much and is afraid that if it didn't work out that would jeapordise your friendship and she would lose you altogether. I think you have left it too late my friend
2006-06-19 03:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋