What I mean is, I have a guy that I used to be friends with, and there has always been an attraction between us for years. But we could never quite get it together. Either he was dating someone or I was, and we kind of have that love/hate thing going on where we won't admit how we feel, and sometimes a couple of years will go by before we speak. When we see each other there is def something there. We have mutual friends, but we live in different states, so we don't talk much. Lately I have been thinking of him. Last year he tried to get in touch with me but I was dating someone so kind of blew him off. Now he is dating someone. Is this just infatuation? (I just got out of a relationship, but I'm not the type who has to be with someone). What do you think?
2006-06-19 02:53:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think it is possible to fall in love with someone that has always been just a friend. You know each other so well, you hang out for years...then one day, your eyes are opened to this gorgeous, funny, sweet, sexy creature in front of you. It definitely sounds like you need to catch this guy before its too late!! See first if you can find out how serious he is about this girl he's with now through your mutual friends....then if you find out he's serious, you'll have to let it be....but if you find out he's not serious, call him and tell him you're free and interested. Can't hurt to put yourself out there!! Good luck!!
2006-06-19 02:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible for friends to become more than friends or lovers. I've always heard that you want to marry someone who's your best friend & if you can get the friend thing out of the way first then all the better. I've got a guy who I'm really close friends with & we tease each other that we're going to run off some day & get married. I doubt that's going to happen, but we do think alike, finish each other's sentences, & I kind of have a sixth sense about him where I know what he's doing & what he's up to. We've never dated, or even kissed, but I imagine that if we did there might be fireworks. On the other hand, I hesitate to take it any further because I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I have had other friends that became "more" than friends & we're still friends, so I'd say go for it.
2006-06-19 10:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a friend can become a lover and soul mate but the important thing is to know each others expectations when it comes to the relationship. As a friend he has been comfort for you when you needed a friend and because you just broke up you might need that compassionate friendship at this time. As far as romance is concerned often the best of friends don't work out because you become so accustomed to this person as a friend it would be like dating your brother. It can be overcome but you both have to share your expectations with each other and both be looking for that spark with each other. When you have that you can have a very special relationship. The negative is that if it doesn't work out, many times, you lose both a very close friend and a relationship partner or friend.
2006-06-19 09:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's pissible to be in love with someone in this situation...Why not?? I don't think it's merely infatuation if it's been goin on for this long...Infatuation gets old quick and if this has been ongoing for some years, then maybe it's real...You 2 should just sit and have a heart to heart...If he feels the same about you as you feel about him, then maybe you 2 should be together...Also, you shouldn't ignore the fact that the 2 of you are living in diff states...If noone is gonna be willing to make a move then leave it like it is....There's no need in starting someone if you 2 can't actually be together in the same state...That's like going out and looking for trouble.....
2006-06-19 09:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by mesofemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well anything could happen, and only time can tell. I would say call him and just start talking to him as a friend and build that friendship back up to trust. Then once you get to that point I think it would be a great time to then pop the question. That is if neither of you are dating anyone at the time.
Just remember a few old sayings:
"Only time can tell"
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"
"Good thing come to those who wait"
"If first you don't succeed try, try, try and try again"
"If you love something enough you will let it go and if it loves you it will always come back"
2006-06-19 10:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible, and I speak from experience. I was dealing with the exact same situation a couple of years ago. Just be sure about your feelings and do not do anything until both of you are single. Once you start being more than friends, it is almost impossible to go back. Trust me, I no longer speak to the guy that used to be my best friend and soulmate, much to my regret. Good luck, and I wish you success.
2006-06-19 10:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that you can love someone who has always been just a friend. You marry your friends. I have learned after 6 years of marriage that a successful marriage is one in which two best friends and best lovers married each other.
2006-06-19 10:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jason W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a relationship like that our timing is off neither of us have been free at the same time and the one time that we both were i was heart broken for THE ONE and we didn't do anything and my ONE came back 8 months later me and my friend still 11 years later know there's something but we move around it he's the man that will never hurt me because i'll never date him
2006-06-19 09:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself, do you want to risk causing your friendship with this person to be at risk. alot of times we tend to choose people we know to date, when we are feeling down. I think you are probably feeling the relationship blues and your instinct has you wanting to try your friend, I say, leave it alone and take time to search yourself, and see what did you do wrong in your past relationship before you start looking for another.
2006-06-19 09:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by angel_fire_2149 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that love like that is possible. However, I suggest that as soon as he is available you do something about it... no one guarantees that you will like him afterwards, but I think you need to get it out of your system... you have nothing to loose... maybe you will have a great relationship together, and maybe you will just move on... give it a try!
2006-06-19 09:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋