In 10 months of dating we only argue about one thing, weed. I don't like it never grew up around it or anything. Its been around him since he was 15, I started to nag him to stop doing. He never did this around me and he would tell me when he did do it, only with his friends. I would always call him when he was out with his friends because i didn't want him doing that. Well..needless to say it became old i guess to him, and we broke it off, I am heartbroken, I love him and we always talked about marriage before...I can't believe this happened to us. How can we get back together and help us both work this situation out?
2006-06-19 02:42:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm, well if you love him then gettting him back is not so difficult...even he must be loving you but may be fade of nagging or something...just go to him and tell him how much you love him and care for him...definately he willcome back to you...you are always the best for him....go and just talk to him...
Best luck!!!
2006-06-19 02:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is this my story or what? I was engaged to a weed smoker. I think you did the right thing, although I konw it hurts. You hate the weed for a good reason. I learned a lesson NOT to be judgemental but also to NEVER SETTLE for the best one for you. Of course you love him, maybe you always will but when I let go (we are still and will always be great friends - 4 years later) and realized the lessons I learned and the reason we have likes and dislikes my freedom and learning made the way for the love of my life, my wonderful husband who is weed and alcohol free. Well, we like a glass of wine from time to time. You did the right thing. LOOK FORWARD. Don't look back. You'll heal and be better off without the guy as your main main, but love him better, too as a friend. Sorry about your heartbreak. That special guy is waiting on you so be sure to keep your head up.
by the way, it is an expensive habit, too if you ask me and illegal at that. I have friends and family who smoke but don't want it in my daily life whatsoever. Funky stuff!
2006-06-19 09:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the question should be - does he like smoking weed, more than he cares for you? Here's why... You brought up a valid argument, since you weren't raised around it at all, and you certainly don't approve of this type of behavior (Good for you!). You know that it's not healthy, nevermind the fact that it's illegal also! You've shown him that you care for him, by attempting to get him to quit, yet he will do so only by his own choice. Don't lessen yourself, or even compromise your situation. Even though you may have strong feelings for him, could you honestly see yourself in a marriage with a man who spokes weed? What if you're pregnant, and he gets picked up by the police and hauled away to jail? Stick to your guns, though it may be hard to do. You've got a good head on your shoulders! Don't settle... Just give these feeling that you have for him time to pass. In time, you'll find a nice guy, who's completely clean, that can make all your dreams come true, just like you thought this guy could have. Good luck!
2006-06-19 09:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun, I hate to break this to you, but the problem is on you..and Im not trying to be rude or hateful here..
You cant change a man to make him the way you want him to be, no matter how hard you try r how much you nag and give ultimatums..
You will have to prove to him that you will tollerate his actions or just leave him be and find yourself another lover..
Remember, the feeling of wanting a person back happens everytime a relationship ends, and you will get over it soon..
I think you should get out and find someone else first just to be sure you really want him back, you might forget about your pot smoker..
Good Luck..
2006-06-19 09:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! You asked him to stop the weed, and he didn't. He's probably never going to stop. Think for a second, what happens if you have kids, he'll probably still be on the weed, and think of the kids. Do you really want your children to be 15, 16 years old, and taking drugs!? To me, it's rediculous, but it's your decision.
2006-06-19 09:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Shy n' Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a pothead, he will never care about anything more than his pot. YOu will never mean nearly as much to him as his pot. Most likely you won't get him off it, more like you will make him do it more. Move on. There are over 3 billion male humans in the world, he is but one. There must be a guy out there for you to help you be happy. Life is too short not to be happy.
2006-06-19 09:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by spudric13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this guy has chosen weed over your relationship. I think that says enough. I would go ahead with my life and get to know other men. There are some really amazing guys out there.
If you don't set absolute boundaries in your relationship you'll always stay in that awful gray area...
2006-06-19 10:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by islandg*rl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't break up over weed , a lot of normal good people smoke weed , would you rather him be an alcoholic , or crackhead . it is sad if he is adicted but atleast he has the safest addiction compared to alcohol , tobacco , and drugs . you should talk to him about and ask him are you having fun now and will stop when we start a family or is this long term
2006-06-19 09:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it... He's hooked on the weed... you just need to let it go... because you're going to get mad at him for smoking... and he won't stop... it may hurt to realize it but you need to move on...
You can't just expect someone to change their habits... You should have tried to stop it when he was 15...
2006-06-19 09:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by TrippleThreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Lovely is wrong- it is a BIG deal! It is illegal, it is nasty, and it can lead to other things-
2) He will only quit if HE wants to-
Don't give in! If anything you deserve better- he will only drag you down with him besides if you do cave in, get married and have kids (if his sperm is already not depleted) would you want them around it??
Best of luck!
2006-06-19 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he should have the sense that if you don't like him smoking weed, that he should stop, well if he actually loves you, and you guys should sit and talk about it, you tell him everything that's on your mind about your relationship, and you listen to his side....
2006-06-19 09:49:49 · answer #11 · answered by Jeremy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋