Should I go after the girl of my dreams after all this pain?

Question

Im 17....young yes.... Ive spent the past two years trying to get over this girl.... Shes cheated on me.... least 6 times that I know of... shes led to me.... she dissappeared for a summer and came back with a boyfriend.... then played with my heart for a while longer...then after she told me she wanted to get back togather with me and she missed me and all that lovely stuff and we seep togather she tells me shes pregnant with the other guys kid...Now after about two years Im still not even close to over her...I mean I have like four girl falling at my feet wanting to be with me, but none of them fufill me...not the way she does...I love her, and I cant help it(Beleive me Ive tried to stop) and I cant forget her and she just makes everything feel alright and I cant wait for tomarrow when I know Ill be wking up next to her and I miss that soo much...really I guess what I feel for her is love...real love plain and simple...Is she worth going after or should I try to get on with life...

Thanks for all the input... I suppose your right that I shouldnt let her walk all over me, and that, basically, I shouldnt let someone mean that much to me when I obviously dont mean much atall to them.... But Id be lying if I said I didnt want to Ignore what the majority of you are saying and go after her anyways.... I guess I feel like in the end dignity.... pride.... pain... all temporary.... all superficial... but love seems to me worth risking everything for..... ut like some of you have pointed out, thats probly just my heart talking without my brain....Im so out of my element with her..... Normally Im calm and confident... I love yes, but normally I dont care about anything enough to worryor lose my cool....around her I just cant think..... I dunno.... Anyways Im rambling..... Thankyou allfor your info and pinions and thankyou to anyone who posts from here on out.....

Answer 1

u should ask yourself honestly what u really need, don't just listen to your heart. Sometimes, we may spoil our mind to do what we want. Temporary pain is okay, but think seriously about long term pain. Be practical boy!

Answer 2

No, you can't forget her. It is impossible to forget your first love. But just because she is the first, that doesn't mean that she is the right person for you. She has already proved that she is dishonest and disloyal, a game-player and a drama queen. She has hurt you before and will continue to do so as long as you allow her to. She won't walk away from you because she enjoys the attention too much -- but a craving for attention is the opposite of love. It is all about HER, not YOU.

While you may always treasure the memories of the good times you've had with this girl, you deserve someone you can love who will feel the same way about you. That means trust, respect, kindness and understanding. It is time to move on. The right woman is out there somewhere, and she's looking for you, too. Open your heart and allow her to find you.

Answer 3

Well honey you are so young, but I know you must love her. Believe me I know the pain of trying to get over someone. But sounds like she knew you would always be there so she just did what ever she wanted. I think you should date these other girls they can help you get over her if you try to occupy your mind with other things besides her. I know its hard and especially when you are alone and at night its hard. But each day will get easier if you really want to get over her. She has cheated a lot on you. And she knows you will take her back thats why she does this. Maybe if she thought someone was taking you away she would wake up and see what she has. I know you are probably afraid to tell her there are others who want to go out with you for fear of her telling you to go and get lost but please don't let her just run over you. You have got to dig deep down and say I can do this and don't think about her so much if you start thinking about her start thinking of someone or something else. You know we all want something that we can't have. I feel for you so much because I have been there and it does take a long time but thats where the healing starts one day at a time. And each day you don;t talk to her you will get stronger. Give the other girls a chance!! Good luck

Answer 4

honey do you have a tatoo that says "DOORMAT" on you somewhere? Stop letting her walk on you. Life is too short to be that unhappy and you will be unhappy again. Have you heard the saying you cant ever go back...well you cant, it will never be the same again. You are young and you will get over her I promise you will, and you will move on. When you get over her is your choice. After you have been treated like crap and cheated on it leaves a scar on your heart that may never be healed but you have to be 17 and get out and do things that guys your age do and you will meet the next love of your life. Do you want to be a Dad to this kid and wonder where she is all the time and who she is with? Cause that is what is going to happen. It boils down to this who do you love more...you or her? if you answer her then you have deeper issues. Good luck and if you need any help email me. Rosie

Answer 5

If your love for her is strong enough for you to deal with her cheating on you, you taking care of other men's children, her leaving you and coming back, her telling you that she doesn't love you when she's with you, but that she does love you when she's away from you; if your love is strong enough for you to deal with the pain in your heart, the pain in your stomach, the pain in your head, the bruises to your self-esteem and your ego that you will take from this woman until she is ready to really get rid of you-then I say GO FOR IT. Everything above is what you are in for. I am assuming that she is the same age as you and really this girl is not a bad person, she's just young and doesn't know what she wants. If she's older, then she knows better. The bottom line is how much are you willing to put up with. And, not to be cruel or crass, but take the sex out of the equation when you think about this decision.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear that babe but you have to move on to teach her a lesson that you don't play with people's heart like that and that you're not going to be there all the time to pick up the pieces for every mistake she has made you should try going out with one the girls that like you you never know that one the girls could be the one for you look at it this way what goes around comes around if she does this to you someone is gonna do it to her okay sweetheart I'm not saying it's not gonna take time to heal it is but try to have relationship with someone else cause she is no good don't worry there's always someone who will love in the end so don't be to hard on yourself it's not working out with this girl who is cheating on you cause there's always someone who is right for you, you know why she keeps doing this to you cause she knows that you will always be there for her when you lay down some rules like if you keep cheating I have other girls that will gladly take your place and that your not going to always be there for her I know it is hard cause I'm in the same situation but it for the best that you find out now than later where it will be very hard for you to get over her it is hard now but you will eventually get over her every time something goes wrong in her relationship she's gonna keep running to you instead stop taking her back okay try to feel better all this is only for a time

Answer 7

if she cheated on u more than 1 time u sould let her go, 6 times is just to much, she doesn't love u and doesn't care about what u think, unless she wouldn't hurt u like that. u don't hurt the people u love, and she doesn't love u. i think its lust, cuz it goes back to people wanting what they can't get. go and find someone who loves u and doesn't take u for granted. let her know your past her, so she will be the one begging to come back to u, and don't take her back, cuz shes just gonna do the same thing she did before. i'am 17 also and we have a lot of time to find true love. and its only natural that u are thinking about her cuz u guys were together, but once u start going out with someone else for a while i promise u will forget all about her. and if it gives u closure get back with her then break up with her, let her know u don't need her to be happy
HOPE THAT HELPS: GOOD LUCK
I LOVE AND SAFE LIFE

Answer 8

man ill tell you now. no woman who has as little respect for her self can have any for others. get over her as best you can and move on. But if you truly love her be there for her when you can but dont go out of your way to be close to her. Give her space shes obviously not into relationships like you are. Let her know what shes been doing hurts and you cant put up with it ne more, while still letting her know she has you as a friend there to help her if she needs it. And whjo knows maby when she gets here head straight she'll realize you really care and shes the one missing out.....NOt You.

Answer 9

Try to get on with your life. If you were feeling real love then you both would love each other not her playing with you all the time. I think you are feeling more of a huge crush. I would try to go out with someone else instead try all you can to forget about her.

Answer 10

get over the chick. she messing around with other people. if she dont fell the same way you do, you cant make her love you. she is not going to do nothing but bring you more hurt. leave the chick alone. let her do her thing and if she realizes that them other guys is there only to use her, she will leave them alone. but get over her, dont try to get some other female to fill her space, take some tme for yourself and figure out what you can do for yourself b/c you dont always need somebody hanging on your side all the time. once you find yourself and realize there aint too much that she is doing for your good, you will leave her alone. keep your head up and get on with your life and pursue what you want to do with your life cause she aint it.

Answer 11

what your feeling isn't love it is called battered puppy syndrome. she mistreated you from the start like smacking your nose with a rolled up newspaper. She used you and played with your emotions. This girl is not someone you should be with. You can get over her if you think of how bad she has treated you and start respecting yourself. sorry I know this is not what you were looking for but look dude selfrespect mean a lot and you really need some quick.