did i do the right thing breaking up with my man.?

Question

when we met he lied about somethings , he said to keep me. he told me he had cheated on his last girlfriend with his buisness partner who is a female. as time went on he called me his exs name.there were other things as well. but the day i saw a pic in his phone of his buisness partner in between someones legs , need i say more. he swore it wasnt him.that day i smacked him , i know that was wrong but damn.three weeks later while arguing he smacked me. he said it was an accident. and in between all of this the ex was calling him 2- 3 in the am.not all was bad in our relationship and now i feel like i made a mistake breaking up with him and i am blaming myself . help please.

Answer 1

Once a Sucker , always a Sucker, You did a right thing. Move on now.

Answer 2

U already know the answer to this one. But if ur still doubtful about ur decision... Doubt means Don't. Go with ur instinct. I think ur doubt is caused by ur fear of being alone. I went out with a jerk for a long time, knowing that if another man came along I wud dump him like a hot potato. I sacrificed my happiness just bcoz i wanted 2 be in a relationship. I got rid of him eventually. Get a book by Myreah Moore called 'Date like a man to get the man you want'. The minute I put the book down, I picked my phone up, and dumped my ex! I don't settle for any less than I deserve either!

Answer 3

You did the right thing.He already had sex with his partner,got a pic. of her between some one legs even if was not him why would he have that on his phone instead of a pic of you smiling or something and the only way a man should be putting his hand on a woman is if his life was in danger of her smacking is not being in danger of his life and to caress the woman he is supposed to love.

Answer 4

You did the right thing. I know you might doubt it sometimes, it jus seems easier to go back doesn't it?? Think about how u felt when u saw the pic, and about his ex calling. Do you really need this drama in your life. I was in the same situation but ignored all the signs. 3 months later, she was pregnant with his baby. No need to tell u how i felt. I wouldn't wish that feeling on my worst enemy. Stay strong.

Answer 5

In relationship there is no reason to cheat...It is a matter of love and trust...

You dont have to feel bad with yourself nor self pity. Remember you did your best and still those things happen. Realize your worth. Be grateful that you knew him earlier, rather than later you will have regrets that he makes your life miserable.

Everything has a reason. It happens to me before...believe me, God sometimes makes things for us to realize everything but its always for the better. He will not give us something that we are not able to handle with. He will give things even it will hurts you so bad, but in turn, he will give you the best when you least unexpected.

Just learn how to forgive and to forget. Move on.. try to make yourself busy and preoccupied. Time will fly, you will never notice that you forget him already. You will just laughed and thankful for what happen in the past that made you strong.
People come and go..you just need to learn how to let go..
Its difficult I know..but its just a matter of time..

I hope this helps. it happens to me before, now Im happily married...

Answer 6

Let me get this he lied on you and smacked u and u still want him. Kick him out of ur life and move on. Life goes on. Come on. U also said that he cheated on his gf what make u think that he is not cheating on u as well. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 7

Two things, one is that you are not entirely telling the truth up there in your story and maybe you did annoy him to the limit and maybe he was telling the truth and now he is totally committed with you, if so than you certianly did make a mistake. and maybe he did become decent and more honest

On the other hand if that is not the case and you were being reasonable, and what you told up there is true, than you did the right thing.

Answer 8

you so did the right thing. i was in an abusive relationship too, both physically and emotionally abusive. you do not deserve that treatment. do not let any man treat you like that. you are worth so much more.

why the hell do you blame yourself? the only mistake you are making is wondering whether you did the right thing! belive me, you are well rid and you should be thanking your lucky stars you have the courage and wisdom to know right from wrong.

Answer 9

Why in the world are you blaming yourself!!!! Listen, you can do whatever you want, but don't lie to yourself. You know that this guy is garbage. He does not want to be with you, he just wanted to add you to the women that he already has. Obviously, he is still sleeping with his business partner AND his ex (if she's calling him at 2 in the am, he's sleeping with her). If you want to continue the drama-go back to him, but if you want someone who cares about you,-don't torture yourself anymore by being in this relationship quartet and believe me you are in a relationship with the other two women.

Answer 10

I think you were right to end things, things shouldn't become that tangled in a relationship. There should never a question of someone's trust and when there is, it's time to go. Sounds too weird a situation to stay and deal with, you made the right choice

Answer 11

No, I think you did the right thing. I think he was cheating on you and how do you smack someone by accident? Did he have his hand up and you walked into it? Tell yourself you deserve better and move on.