Can a healthy love relationship begin with sex?

Question

Does anyone have a healthy love relationship that started with sex on the day the two of you met? I'm interested to know whether it can ever work out. I appreciate that a lot of relationships start with both partners being unequally into each other. If this is followed up immediatley by sex, can the relationship survive or even thrive?

I guess it can happen if both partners want more than just the one night. What if one wants more and the other isn't bothered? What are the chances of persuading someone to go out with you by getting them in the sack?!

Answer 1

12 years ago I decided that I was going to get ahold of this one guy I knew but never really paid any attention to all that much. We went to a hotel and he rocked my world and I guess I did the same for him and we have been happily together ever since.
My logic on relationships and sex is you should try it before you buy it. Example you could be in love with someone for who they are but after you are married and have sex if your partner is not just as hot or as cold as you are the marriage will end up down the drain. In other words if the sex is no good the relationship wont be good either after awhile. So its better to get a sample before you make that commitment. But to each his own. We all think and do things different so you should do what you feel is best and what makes you the happiest.

Answer 2

We can never tell..

Relationship takes a lot of hardwork. It is a matter of compromise. Although you begin with sex or not, its not the way that it goes.. It is something you feel about him./her.

Yes sometimes, we misunderstood our feelings that we love the person, because you want to make love with him or her. But later you will find out that its just lust not love why you are being together..

There is something to the claim of fundamental compatibility. Good people can create a bad relationship, even though they both dearly want the relationship to succeed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from t! he outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly in the early stages.

Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of little things by which relationships eventually survive or fail. You need to find a way to see beyond this initial overwhelming sexual fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see what is on the other side.

This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others deny the sexual side altogether in an attempt to get to know each other apart from their sexuality. But they cannot see clearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps them from having any normal perception of what life would be like together.

The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long-time friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get to know each other's laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see each other at their worst and at their best. They share time together before they get swept up into the entangling intimacy of their sexuality.

This is the ideal, but not often possible. If you fall under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to look beyond it for other keys to compatibility. One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy each others company over the long term.

If your laughter together is good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise. If you can make each other laugh, you can always surprise each other. And if you can always surprise each other, you can always keep the world around you new.

Beware of a relationship in which there is no laughter. Even the most intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the world tends to turn you against those who do not share the same viewpoint, and your relationship can become based on being critical together.

After laughter, look for a partner who deals with the world in a way you respect. When two people first get together, they tend to see their relationship as existing only in the space between the two of them.

If your partner treats people or circumstances in a way you can't accept, you will inevitably come to grief. Look at the way she cares for others and deals with the daily affairs of life. If that makes you love her more, your love will grow. If it does not, be careful. If you do not respect the way you each deal with the world around you, eventually the two of you will not respect each other.

Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteries of life. If one of you is deeply affected by the mystery of the unseen in life and relationships, while the other is drawn only to the literal and the practical, you must take care that the distance does not become an unbridgeable gap that leaves you each feeling isolated and misunderstood.

There are many other keys, but you must find them by yourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our hearts that we will not betray and private commitments to a vision of life that we will not deny. If you fall in love with someone who cannot nourish those inviolable parts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her, you will find yourselves growing further apart until you live in separate worlds where you share the business of life, but never touch each other where the heart lives and dreams. From there it is only a small leap to the cataloging of petty hurts and daily failures that leaves so many couples bitter and unsatisfied with their mates.

So choose carefully and well. If you do, you will have chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and then the real miracle of marriage can take place in your hearts.

If you believe in your heart that you have found someone with whom you are able to grow, if you have sufficient faith that you can resist the endless attraction of the road not taken and the partner not chosen, if you have the strength of heart to embrace the cycles and seasons that your love will experience, then you may be ready to seek the miracle that marriage offers. If not, then wait.

Answer 3

I would say no but my brother and his wife are blissfully happy after 5 years and they started that way!

Answer 4

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