ok say you are in love with a guy who is in love with you!! he proposed and you said yes!! but the problem is that ur parents and his parents can't stand u 2 being together and will stop at NOTHING to end ur relationship! u are 18 and u both are planning a long engagement to finish school!! what would yall do?!
2006-06-19 02:08:16 · 17 answers · asked by NC_baby_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes this is the situation I'm in and I was wondering what would yall do!
2006-06-19 02:08:52 · update #1
I would go through with it and marry the guy.
2006-06-19 02:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by rkroxmysox915 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ride out your long term engagement. As time passes they might back off if they sense you're building a stable relationship. 18 is awfully young to be getting married & even though it's just a long term engagement and you'll be older by the time the wedding actually happens, they still feel it's too soon for either of you to make such a commitment. Remember, the divorce rate is currently at 52% in this country. Put your self in their shoes. But if you're really in love and feel it will work, well the long term engagement is a good start to proving to them you're both committed to making work in sound manner.
2006-06-19 09:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead with your plans. It is not your parents that have to live with him for the rest of your life but you, and he makes you happy. By the time you finish with your school you will know if he is the right guy for you. So keep up with your plans because they are very smart to get the school done before you settle down into marriage life. Your parents will eventually get over it if they see you still happy after you finish school. Sit them down and ask them why they don't agree with you two getting married in the future. Then tell them why you want to marry him after school.
2006-06-19 09:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by mrsrhondamcdowell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am just asking you a question, which could be complicated for you. but your answer will give you the solution of this problem.
close your eyes and think deeper from your heart who had given you the real love that boy or your parents??????
you says you are of 18, 18 long years you have received so much love from your parents after this you are going to shake the whole faith of your parents for a boy. THINK
if your love is true you should have to convince them
it is easy parents are always happy when their children are happy
they understand you more than you because you are a part of their soul.
there is always a reason behind any kind of yes or no.
DO YOU KNOW THE REASON????????
if not THINK and try to know it
you will got your answer if your love is true
i will pray to GOD to fulfill your wishes
2006-06-19 09:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way I see it, his parents are not marrying you, and your parents are not marrying him. they really have no right to make a fuss. years from now, long after both your parents are gone, the 2 of you will still be around and have each other to deal with. It is your decision entirely! All this parental disagreement is a waste of time. they should congratulate the 2 of you for what you have decided to do with your life. Just try your best to let their criticism go in one ear and out the other. Hopefully in time they will embrace the idea, all will be well. when they see you are serious, what choice do they have? stand your ground and do what your heart feels is right. best of luck to both of you :)
2006-06-19 09:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndaly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to marry into each others relatives, whether you want to or not. Why do they not like each other? Is it unresolvable? Let them deal with it. Go for the long engagement. Smart thing to do. Get a college degree first. Do not say anything bad about each others parents. Joke about it, if you must.Over all, I'd follow my heart. You're an adult now. Good luck!
2006-06-19 09:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. I am sorta going through that as well. Me and my gf are not engaged though and i sort of get along with her parents and she sort of gets along with mine but there is some dissention and feelings of bitterness.
I would pretty much just go with my heart really. I think if you and your fiance really care about each other that much and want a life together, you need to both tell your parents that, maybe even together and say look if they truly want look out for your happiness, they will learn to get a long and will support you and him.
2006-06-19 09:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by cj b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day, you are grown already. You should make the decision you know is right in your heart. If you listen to your parents, and let him go, could you ever forgive yourself? What is the worst that could happen, they are right? At least you would have taken the chance and known for yourself instead of letting your parents know for you.
2006-06-19 09:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Pimp_Slapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is all said and done what matters is whether you are happy. But is there a reason that your parents hate you two being together? They may be trying to protect you, I would talk to them and see what they have to say.
2006-06-19 09:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by beccasmom1224 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise decision to wait until after school, you'll both be a little more mature and will know for sure what you really want from life.
2006-06-19 09:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that you are now an adult so you can make your own decisions. just tell you parents that I am adult and you can't make my decisions anymore. now if you still live with your parents then you need to move out and start living your life and not having them live your life.
2006-06-19 09:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋