how the kids got influenced their behaviours and physiological mental well being when father is away from the family for overseas assignment for long periods may be 10-15 years but often visits them may be once in a year spending one or two months with them away from kids -changes in their behavioural patterns
2006-06-19 01:24:14 · 7 answers · asked by just 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
All children need the controlling influence of a parent, whether it be a father or mother.
I had been a youth/community worker for many years, dealing with mostly boys and occasionally girls. The contrast between those who had a stable home life with both parents at home and those where either parent was absent [especially the father] proved to be a telling factor.
2006-06-19 01:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many families whose father's have to work overseas and come back on leave and then go away again Two of my friends have fathers who work on oil rigs. They don't feel abandoned, they know that is what their father does for a job. As long as the father keeps in touch and the children know he loves them I think things should be OK. If the dad has just gone off then that is different.
2006-06-19 08:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by happyjumpyfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not ideal, is there no chance of the family travelling with the dad, trying to keep the unit together. Kids need routine and consistency in their lives, failing that, the parent who is on their own with the kids must be stronger, Mum and Dad to the kids. Not their friend but their parent. Not an easy option.
2006-06-19 08:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10-15 years is almost the whole life of a teen.
No doubt they feel abandoned. They may not feel they are worthy as a person or their dad would be around. The oldest boy may feel he's the man of the house now. They may even feel irritated when he does return for visits.
2006-06-19 08:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend was working 2nd shift for about a year and I saw a dramatic difference in my sons behavior. I can't imagine 10-15 years and only seeing him once or twice a year. That's like visiting a relative you never really see. Good luck.
2006-06-19 09:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids fell abandoned when one parent has to leave and they will act diffrent to you there kids and they grow up so fast and since you are fighting in the war comes concern worry that something is going to happen maybe the kids act diffrent to you because they are affraid there not going to have you around they could be affraid you will die and not be able to come back
write them every chance you get call them let them no you love them
2006-06-19 08:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got to see my dad once or twice a year for a day or two at a time. i have an idea of what the kids are going thru.
they don't have a dad. you had a sperm doner.
what do you expect? if they are raised without their dad, then they don't have one.
2006-06-19 08:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋