My dad and his wife aren't exactly slim, so it seems like helping her lose weight isn't a huge priority for them. I was "chunky" as a kid, but not nearly as big as my half-sister is. She's 13 and if I had to guess, weighs about 220lbs. I know how much it sucks to be ridiculed because of being overweight; I just don't want her to endure it for the rest of her life. Any suggestions for how to seriously approach the topic?
2006-06-19 01:17:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous 20-Something 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you and your step-sister start an exercise routine together? Make it sound like you're the one who wants to do it and invite her to come along. Start out by walking. This will give the two of you a chance to bond and talk about girl stuff. I think she probably knows that she is overweight and probably doesn't know where to start. Good luck and best wishes!
2006-06-19 01:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your sister is well aware of her weight condition. This is a hard thing especially for children who get made fun of by other kids who are just cruel. Your sister has to want to lose weight on her own first and realize it is a problem. But you can't push someone into losing weight. You should be her support and maybe try to diet and exercise with her. Ask her to go for a walk with you and start doing more activities together. This is going to be a hard thing for her to talk about with you and she will probably get upset. Just be there for her.
2006-06-19 01:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Durty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kids have alot of dissapointments today and they have alot on there minds, So you need to be careful. Doesnt sound like you live at home so invite her for the weekend and do your daily exercises (Inviting) her to join you. Be health consious with her (not overly) SHOW HER how to develope better habits. Take some time have a "make over" weekend...get her feeling good about herself first. Then if she doesnt approach you just keep working in that direction. If you don't want to spend the energy KEEP YR MOUTH SHUT!
2006-06-19 01:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are overweight I suggest for you and both you and your sister are to go and exercise 5 days out of a week for 30 minutes to and hour, if you think you can go longer than that time, go ahead go for it. More excercise, the more healthier you'll get. With all that weight on you puts strain on your heart which is not good. Good luck...and get some exercise.
2006-06-19 01:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a first step do some fun and simple ways to lose weight with her technically knowing, just be like " oh do you want to go and swim?" then you can do races and so on. you can also ask her if she wants to go walking to some place.. instead of going in a car, then you can start to run - or jog. then after about a month of doing that, just be like wow you have really lost weight, maybe we can go for a swim or a walk, then you will be looking better then ever..or something like that. that's how i would do it.
2006-06-19 01:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Burple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her councilor. Talk to her and see how she feels about it. Don't put her down in any way. Let her tell you what what she thinks. By talking without telling her what to do you may learn something about her personality that helps keep her fat. Help her with these problems and you will help her for life. Especially young girls that are much over weight have underlying problems that have to be addressed first. Be her best friend.
2006-06-19 02:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Honest its not her fault it seems to be bad nutritional practices buy the parents which are usually the cause of obesity if she dose not do something about it no body else can do it for her and at 13 she has plenty of time to get her act together, sometimes it is better to be cruel than kind
2006-06-19 01:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by John B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt bring it out of no where,start talking about maybe something new the gym has,or the pool.if you dont have that
maybe for a holiday or just a present buy her a workout machine
not the expensive kinds,i know theres one where you can just by like ab workouts etc.but they know they are overweight,so they wont be to surprised.i think they will listen,and you should also say something like "mom((or dad)) since you think your overweight((sigh))i bought you a pass to the gym,or a workout set.((or you can say)) maybe we should go on a run,to the park.walk the dog.go on diets and start a new family workout shecdual.i think they'd like it,and appreciate it
2006-06-19 01:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by ooh lala x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always approach my son with the health issues of being overwieght. i let him know that you live a long healthier life the better you take care of your body and i let him know some foods just are not good for you. so he thinks i really preach the health issue but all at once we're taking care of his wieght issue. he is a growing boy and i think he will sprout up this summer, he will be going into the 9th grade this year. when you have an only child at home it is hard to not over eat. they dont have any one to share it with. at that age it is good to show them what portions are, so they dont over eat.good luck
2006-06-19 01:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should start by asking her how she feels about herself? If she says, she's not really confident or happy due to her weight, tell her that you can work on it together start a training program and healthier diet, encourage her all the way, tell her how beautiful she is, have pamper parties with her, and build up her confidence, once she starts feeling better about herself, she will want to keep on looking good and taking care of her body and her health....
Good luck! and take care
2006-06-19 01:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamonsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋