Although pleasant people, I find it difficult to truly enjoy the time at the inlaws. I feel on duty all the time, not fully relaxed. Am wondering about finding hotel or B+B accomm for a change and hope that won't put anyone out. My husband regularly tunes out to read the paper + leaves me to do the talking although I have asked him to get involved. I am not a good morning person + miss my own routines + space. Too many little outings is tricky with our young baby. Though these are just a few days each time it's a regular. The time can drag. Any tips to make the best of it + get some personal space in the mix?
2006-06-19 00:30:55 · 12 answers · asked by sweetpeachmummy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What about seeing if they would like to spend some alone time with their grandchild. Bring the baby for a walk or to the park or something. If their typical grandpartents who doddle of their grandchild they should jump at the chance. That way you get total you time and they're occupied.
2006-06-19 00:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by allenlynn23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can simply tell your husband that you WILL get involved and balance this out, and help make my time here more comfortable, or I will not be joining you. Two things that I didnt learn early enough in my marraige...that are sort of contradictory but still true: You are an adult and are your own person and there is nothing wrong with feeling like you feel. Everyone feels more comfortable at their own home or with their own family. Your inlaws would feel the same at your house, so don't feel bad about it. Secondly, think about what exactly it is that bothers you there.....perhaps you could try more to embrace their way of living a little bit more and break out of your own routine for a short time? Flexibility from EVERYONE is key here. Plan some alone time while you're there, maybe something PRE-planned so no one can protest....go shopping or something to break up the day. And is there a reason they can't stay in YOUR area instead? Remember....just because they're older than you doesn't mean you can't still do what you feel is best for yourself, as long as you're still being warm and friendly and helpful and flexible while you're there.
2006-06-19 00:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 01:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a motel room there is nothing like having your own space even if it is for only a couple days cause of money or whatever why visit them let them come to u sometimes expecially with a baby. Ask them to babysit
2006-06-19 00:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that worked in my case was not to visit them at all. Let your mate visit his parents without you. Why set yourself up for grief?
If you must go, take along some projects to work on or books to read to keep your interration at a minimum. These are ways I survived forty one years/
2006-06-19 00:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how about you trade off with your hubby. Tell him one morning he has to deal with the parents and the next morning you will deal with the parents. This trade off will allow for one day of rest at least. Or tell the in laws very kindly (especially if they are retired), that you don't mind doing things for them, they just have to fit in the schedule after your morning routine and that you promise to do what they want but some of you needs have to be fulfilled too. (But be polite and sugar coat it).
2006-06-19 00:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hotel sounds like the best way to go about it.
If they get upset about it, tell them your baby is fussy at night & you don't want her/him to keep them up.
As for the outings, just say you would rather keep the baby from riding in the car all day due to the heat.
2006-06-19 00:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take shorter but more frequent trips. Take small gifts that you know they will enjoy and you can enjoy with them. Offer to cook for them. Tell them what makes you uncomfortable if all else fails. I had a weird relationship with my former inlaws but it got better when I found common ground. Good luck.
2006-06-19 00:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local bar and drink heavily, I am sure that you will enjoy time with your inlaws a lot more.
2006-06-19 00:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by skyyn777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a dash of "wake and bake" in the morning....and then a pinch of vodka and oj to take the edge off.....just kidding.....try intercepting the morning paper and make you husband talk by asking him open-ended questions or by asking your in-laws direct questions about him....best i can do, hope it helps.....
2006-06-19 00:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋