Should you return gifts from your boyfriend after you break-up?

Question

My boyfriend bought ame this really cool phone that I had been saving up for for months when we were going out for no reason other than to just shows he cares.We'd been together for a year before we broke up about a month ago and just last night he gave me this really expensive pocket pc/pda from hp that I've wanted for ages saying that he bought it for me before we broke up and he wanted me to have it.Should I take the gift?Should I return the phone as well?

I broke up with him by the way.

Answer 1

It really depends on how you feel about using these things knowing that he bought them for you. It sounds like he may have bought you the last gift in an effort to win you back. If you don't feel right, you can box it up and leave a nice note saying that you don't feel right accepting this gift, and your love cannot be bought.

Answer 2

It all depends on your situation, if you meet with each other often in church or at school, I think it would be better for you to return the gift. Because it will be difficult for you not to think about him when you will use the phone or pda, and one day you will feel lonely and call him, and the whole thing will start all over again. So if you have firmly desided to break up with him it would be better for you to return the gift. (If he loves you he will not take it back, but you should do everything from your side to make sure that he doesn't have any emotional attachments to you, at least you will stop dreaming about him)

Answer 3

No, by custom and law a gift becomes the property of the reciever.

The only exception would be an engagement ring, which is for a commitment of marriage, and must be returned after a break-up!

Answer 4

I hate to say this but if your ex told you that you're too jealous and clingy then he must know what he's saying.
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Anyone that goes out clubbing just to see what their ex is doing or drive by his place at 7:00 a.m. to see who's there tell me that you need to work on something. I don't think that you are only jealous but also possessive. And if you don't change that then you will never get your ex back. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to mean to you. I only want you to see what you are doing is so wrong. You have to admit that you are jealous and clingy. If you can't admit that then you'll never be able to fix the problem.

I understand that you don't like it if he dances and flirts in front of you. But guys are guys. And many guys don't see anything wrong with this. I know you feel hurt if he does that in front of your face. And it is disrespectful. But there are ways you can talk to your boyfriend if he's flirting while he's with you. You only have to tell him that it hurts you and that it's disrespectful and then ask him to stop doing it when he’s with you.

I don't know if getting back with your ex is going to last because now you have two problems. You were having problems with him because of his flirting and now you will have another problem because of this girl that he's going out with. It is eating you alive that he's involved with this girl and you know he's probably sleeping with her. How are you going to handle that if you get back together? Because of your jealousy and your insecurities are you going to be able to forget that he was ever involved with this girl? You really need to work on this and make sure if you try to get him back that you never again mention about his flirting or this girl. You can mention one more time how his flirting affects you but it has to stop there.

You asked how do you compete with the girl he's involved with. I looked at the picture and I can tell that your ex knows how to go for beautiful girls. So that give me a clear picture about how you look. I have a feeling that you are also very beautiful but for some reason I don't think you see yourself that way. The only thing I can tell you is that your boyfriend did not leave you because he didn't love you. He left you because of your jealousy and because you were clinging to him. If you love his as much as you say you do then fight for him and get him back. And if you do get him back then make sure that you can promise him that you will no longer be jealous, clingy or insecure about your relationship with him. If you can't promise him that then you may as well forget about him because it won't work if you don't change,

Answer 5

Gifts are gifts, you get to keep them. If he gave you a promise or an engagement ring you should return it/them because it was you who broke the promise, anything else is yours to do anything you see fit.

Answer 6

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 7

I say keep the phone, don't accept the pocket pc/pda. Tell him to return it and keep the money but thank you for the gesture. The phone he gave to you when u were dating and I think he'd take it as an insult if you returned it. Just my opinion though.

Answer 8

He gave to u as a gift so it is yours. U like it you keep it. Simple as Home Made Pie. Hope that helps good luck

Answer 9

Since he just gave it to you just prior to the breakup, you should return it. Other gifts given may be kept.

Answer 10

its nice of him that after broke up also he wanna give u that gift...that means uu ppl still in love....anyways here question is whether u shud return it or not...so acc to me...what all u already taken shud keep as his memories....but now dont take anythg...