How do I deal with my mom, I HATE HER!!!!?

Answer 1

Y do u hate her?is she ur step mother?if not then she loves u no doubt ......whenever she scold u next time try this...just keep quiet and listen to what she is saying beleive me after sometimes she will
keep quiet and she'll realize that u r a good daughter.And remember obe day u'll also become a mother of someone so dont hate ur mother or ur kids will hate u in future because TIT FOR TAT

Answer 2

When I was growing up, I hated my mom. She was a psycho. She used to punish me in extreme ways that weren't necessary. I was never a "problem child". I never did drugs, never got in trouble with the law, never "hung out with the wrong crowd". But despite being a reserved person, nothing I did was right in her mind, and she felt she needed to punish me all the time. If I tried to address this with her, she just got mad, saying I was making things up. Basically, the only thing I could do was live by her rules until I was 18 and I moved out. Now I don't see her, I don't talk to her, I don't have any contact with her at all. I've completely removed her from my life, and all of my friends say I'm a much happier person.
If the reason you hate your mom is because she caught you stealing the family car to go buy dope and now you're grounded, then you're just a brat. But if the reason you hate her is because she doesn't listen to your cries for help and mistreats you, then you need to confront her. If she refuses to be confronted and denies a problem, then you should probably talk to friends or a councilor about your problem. If you hate her because she is abusive, and physically hits you, then you need to call the police.

Answer 3

Excuse me -is this the person who carried you for nine months and gave birth to you ; raised you and gave you unconditional love ? You might want to rethink your behavior ; and when you reach maturity , you will have cooled down and learned to handle your emotions .A lot of teens think they hate a parent at one time or another in their lives-however , they don't broadcast it to the universe ; and it is just something that will soon pass .Try to get a grip on your emotions and discuss your problems calmly with another close family member . Sometimes parents are under a lot of stress , which may make them seem cruel or heartless .That is not always the case . Wait for a good moment when you & your mom are getting along particularly good-then talk to her about your feelings .Your mom was a teenager once herself- Good Luck & watch out for predators on the internet who are looking to pretend to help troubled teens . Do not meet anyone on the internet , or give anyone ANY information about yourself . Talk to your parents or grandparents .STAY SAFE !

Answer 4

Be mature. Write her a calm letter talking about what exactly your issue is and what solutions you propose. See what her response is, and then go from there.

It's hard to give more advice when you don't talk about what the actual problem is. If I'm correct in assuming that the 94 in your username means you were born in 1994, I'll add that everyone has problems with their parents in their teen/preteen years. You just put up with the friction until you're old enough to live on your own, at which time it will be a lot easier to get along with your mother.

Answer 5

Dr. Cohen-Sandler: I had been seeing adolescent girls and their moms in therapy for about 20 years at that point. One of the things that struck me is that teenage girls have a very difficult time acknowledging, much less dealing with their anger and other strong emotions. And, the mother, historically, had a difficult time dealing with the same issue. In this culture, women are socialized not to make waves, speak up, and to swallow their voices in order not to make waves. However, during adolescence, it becomes a problem because girls so often take out their anger and disappointment on their mothers. And mothers feel ill-equipped to manage their daughter's anger.

Moderator: Why do they take their anger out on their mothers?

Dr. Cohen-Sandler: Because their mothers are their safest and most available targets. Because girls know that if they express anger at their teachers or especially at their peers, they will be shunned. But their mothers, who love them unconditionally, will not, for example, tell everyone else in the family, "she's a loser, don't let her sit at the dinner table!" (Laughs!) And so girls know that they can express anger towards their moms. But moms need help to figure out how they can best teach girls to channel their anger constructively. This is important as girls grow up, leave home, and form relationships. Mothers want their daughters to speak up, to protect themselves in relationships and to be able to express anger constructively so that they're also not inciting violence.

Moderator: Do girls get the message that mom will take it?

Dr. Cohen-Sandler: Exactly right. Because moms so often feel that if they deal with the anger, and heaven forbid, they should have some of those same feelings toward their daughter, that they're being 'unmaternal' or not a good mother. I once had a mother, an educator, with two teenage daughters who asked me, "Do you ever get angry at your children?" I fell over and said, "Of course! By the hour!" But she was shocked because in her mind, anger was synonymous with being a bad mother. The important thing for moms to know and to teach their daughters is that anger is a perfectly normal human emotion. And that if you're in a close relationship with someone, it's probably inevitable. But you need to know how to handle the anger so that you can stay connected in the relationship and not harm the relationship or the people in it.

Source:http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=54003

Answer 6

I realize , that this might be very hard 4 u to believe . But , when you finally grow up a little & maybe have kids of your own . You will start to see , just how special your mother is , and that you were lucky to have her !~
My sister the rebel felt this way about our mother while we were growing up , and now they are so close that it isn't even funny ! You will just eventually get to a point when you can see that everything you thought that she was doing to you , she was actually doing 4 u . She wanted to make sure that you were safe , in this great big horrible world .
You know , it sure is funny how we are all in a great big hurry to grow up , and then when we do ... We wish we were little again !

Answer 7

When I read your question,my heart felt like it was breaking.Why do you hate her? I know there were times when I was younger that I would get mad at my mom,but looking back she was only trying to keep me safe! The kids that haven't experienced near death situations in their lives don't have that 6th sense developed enough to be fearful of certain people,places or actions.That's why we have parents,to protect us.I realized all this too late.It wasn't until I was standing beside my mom's coffin that I realized how much she had given up to provide for me,how she had worried to the point of being sick about my safety,my happiness.I hope you don't go through the pain of being too late!

Answer 8

well ya shouldn't hate your mom. hate is negative, and shouldn't bve involved in your life, esp with your mom. you can disagree with her..or maybe not even like her too much..but hate.
so i'm going to assume you are going through the teen phase with her, and if that's the caswe you need to learn how best to communicate with her, and talk with her about the things you guys have between you. you only get one mom, and she might not always be there. a lot of people would give anything to have their mom back..don't waste yours.

Answer 9

Why do you hate her? Does she hit you? Verbally abuse you? Did she kick you out the house? I find it hard to believe that you can hate the very person who gave you life. Wouldn't you agree? If she's strict, then prove to her that you're trustworthy, and then slowly(but surely)she will grant you the freedom you desire. But "hating" someone only puts more pressure on you. So stop hating.

Aria

*The illnovelist*

Answer 10

I used to hate my mom to. I've done everthing that makes her crazy just to annoy her. Until one day when I got into MAJOR trouble.. and the one who come to my rescue is my Mom.

Try talking to each other. Keep calm. STOP pointing fingers at each other. You'll be suprise what both of you can work out.