Im white and my girlfriend of 4 years is white but I am becoming so attracted to black girls its crazy. They have such nice bodies and are so good in bed. I feel guilty because I cheated on my gf 3 times all with black girls. She found out recently about one and she's devestated but i dont want to lose her.
2006-06-18 19:39:40 · 17 answers · asked by ray c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think the race of the girls should matter, personally.
It's just the fact that you've cheated on her that is the sad part.
You've got some relationship issues,
Be honest with her, and tell her.
2006-06-18 19:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hilary B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are not willing to make the relationship with your girlfriend, exclusive. You need to just tell her that you are not ready for a more deeply commited relationship. She certainly deserves better after putting up with you for 4 years. Your interest and lust for black girls, is probably your way of not commiting to a more serious and permanent, devoted relationship with your girlfriend of 4 years. Do the poor girl a favor. Break it off with her as honestly as you can. Unless you really want to try to work things out. If that's the case, please get some professional help together. You two need better communication skills. Black girls being better in bed is your excuse for not trying to deepen and enhance your already existing relationship. Perhaps you should have spoken to your girlfriend first, about trying new things in the bedroom. Spicing up your relationship in a secure and trusting environment. And by the way... Good sex is not exclusive to any color, nationality or culture. It comes from open and honest communication with someone you feel comfortable and safe with. Maybe in time you will come to realize that what you have right in front of you, (meaning your girlfriend, and the last 4 years), could possibly be the best thing that ever happened to you. Good Luck.
2006-06-19 09:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look man, you must come out and tell her the reality even if it approach shedding her. That is simply the outcome you deserve from your bad behavior. Take delivery of that you simply did wrong and maintain the consequences. When you really like/love her, then you wouldn't have completed it, and her leaving you is not that unhealthy. Later on, that you could go with the black females all you need and get that out of your method. Or that you would be able to make a promise to your self and her that you're going to be loyal and now not cheat and see if she forgives you. But initially, be sincere. 3 times is 3 too many, and in the event you've already done it taht many, you are going to most of the time do it again.
2016-08-08 22:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose her than knock it off.
If you cannot be faithful - then have the balls to tell her you want to sleep around with other people. If she is not cool with that then she will let you know.
When you have this crap out of your system, maybe she will take you back. If she is smart she won't. Once you have been a cheater, is hard not to think you can do it again. Is very hard to expect this woman to ever trust you again.
Try to figure out what it is that is lacking in your relationship that is making you try to satisfy your needs elsewhere.
If you cannot be faithful to her, she deserves to be cut lose from you. You are being selfish and abusive as long as you keep indulging in this activity with other women.
2006-06-18 19:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by tumnjun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to lose her....but you'll cheat on her and risk losing a four year relationship for some ***? You don't want to lose her....but you want the best of both worlds?
She's white, and that ain't gonna change, my friend. If you're finding yourself attracted to black women, then you need to let your girlfriend go. She deserves to be with someone who can treat her with respect and remain faithful to her.
2006-06-18 19:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fake question. Why else would you bring up the race of anyone supposedly involved. Get a life. If you are being serious, then you are way to young to not only be on here, but in a relationship. Do your school work.
2006-06-18 19:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by driver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is why are you cheating on her regardless of race
that fact that you not honest with her is the real problem dont you
think, if you are attracted to other women, then the answer is simple leave the girlfriend, she deserve better than that, after
4 years. get a clue.
2006-06-18 19:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for other girls then it's time to end it. You can't do that to your poor girlfriend, it's not right.
If you cheat on her it's not worth it and it's really just time to end it or stop cheating on her.
2006-06-18 19:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dpnt be selfish if you really want a black girl go find one dont string your gf along
2006-06-18 19:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by soberjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't wanna lose her then STOP cheatin on her!!.
but if u don't wanna be wit her and wuld rather be wit black grrls then just tell her its not workin out and that u changed...
its not right to be wit her and cheat whether its wit black grrls or not!
2006-06-18 19:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋