I know somone who has had plenty of previous relationships most of which were just sexual attraction even a fair few 1 nighters & multiple dates at one time most of which never lasted one lasted for 4yrs, I know this person to be very perverted minded towards the opposite sex, now she has met someone that she thinks is the one says she loves him vice versa, has only known him for 3months she is 30 he is 19 10yrs younger than her she has a child from a previous relationship which lasted 2 weeks, he comes from different country & is geting married in 2weeks so he can stay here what do you think?
2006-06-18 19:28:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like they are going to have an interesting relationship. The fact that he is so much younger might be a problem later on, and the fact that he's from another country might also create a cultural divide. Is he marrying her just to get citizenship?
2006-06-18 19:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if love is blind, that friendship closes its eyes and lust makes us hallucinate.
She is obviously not stable enough to be making a decision about marriage in the early stages of this 'relationship'. She sounds like she may suffer from borderline personality disorder (http://www.bpdcentral.com/ ) .
This person is not making a wise decision. I do not think anyone should get married to help someone stay here. He should do whatever it takes legally on his own to find a way to stay here so that they can develop their relationship and then marry her when he is a citizen to prove to her he is not into her just for the green card so to speak.
She is vulnerable as an older, single mom who has had unstable relationships and is dysfunctional in her sex life. He is sharp enough to know how to prey on this and take advantage of this in her. It is sad. It will not work out. It is enevitable. If you care for this person at all - it is your obligation to tell her the way you see it and warn her you are worried she is heading for hurt and devastation. It is hard enough to be a single mom without being divorced multiple times. And if he has any debts or problems of his own - she will inherit them once her name is tied to his. Also she may be investigated by the INS for fraud if the marriage is a sham in their eyes.
2006-06-18 19:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by tumnjun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a marriage of convenience.He needs her as a wife to enable his coming here and establishing a residence,she probably is in need of support for her kid! It'll never last!
2006-06-18 19:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they're getting married for a green card and probably it's none of your business.
2006-06-18 19:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it.... obviously they both will be getting something out of it and will not likely appreciate you saying anything about it. Good luck.
2006-06-18 19:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is also using her.
2006-06-18 22:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are going to have some obstacles to deal with if they do get married.
2006-06-19 01:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by dari98dae99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they'll be on Jerry Springer in no time.
2006-06-18 21:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by soma_0806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you say anything she will hate you so just let it go. its her life just be there to help her pick up the pieces when she needs you.
2006-06-18 19:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by nis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is going to merry her for his biz not for love.
2006-06-18 20:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sajis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋