My dad works, but on his days off he gets drunk.. We usually end up fighting while he's drunk. About 2 years ago he went to an alcoholic annonymous meeting and he stayed sober for about a month.. Then said he was only going to have one beer, then he went back to his normal routine. He always starts arguments with me when he's drunk about little things and ive told him he has an alcohol problems, and he also knows that he does and he won't do anything about it. Some of the things he says when he's drunk are really hurtful and i'm actually relieved by the end of the night when he's passed out on the chair or sofa.. I think he drinks because his mother had alsigma's, and couldn't remember who we are when we either rang her up, or went to see her.. she died late last year and his drinking has become more and more out of control.. i usually ignore him now, when he's drunk but i just want him to stop! What can i do.. I'm 16 also and ive always thought about moving out of home.
2006-06-18 19:25:34 · 14 answers · asked by #.::PenguiN::.# 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a recovering alcoholic and have not had a drink or illigal drug in 5 mos. yippee. There is nothing you can do about your dad's drinking until he's ready to do something about it, unfortunately. Somewhere along the line he's going to hit "rock bottom" either emotionally, physically, or with the law. sometimes this will be enough for someone to seek help from AA, sometimes not. But what you can do hun and need to as soon as possible is join a group called Alanon. It's for family and friends of alcoholics. i think you can do a search for www. Alanon. org and then look for a # or meetings in your area. If not it should be in the phone book. If not call social services. But don't give up until you can get to some alanon meetings, it is essential if you ever hope for any kind of normalcy in your life. I am truly sorry about your problem and the problems I have caused my loved ones just like you. I wish you all the best and thanks for reaching out and not reaching in and giving up. there is help out there for you and your dad. May God bless and keep you.
2006-06-18 19:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by gideonkiteon 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
It's unfortunate that you are dealing with such a difficult situation at home. Have you thought about gathering family and friends to do a possible intervention with your father? If that doesn't work, or he is unwilling to seek help, then I would seriously look into moving in with a relative or close friend. Also, check out this website for more info:
http://www.nacoa.net/impfacts.htm
Best of luck to you!
2006-06-18 19:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right answer probably not there for your question. Well, leaving home in this age. where you need to concentrate on your study would not be a wise decision. You can just threat (only) him when he is sober. See the reaction. do it but stay with your relatives with out telling him. you can try few things emotionally else you can't stop him. It's he only who can stop himself
2006-06-18 23:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by chupke chupke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I"m sorry to say there's nothing you can really do. Have you heared that saying "You can't help some one if they dont want the help." He is using alcohol to cover his pain about his mother. Maybe you can try family counseling, dont throw it at him will he has been drinking, do it when he is sober, if you ask him when he has been drinking he will just get mad.
2006-06-18 19:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts when the people we love, and sometimes admire turn into monsters that we often dont recognise. I left my partner cause their drinking problem was out of control. I think that u need to do whats right for you. You might really love your dad, However your mum was your loved one as well.
2006-06-18 19:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and catch him if and when he is sober. have talk to him about how he upsets him, you need to be supportive of him and try to help him through it. If he doesn't acknowledge he has a problem there isn't much you can do.
Click the link to find out more about alcohol abuse; you will find it helpful when you speak to your Dad
2006-06-18 19:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by idontknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do to stop him from drinking. he has to do it himself. you can tell him how you feel when he's sober and then stay out of his way when he's drunk. good luck and don't go down the same road as him.
2006-06-18 19:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you're in ANY abusive relationship, get out as quickly as you can. In this case, you may seek help from relatives to intervene, or social services. Your safety and well being is more important than any trouble you could bring him.
2006-06-18 19:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by truthyness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know drinking will never bring his mother back so its better he stops drinking or u threaten him that if he doesnt stop, u r going to leave home and im sure he doesnt want to lose u.
2006-06-18 23:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call alchoholics anonymous and ask them about ala-teen. It is a program for kids of parents like yours and they can help a LOT!
2006-06-18 19:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋