How unfortunate girls can get a boyfriend?

Question

Why do guys have to be so superficial?

I think I am a pretty nice girl, I listen and I care and I respect people and I even pay my way. But I don't look the greatest. So to get to the point, I don't exactly have guys hounding for my number. (Unless you wanna count this old drunk guy at work that was at least twice my age.. lets not go there).

Guys- Any suggestions to the unbeautiful girls on how to get a guy?

Please no rude comments, lets be adults here.

Answer 1

I take it that the "just be yourself" stuff isn't working. If not keep at it because you will get someone to notice you soon and you never know...it might be who you want to notice you. Just be a friend at first and see where it goes. I know one day someone you like will like you back for who you are and not for what your not. Continue to be yourself and you'll find that great guy out there. Just keep looking in the right places and he will show up.

Answer 2

Stop thinking of yourself as unfortunate. Instead, do what you can to make yourself more "datable". Imagine you're on a reality TV dating show, and have to follow all the silly rules that the hosts make up.

- Join a new club, team or class (language classes are good- just rent "Italian for Beginners", so are cooking classes)
- Read the newspaper every day so you can chit-chat about current events
- Vary your daily routine by taking different routes to and from work, going to different coffee shops, shopping in a different grocery store, etc.
- Do what you can with what you have, in terms of your appearance. Get a fresh new haircut and some new lipstick, or invest in a great pair of (comfortable) sexy shoes
- DON'T ACT DESPERATE or you'll just end up getting used

I usually get hit on every time I leave the house. It can be really embarassing. The other day I got hit on by TWO guys in the produce section of the supermarket after asking where to find jalepeno peppers! I once asked a guy for directions on the bus and he leaned over and kissed me on the lips (YUCK!). You get my point. Walk tall, have something important to say, and look the best that you can. Putting "the best you" out there in all sorts of different situations means that sooner or later you'll definitely meet a great guy.

And let him pay on the first date! See the first link below for info about a funny new show on this exact subject- start with the "drop the hanky" advice. The second link shows makeovers- girls who went from "so what" to "whoa!"- you can too!

Answer 3

Sure, I'll give you the same advice I give everyone on here, how to read body language is the key to success in dating and getting the attention you want. Quality comes from a little work on your part.

Don't hate the player, join the game.

Buy this book by David Lewis. Body Language. It's the best on the market. It may be hard to find, but simple techniques you can you for any situation. It's not how pretty you are, it's how approachable your become.

I should teach a class on this topic.

Answer 4

OK. I understand your problem.Now, Its as simple as this. It doesn't matter if you're not the hottest chick around.But, what does matter is the way you carry yourself.Tell me, Whats the use in having a great body but being dumb?The most important thing is that, you should hang around a lot more with boys.Talk with them even more.Now,I am telling you a guy's point of view.If I see some girl who looks decent (not bad at all) but she's free and cheerful, not dumb or rude, I will definitely ask her out.You see, you just have to make some minute changes and thats it. You will soon see tons of guys around you.

Answer 5

Well, not to be rude or any thing but, you need to change-up your hang outs. Go to church(we real men go to church), museums, sporting events, 24 hour fitness(Bally's)any gym, buffets(we eat alot plus it's easy on the wallet), Home Depot(Lowe's), and maybe, just maybe a mall. Once you're in these situations you have to use you 'God' given 'acting skills' to catch one of us. A woman who at least attempts to show a little interest in what it is we are doing(tearing up/if it's a home project)peaks our intrest. Now, you shouldn't show that you know everything about what we are doing(save that for later)because too much would make us feel inferior and chase us away. That's one thing a man can't stand is being showed up by the opposite sex - especially if she's trying to get close. Slow it down, be patient, and always - always be tactful.

Answer 6

First off, how is you personality? I know you have had some hurt and disappointment, but do you harbor that feeling when you go out? If you do, we will pick up on it as it comes through on your personality. Secondly, what do you like to do? What ever it is go to things involving that scenario. If you are an avid pet lover, donate time at a shelter, you will run into people who share the same passion and you now have common ground. Be confident in you, if you have confidence it will make up for what you think is lacking in looks. As I matured, I realized personality is where it is at. You will find someone, I guarantee it.

Answer 7

A face is just a face unless it has a smile on it. Be happy. There a lot of things worse than not being with the wrong guy. Try not being patien for the right one, that sucks. You want a smile, sit on the back of my bike and forget about life for a while. Having the wind in your face while floating across the land answers a lot of questions. xoxo

Answer 8

I'll agree that most guys are superficial. Have you tried joining church groups or other organnizations? Also, I believe that everyone has something beautiful about them, so try to accentuate the positives. Dress in clothes that make you feel sexy ( or at least some sexy lingerie under your clothes). If you feel better about yourself you will be more confident and that may help you attract more men. Hey, confidence is sexy too.

Answer 9

Where are you finding all these superficial guys? Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. If you go out looking for corn flakes, that's what you will find. Beauty comes from within. If they can't see it in you then you don't want them anyway. Please don't give up hope. You're guy is out there! You just have to look a little harder. Try doing different things, going to different places. I bet he's out there looking for you too!!! If it's worth having it's worth working for. Good luck in your search!!!!!

Answer 10

I dont look for external beauty first... if your special guy comes along ( he will) he will love you for who you are, try hanging out with a mixed group of people you can be yourself with. At school usually i find 2-3 girls who i get along with in class and i fist start off slow but then flirt before during and after class, if i get a positive response i usually continue. You girls confuse guys alot since you send out mixed messages alot. I mean i havent even bothered asking ne girl out cuz i couldnt tell that they were interested. Make it easier on us guys ! Hope this helps! Email me ne time [e-mail]