im 13 and if I were pregnant and wanted to keep it a secret from my parents and hve th baby what should I do?

Question

have and keep the baby without my parents finding out.

Answer 1

The only way to do this is to leave home. I don't recommend this course of action though. I suggest you go see a religious leader or trusted adult and explain you feelings on the matter. Maybe a school counsellor. Then have them tell your parents because eventually they will find out unless you ran away, which would be a very foolish thing to do.

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Answer 2

I am guessing this is just a hypothetical, this is not real. Right? Because if you are 13 and pregnant, you have to face some major difficulties and you need adult help. Adult. It may not be your parents but you are going to need adults - no matter how grown up you are feeling, the system is not set up for you to have a baby at 13, care for it, support it, and keep it from a large segment of your family.

Let us suppose we have a heroine in a story who is a very smart 13 year old and her father raped her or would kill her if he found out about the baby. Let us also imagine her mother is zoned out on drugs. However, the thirteen year old firmly believes that to have an abortion is wrong. (I am not arguing THAT case, just supposing).

First thing is the girl has to get away to somewhere safe. She will have to get access to a doctor for periodic checkups, she will have to get food and vitamins, clothing, enough rest and exercise. Maybe there is a sympathetic aunt and uncle who could be sworn to secrecy. This couple of providers are going to have to be saints and strong minded. Thirteen year old bodies are not meant to carry fetuses to term. It is going to be rough.

There are some "homes' where a girl can go to have babies but they are usually set up to put the child up for adoption. Check that proviso first before you sign in.

The girl must leave her home probably before her third month. Symptoms become pretty obvious. That means leaving school, friends, family. And understand, the parents are in the rights (and if they are caring they SHOULD) to get the police out looking for their daughter. Minor children are by law wards of their parents. What this pregnant teen is attempting is against the law, do you understand that?

The question, even assuming the girl can safely deliver the child, is supporting the child. How will she an under-age minor make enough money to pay for the hospital fees, the doctor checkups, the diapers, the food? Babies are expensive. And right after having a baby, taking care of a baby is a full-time job.

Babies do not give you love, you understand, they TAKE love. They take attention, even when you are sleepy, tired, headachy, hurting, you have to take care of the baby. When you would love to go out and have fun, the baby is there and needs your help. It is not like a kitten you can leave in a box, babies die without supervision.

One might also ask: where is the father of this expected miracle? Where is the man who is half this child? What support and help will HE give?

You do need more help and counseling than Yahoo Answers can give you. There are groups like Planned Parenthood, some church support, your doctor, women's clinics (look them up in the phone book yellow pages). Talk with them.

And our prayers are with you. I assure you, none of us absolutely know what to do. Just hoping you find the best way for yourself. Wish your parents were more helpful.

Answer 3

If for some crazy reason you did happen to hide a pregnancy from your parents, you still should not deliver a baby all alone. Something could happen to you or the baby.
Give your parents a little credit. For all you know they will be helpful in finding a good solution for you. Remember, you were a baby once and your parents took care of you. I would be honest.

If you feel you can't do that... There are resources for unwed mothers in every area. Look up in your local phonebook the health department and ask them for a contact number for a resource center. They are completely confidential (which means they cant tell anyone). And they know how to help you make a decision. They can help you get FREE medical care! FREE maternity clothing. FREE baby clothing and supplies. They can help you find adoptive parents. HElp you find housing until your baby is born. There are lots of resources for people in your shoes.

Keep in mind that your parents might be upset and disappointed but that you are still their CHILD and they love you.

Answer 4

Being pregnant at 13 is really tough.Your body is going through so many changes right now with you going from being a girl to becoming a women.And even though you may not want to tell your parents about being pregnant, once you become a parent there is nothing more important in your life as the life of your child. They are going to be mad,because you are still their baby but if they are like my parents were then they will help you with whatever you decide to do with your baby. Good luck

Answer 5

Wear really baggy clothes while you are pregnant and then after you have it keep it in your closet with a piece of tape over it's mouth so they can't hear it cry. Don't let it move around or make any noise. If you do a good job then maybe it can be through college before they even find out about it. DUMB ***! If you had to ask a question this stupid then you are NOT ready for a baby. What are you having sex at 13 for? Shouldn't you be playing with dolls?

Answer 6

Honey they'll know, they'll know!!!!!!!!!!!

If they pay any attention to you what so ever they'll know.

If you are already pregnant talk to your mom, right away, she'll scream and yell and cry but in the end what's done is done.

Then she'll take you to a doc and make sure things are OK with you and the babe.

If you're not talk to her anyway, tell her your sexually active be honest, ask for birth control pills or condoms, have her take you to the doc to have an exam to make sure you're OK.

Never lie to your parents and never hide things this big from them they can help and they're only worry will be what is best and safest for you.

And never have sex WITHOUT a condom, the fastest growing age group contacting HIV are teenage girls.

Answer 7

Um... I don't think that can be done... if you ran away, any offical help you could get (shelters and the like), would have to find out why you ran, and if you and the child wheren't in danger, tell your parents. You could run to other family members, but that's still dangerous... If you had a psychologist or doctor, MAYBE they could help because of confiendtiality, but again, you're a minor. They'd need good reason to LEGALLY keep your secret.

Answer 8

The most important thing is that you need prenatal care. You need to strat seeing an Obstetrician and if you are on your parents insurance they will find out. They need to know. If they are not supportive there are different avenues to take.

A good friend of mine was date raped and was able to hide it until her 7th month. Her parents noticed she was gaining weight and staying to herself, which was not her. She had not been to the doctor. Her baby was born with all kinds of complications. Her parents ended up adopting him.

Regardless, there is no way to have a child and them not know. They are your parents and need to be involved in your life. You have to take responsiblity for your actions. Anyone who has sex has to be willing to take care of the "what if's". You made an adult decision way before you should have, and now you have to grow up and face the music.

Good luck

Answer 9

Its not going to happen. Your parents will have to know, since they will have to be the ones who sign you into the hospital when the baby is due. Do yourself a big favour, and go to a doctor as soon as possible, and possibly take your mother with you.If you are afraid to tell them, do so in front of the doctor. They won't do anything to you there. Believe me, you are going to need your parennts' support to get through this, both emotionally, and financially. By the way, even if you mange to conceal your pregnancy, you won't be able to explain where a baby came from.

Answer 10

Gosh, can't believe u had unprotected sex in the first place, at your age!! You r a BABY!! You will not be able to hide a huge big belly from anyone, let alone your parents. Sorry to say this, but if it's not too late, have an abortion. You have your whole life ahead of you, and u must realise how silly u were to let yourself get in this situation.