my mom is really upset!?

Question

well i told her i have a tattoo....butterfly.... and she got really mad and said that her opinion doesnt count at all and how dissapointed she is and how she doest want to be seen with me in public now...and if im doin drugs which im not...and 2 do w/e i want from now on....so i tried talking 2 her but she just said that she doesnt like tats and how could ive gone and got one sice i knew she disaproved but it doesnt matter if i like it i guess....so yep i dunno wat else 2 tell her now....and no im not a minor.....any suggestions....

Answer 1

Wow.. Sorry to hear that.

The only thing you can do it tell her that it is your body and you happen to like tattoo's. Tell her That you are sorry for disappointing her and making her feel that way, But that if a picture on your body is going to make her feel that bad, then your relationship must not have been as great as you thought so to begin with. Make sure she has had ample time to cool of first!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I understand your mom's feeling about this. My daughter did the same thing.your mom knows that the tattoo is there forever and one day when your older you may regret getting it. My daughter already does. But your stuck with it. It's so much more expensive to get them removed then to get them put on. Then you still have a scar where the tattoo is. Right now it's the thing to do. It's whats cool. Just like long hair was cool in the 70's or the Beatles were in the 60's ,getting a tattoo is the cool thing to do. Most of you younger adults don't anyways look at the duration of things and most of us older adults have been there ,done that and we try so hard to protect our young that we get carried away and forget about the crazy stuff we did. And some of us remember all to well and don't want our kids to have something happen to them that may have happen to us. So let her be for now. But in a few days or maybe weeks talk to her again and tell her you know she's only trying to protect you but there are some things you want to have freedom of choice over and this was one of them and it doesn't mean she did a bad job raising you. She just needs to know she did ever thing right and this is just a choice you've made.

Answer 3

ok first I am a mom of one and would let my kid do some things.. but not others.. like a tatoo would be ok (not my first choice.. but ok) however if she wanted to get her tongue peirced.. I might say NO.
I think mostly she is disappointed you didnt ask her first.... maybe she is sad that your are no longer her little girl/boy (I am gonna assume girl based on the tattoo of a butterfly though) she is sad that you are not following her suggestions or rules... its probably not the tattoo as much as the fear of losing you to adult hood that makes her upset..
hug her and tell her you still love her, but this is something you have always wanted and if you change your mind tattoos can be "removed" now a days...

but one thing I will say.. if you are not a minor.. you should move out because really as long as you are living in her house you really should follow her rules.... and just as a side note.. I did some drugs when I was younger (was influenced by bad boyfriend) I really regret this, was lucky to get out alive.. had some nasty experiences (true.. not all were nasty but some where) so really drugs are bad and you shouldnt do them, so i am glad you are not doing drugs it really makes me sad when kids do drugs...

Answer 4

My mother did the same thing when I got my first, and I was 26 years old and married with 2 kids of my own.

She'll get over, she sounds like my mother, good with guilt, you're an adult and she knows that, she'll be OK.

Trust me my mother gave up bit**ing when she saw the second, she said basically the same thing to me too, "you're gonna do what you want anyway so I'll won't say a word about it", and she hasn't. I now have 4.

Answer 5

One of parental tactics is to impose that "guilt card" and it sounds like she trumped it. She obviously uses guilt as a tool against you. Cast it off!
She is obviously upset in that she expects you to take her advice and follow her lead, but obviously she can't handle the fact that you're not her little one anymore. Sounds like this must be the first time you've gone against her grain. She'll get over it...
Maybe you should tell her that you do value her opinion, but she needs to start letting go and appreciating your capacity for good judgment as it pertains to your own life. That will throw her off a little bit.
Then as you're leaving the room, tell her go to smoke a bowl and everything will be okay.

Well, maybe everything except the bowl-smoking part.
good luck!

Answer 6

Well just tell her it's not her choice to choose for u to have a tatto or not since u're not a minor, u can take care of ur self, and just give her time to think about that u grow up now u're not a lil girl anymore :P

Answer 7

she has to know that once a tattoo is done, there's no way u can get rid of it so what does she wants u to do, try talking to her again and let her know a tattoo can never be getting rid of and ask her what she wants u to do now.

Answer 8

dont do anything, just relax and let her blow some seam, she is mad right now. all you have to do is wait and when she comes around say mom do you love me less because i got a tatoo?keep saying mom i love you....mom i love you....mom ilove you. she is mad right now.but she will get over it. tell her you are against tatoos not me. hen tell her you are against ears peirced(she has them right) but you arent mad at her for getting them. tell her you arent mad a t her for putting on lotion because you are agains it. make up drama so she can see how stupid it is.she will see what she is saying to you is dumb. good luck.

Answer 9

The thing is, she probably realises you're going to have to make your own decisions - this is probably what she is saddest about - she realises she has to let you go and do what you see fit. Give her time, as has been suggested. Let her know she's still in your life and try to make her feel appreciated... or just... let it be??
Good luck, hope it all gets resolved :-)

Answer 10

Honestly.. you're stuck with it now. Let her blow off steam.. and tell her your sorry that you didnt let her know sooner. there is nothing she can do but be mad at you. it wont last long...