I need some SERIOUS advice!?

Question

Ok...
I have a new co-worker, and she's cool, so I invited her and her boyfriend over to hang out with some friends. So we're all having fun and drinking and laughing and I go into a different room for a minute, I hear some footsteps behind me and I look up and there is my co-worker's serious boyfriend. He kisses me twice says something about not telling anyone and walks off to be with his girl.
At this point, I'm wide-eyed and staring stock-still for like 10 minutes. The first thought was "DAMN he's an amazing kisser!"
Then I was like, 'Woah, did that really happen?"
I choose to ignore it, later that week, we all hung out again and it happened again!

Now... I don't want to be a homewrecker. Part of me wants to keep up the game and kiss the man all the time. Part of me wants to tell my co-worker the whole truth and nothing but the truth. The rest of me wants to tell the man to back off, and not tell his girlfriend and just pretend nothing happened.

So... what should I do?

Answer 1

Dont be stupid.The fact that he would kiss you, means he would cheat on any gf he had.Dont keep this game up, no matter how much of an amazing kisser he is...he is with someone else.Tell ur coworker the truth because its going to go further .Dont be the other woman, dont get caught in the middle. HONESTY!!!!

Answer 2

This man is an absolute idiot, and has no respect for you or his girlfriend. He's simply not worth the time. Also don't rule out the possibility that all this is a ruse, in which your co-worker is involved, that they use to lure unsuspecting women into threesomes. Whatever, the case, unless you are a "freak" with unusual emotional resiliency, you should stop the boyfriend in his tracks and back off the friendship because I just don't see this working out good for anyone, unless, of course, each of you are "freaks" and believe you can make the sexual fantasies work.

Answer 3

It depends on where your priorities lie. If you have a relationship with your co-worker that you value above all else, then, I'd say to tell the boyfriend to back off. If your just a lonely, single, horny woman who would like some attention in her life, then, I'd say to tell the boyfriend to back off(and meet up with you later)... No, no, no! It's not right! You need to do the right thing woman! I'd get it on video camera so that when you do tell your co-worker she won't think that your pulling her leg. Then again, I wouldn't be suprised if it's your co-worker who's the one who's sicking her boyfriend on you for a potential threesome. Check it out. -It's possible.

Answer 4

If the co worker is your good friend ask her what would you do if your friends boyfriend was always kissing you and told you not to tell your friend if she say that she will tell her friend that her boy friend is cheating on him then tell her the truth just tell her soon so that she will know because if you are caught she would listen to her boy friend not to you and then if she not sure trap set up a trap

Answer 5

It depends on what kind of person you are.

If you care at all about your co-worker then put a stop to his foolishness immediately. Don't worry about ruining their relationship because he's already done that, just go ahead and tell her that her guy has disrespected the both of you.

If you are a selfish person with low morals and no self-respect, then go ahead with his little game.

Answer 6

TELL HER WHAT HAPPENED...ALTHOUGH EVERYBODY WAS DRINKING THOUGH. THE LONGER U WAIT THE WORSE IT WILL GET. NOW IF UR BF GOT INVITED TO HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS AND BROUGHT U ALONG WOULD U WANT HIM KISSING YOUR FRIEND. I THINK NOT. RESPECT YOUR CO-WOKER...MAYBE IF U TELL HER SHE WILL HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR U BUT U HAVE TO TELL HER SOON. U SHOULD ALSO RESPECT YOURSELF EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE WAS DRINKING AND THEY PROBABLY WERENT AWARE WHAT HAPPENED. THAT ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH EVERYONE HAD TO DRINK..BC IF IT WASNT ENOUGH TO BE DRUNK OR HAVE A HANG OVER BOTH OF U WERE COMPLETELY AWARE OF WHAT IS GOING ON. A SUGGESTION ON HOW TO TELL HER IS MAYBE U 2 SHOULD GO TO LUNCH TOGETHER AND U TELL HER WHATS GOING ON. DONT GET INTO LIKING HIM BC THERE PROBABLY IS NOTHING THERE..IF U DO DECIDE TO TAKE IT FUTHER WITH HIM THOUGH KEEP IN MIND THERE ARE OTHER RANDOM WOMEN OUT THERE HE MIGHT JUST DECIDE TO KISS AND DONT KNOW AT ALL.

Answer 7

Be assertive the next time he tries it again. Threaten to tell his girlfriend if it ever happens again. It sounds like this guy is a jerk who is just doing this just to see if he can get away with it, and at your expense. Maybe he's bored in his relationship and trying to get her to dump him. I can only assume that if she found out and dumped him and he ended up hookin up with you shortly afterward, she'd hate you and that doesn't make for a good work situation. then again, if he'd cheat on her, wouldn't he do it to u too?

Answer 8

1st - tell him 2 back out & u won't say anything about it.
2nd - if he doesn't, threaten to tell her.
3rd - if he still doesn't, tell her.
But i don't think any of this will happen cos u want him & he knows it. He didn't kiss u just like that. Something u did or said or about u told him u want him.

Answer 9

Honesty has always been my policy so that at least your co-worker would know that her serious bf is a creep and thinks that he can get away with it without his gf knowing.

Answer 10

I'm a dog so I would say go for it. I don't trust anyone and you have to figure if you don't get yours, he will just be out cheating with somone else. He is the one that made a committment to his girl, not you. Go for it!