(Woman only please) I can't remember if being raped was a dream or not. Do I tell my mom?

Question

I can't just say "Hey mom did I get raped or was it a dream?" What should I say? If I ask her she might send me to a shrink for mental help, And if I was raped she might say "Im sorry that shouldn't have happened." and I don't want to go through that. I was only 6 years old when it happened.

Im kinda scared to ask my mom, But I remember the boy who raped me was put in a mental institution for brain problems.

Answer 1

Ask your mom to find out. If the dream seems so real and it reoccurs, chances are that it happened. You should ask for a peace of mind.

Answer 2

So what's wrong with seeking counseling? You don't say how old you are now. I assume you are "underage" if you feel you need to tell your mom. It could be a dream, I don't know. The only one who can really help you is that shrink you don't seem to want to go to. Were you molested by a family member? That's the only reason I can think that "you don't want to go through that" with your mom if she says "I'm sorry that shouldn't have happened."

Sometimes, things that are very traumatic to a young child can be "forgotten" by the brain because that is the safest way the brain thinks to handle it. It "may" be remembered much later when the brain figures it's safe to. Then the adult needs to work with someone about the trauma, because it has an effect eventually.

Answer 3

If at anytime you think you were raped SPEAK UP wheather it be a dream or not bc remember now a days theres all kinds of drugs that can be slipped into drinks and all. you were about 6 years old when it happend or may have been a dream? well sometimes when i think back i get dreams and past confussed too.. its ok. Just ask your mom straight forward. First start out telling her about this dream you had.. and how it was so real.. then proceed to ask if it really did happen. i dont really think shes going to put you into a mental institute for asking.

Answer 4

You know, being raped is one of the most autrocious crimes against women and so many will not contact authorities because it is a very humiliating thing to be poked and prodded. On the other side of things, I've had dreams that were so real it takes time to pick it apart...did it really happen or not? Do you remember where you were at when this happened? Or did you wake up? I'd say more than likely it was just a very real dream, but you can always contact your ob/gyn doctor, too, if you aren't 100% sure! Then, if the doctor finds proof, go directly to the authorities.

Answer 5

Maybe talk to a guidance counselor about it first. It could be a recovered memory, or late-onset Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's possible that it is a dream, but it may have really happened if the dream is recurring or if you can make out specific, logical details about what may have happened. Discuss it with a different trusted adult, THEN maybe move on to your mom. You may not even end up telling your mom... maybe you just need some support from someone else. I'm sorry that this might have happened to you; it's a hard thing to carry by yourself.

Answer 6

Talk to your mom. If she does get you a therapist, it could be helpful to you in remembering if it was a dream or reality. It could help you get over any emotional issues you may be having or suppressing. If she does say "I'm sorry that shouldn't have happened," she might be able to shed more light on it for you. If you were raped, whoever did it needs to be held accountable and you need to get any help you can get in dealing with it. If you were dreaming, you should seek any help you need in dealing with that. Definitely ask your mom. The worst thing that can happen is she won't listen to you. If that happens, find some other adult you trust and confide in them. It sounds like you really need to resolve this. It could bother you the rest of your life if you don't.

Answer 7

I don't agree with any of the answers you got till now. There are only two alternatives either [a] you were raped or [b] you were not, here again it may be a dream or wishful thinking. But what you are going to gain by verifying ? If the fact is [a] you may become a victim of a psychological pressure and its consequences. Your mother [who had gone through the trauma of her daughter being raped, be not traumatised again] also may not tell [and I am of strong opinion that she should not tell] you the truth for its consequences as mentioned. Please note that all human beings have multiple bad experiences in life - those who can ignore them have a better life. A large percentage of global population enjoy extramarital sex although everyone is bound by religious oath and civil law. So take it easy, you have lost nothing, you have not committed any sin, do not try to dig the buried past unnecessarily. You may invite trouble for yourself as well as for your near and dear ones. Life is much bigger than one episode. Incidentally, rape [forced sex without consent of both partners] is an entirely human problem, it does not occur in other animals, hence we should free ourselves of any guilt associated with this word. Please remember that the man who commits it, does it under uncontrollable passion and he may be punished but not condemned for whole life, for this entirely human expression, whicht might not have been to your liking. Truth is not the right thing to be delivered always. It will be wise for the doctor not to tell a terminally ill patient that he is going to die very soon, it will not serve any purpose, although he will not conceal it from the patient's escort/relative[s].

Answer 8

you can get help without having to tell your mom through a local mental health unit and they can help you sort fact from fiction but mostly if you are dreaming about it its very possible that it could have happen at 6 you didnt do anything to encourage or deserve it. i would talk to your mom she will more then likely be supportive about it and want to get to the bottom of it and if you were theres not gaurentee that she would have known what was happening. the choice is really yours to make but i would talk to the people at mental health or a councellor of some sort that doesnt mean there is something wrong with you just means they are fully qualified to help. talk to your doctor they maybe able to recommend someone to you in your area.

Answer 9

Sometimes a trauma can cause an almost amnesia, or memory loss. It can the reappear later in life as a dream. If it goes untreated it could turn into depression, or even paranoia. If you can, talk to your mom, or even find a professional to talk to on your own. Its confidential, and will help ease your mind. If you were raped or molested as a child it can affect future relationships with trusting or committing to men. It is better to know.

Answer 10

You should not only tell your mom but you should look into getting professional help, therapy. No body has a recurring dream of being raped that didn't happen. Chances are you probably did and now you have to try and heal from that.

Answer 11

you should ask the chances of it being a dream are low when your that young you dont have a mind set of dreaming about being raped.
A couple yrs ago when i was 16 i had a dream that my older brother came in my room and started doing sexual stuff to me. I was on my period so i had a tampon in. It felt like a dream but also real. when i woke up the next morning i didnt have my tampon in. i had no clue what happened for all i know he could have druged me