I have trouble looking people in the eye. How do you look people in the eye without blank staring at them?

Answer 1

i have that same problem, the reason is that you may have low self esteem, I still haven't figured it out yet myself, but when you do, let me know

Answer 2

I have always looked at people in the eye (parents told me it was a sign of respect to look at the person talking to you) Now I have found that when I look straight into the persons eyes, I can tell you whether or not they are telling me the truth. I should have been a judge. You also have to find the fine line between looking in the eye and staring.

Answer 3

Ok, here is how I sorted it out. It's called the third eye. Just get your eyes to look between the eyes, as if they got a third eye in middle. And it works a treat!

I did this and no one thinks anything except, "how come your so confident in staring at people in the eyes."

Now, u know lol. I use it always and it works for every busines meeting, dinner meeting, with clients, and everyone. Just have a go. It works!

Answer 4

Looking at people in the eye does not mean you have to stare at them. When you are speaking to someone, just make frequent eye contact. But when you do make eye contact hold it for a few more seconds.

Eye contact helps to deliver the message in the right manner to the person you are speaking. If you wish to develop further try joing a public speaking club like the Toastmasters.

Answer 5

You have to be very confident in yourself,not an easy task,it comes from within thats why eye contact is so important because you can see the true person through there eye's no matter what they are saying. I would suggest some self help tapes and books on the subject there is some very good stuff out there.

Answer 6

Sometimes it is easier if you start out by focusing on the bridge of the nose and the ear lobes. It becomes easier to look them in the eyes after you are comfortable with that. Remember, the other person is probably just as uncomfortable in a new situation as well.

Answer 7

when you look people in the eye during conversation its not the eye they are talking about you read peoples faces
to get a better understanding of what THEY are saying
you feel like you have a trouble looking people in the eye because you feel like they are staring at you or you are staring at them
just read their expressions

Answer 8

The point is that you look them in the eye, it's okay if it appears that you are "blank staring". You've done what you were to do, how they take it is totally up to them. You can do, just look and don't worry about the rest.

Answer 9

I have problems with this too!! Nodding while they are talking is always a good thing (just not excessively like your head is going to come off!). You don't have to have a staring match with them while they are talking either. You just have to not be afraid. Looking people in the eye seems intimidating, but when you do it you will realize there is nothing to be afraid of! They can't see thru u just like u can't see thru them. When it comes down to it we're all people with the same fears and wants and needs.

Answer 10

A long time ago I was taught by a very spiritual and wise person that in such instances, to focus on the area of the forehead right above the bridge of the nose. To any person you are speaking to, it will appear as if you were staring straight into their eyes.

Answer 11

Look anywhere in close vicinity to the eye... from the other persons perspective it looks as if your looking at them in the eye.

Having problems with looking at people in the eye can be self esteem issues, feeling shame or it could be the culture you were raised in... there's no way for me to guess but the mentioned suggestion works.... try it.