ive been with my guy for 8 years he wants to marry me but he aint got no type of income and thats the reason why i will not marry him.he dont want to work.im falling out of love with him.what should i do?
2006-06-18 17:30:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no comment srry
2006-06-18 17:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by ace c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing before anyone should get married is to make sure that each person in that relationship is independent financially and emotionally. If neither has been accomplished and they continue to get married there will be many problems. Move on with your life unless you want a leech attached to you for years until you divorce him. If he doesn't want to work then there must be underlying problems or just plain laziness. Being married is something you can't be lazy about. Quit wasting your time and find someone who is worthy of your love and FINANCIALLY STABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-19 02:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't work, that's one thing. If he can't work or can't find work that's another.
I understand that you're looking out for yourself, but it has been 8 years. Guys that find a girl is needy is a turn off. Don't go scouting for guys because they have a good income. Don't drop yours now because he doesn't work. If you love him, give him the respect to ask him to get a job because you are working all the time, don't see him, and you all are having financial problems.
But if you made it okay that he didn't work all this time, don't blame him because he hasn't worked. If it was okay with your for 8 years, 2 days, or 6 weeks that's not his fault. I know after 7 years if my finance told me to not work, I wouldn't look back unless he told me that we had problems. I would be overjoyed!
2006-06-19 00:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't marry a guy who doesn't want to work?! i don't blame you because then your life will be hard and then he might actually make you do all the work while he just lazes around in the house! no! tell him you don't want to marry him until he has a decent job or a career.
2006-06-19 00:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dear Abby says you shouldn't get married unless you can financially and emotionally able to support yourself. Obviously he can't do that for himself, so he shouldn't be getting married.
2006-06-19 03:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep fallin girl....fall fast....into some one elses arms..someone with class, and priorities, and a life....not someone who will suck you dry...
do you realize, that if yall get married, and then divorce, he gets half?? hell yeah it looks good to him, cuz either way out of it, hes getting something from ya.
now, unless you sign a prenup this is true, but he wont let you have one cuz he has nothing to claim.
wake up girl!!!
2006-06-25 23:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by meld1707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sell yourself short...get with a man who appreciates what u do and deserves you. U are way too old to be taking care of someone else's child.That ended about 10 yrs ago............And if he actually doesnt want to work that should tell u enough..............
2006-06-19 08:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenixx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the info you provided, I would say Marriage is definitely not the answer.
2006-06-19 00:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to work, sounds like you shouldn't have wasted so much time on him already.
2006-06-21 20:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you are falling get up and run dont stop the best thing you could do for him and your self
2006-06-19 00:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋