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Question

Everyday i seem to fight with my parents. Sometimes its just over stupid things. It seems as if my mum has something against me, she calls me names lik psycopath and stuff like that. Most of the time my dad sticks up for her and yells at me even though he doesnt know the situation. Also i'm like a dummy that they take their anger out on me. Now they are going to a councellor and i don't know what to do. I have a boyfriend that adds to the problem, the problem is that they havent met him because his scared of meeting my parents. They caught me doing something something on the phone doing things and called me a slut. Now they are awarding me to the state. what should i do?

Answer 1

You sound young, although I may be wrong.
The problem is that you and your parents are seeing things on different wavelengths. A good pointer, although it may not seem like it, is when your parents start acting crazy listen to what they have to say and just say okay.
After the fight is over, put yourself in their shoes because maybe you don't see that you've done something wrong from your standpoint, but maybe you did something that would bother them.
You may find out that your mom just wants to argue, and when you just say "Yes Ma'am"(I"m from the South) or you just say okay, you'll probibly just piss her off even more.
You may find out that she may be upset that you are growing away from her because you are doing your own thing, you have your own boyfriend and your own opinion for that matter.
If you give it time and you feel like you really aren't crazy you need to sit down and tell her plain and simple she's not treating you right. She may not even realize that she's acting crazy or you may not realize that you may be acting crazy! ;).
I'm an only child and my mother and I are sooooo much alike we've had awful arguements for years and years. She once chased me around with a tennis racket...(like 2 years ago!) but I learned to just listen and let her get the steam off her chest and she's fine.

Good luck girl! What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!

Answer 2

Dear your problem is quite a normal one. Havent you heard that fighting brings people more closer. The very point you have mentioned that sometimes fight is over stupid things itself shows that it is not lack of love but only more and more love and care which end up in silly fights. Also a small amount of ego and show off thats all. If you think deep into the matter you will notice that your mom and dad cares for you too much and they want to see you happy and are scared that you shouldnt be disturbed or cheated by the wrong person and hence they want to prevent you from doing it. You said they call u names...... Dont you like to be called by pet names even bad names sometimes are pet names..... havent you heard people call loved ones as Idiot come here!!!! Bastered How are u!!!!! etc. probably they feel that they hav the right to call you that way as u r more precious to them. And some people also feel that they can change their children if they call them the way they dont like. It is only the attitude with which u see it. One small request...... Dont ever think that your parents have something against you. The most selfless love you will see in tis world is only your parents' love.... You will realise this once u r away from them. Regarding your boyfriend.... that is not a problem at all..... if you love him and he loves you truly..... you can talk to them in a calm and consoling and more important... in an assuring way that u will always listen to them.... but u have an opinion and they should give hearing to that and consider your choice and meet him and then think about it.. .... Tell them that if they feel your choice is wrong and they justify that then u will always listen to them. I am sure they will not object to it.... Try these small loving methods. Dont ever argue or shout at your parents. It will never help. It will only become a tug of war. Tell me if it helps or u need more help.... take care bye

Answer 3

okay here goes, personally I feel maybe your mom may call you names because she has a problem shes not coping with, Maybe bypolar? Just because she has a problem it doesnt mean your better off elsewhere. Only if shes physically abusive. Maybe your mom dont know how to express herself in a proper manner. You said they caught you doing something over the phone, Could it be phone sex? well im a parent and id be shocked and go off on my daughter or son if i caught them. Are you school age? alot has to do with how old you are, I know if you hear insults all the time its going to sink in and your going to start feeling that way. Youre not dumb!!! Your hurt. Big difference, If you need to talk email me.. to the sunshine_8858 one. Im older and maybe can help you. Tell your boyfriend to suck it up and be a man and meet your folks... good luck and hope to hear from you

Answer 4

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Answer 5

There are 2 sides to every story, but from what you say, they don't seem like very fit parents. They seem like they have terrible anger-management problems (and perhaps are even dependent on substances- are they alcoholics?). It is probably a good thing that you are going into foster care. You'll have people to talk to there that won't be so crazy. Hang in there and keep doing your best.

Answer 6

well your parents shouldnt be calling you names that is abuse and i am so sorry for that.i dont know the situation but you said they are going to a counselor if you want help go to this person or someone you can trust and tell them about what is going on and that you dont want to be their and i dont much blame your boyfriend he is scared of them so dont get too upset with him i know this is hard and im not a professional but i personally think you would be happier away from them so i wish you all the luck in the world sweetheart and hope things get better for you

Answer 7

By the sounds of it you should be placed in a better environment. Being in an environment where you are being yelled at and called names is not healthy. If what you say here is a glimpse of what your life in their home is like, becoming ward of the state just might be in your best interest.

Answer 8

see dear ur parents are jus goin thru the normal stage. u r a teenager n it is but natural tht they r anxious abt u! u knw wt happens to gurls these days. i m a teenager too! believ me my parents too r the same way. althought they dont call me names, they do vent their frustration on me sumtimes. it is because might be they hv sum problems u dont knw abt. sit down n hv a child-parents talk. tell them how u feel abt it. n i m sure they will understand. tell me if i was of ny help.

Answer 9

I'm very sorry for your current situation. The best advice I can give you is to just take everything one step at a time. I hope everything works out. If you need advice just email me.

Answer 10

Maybe you can try avoiding them..........works most of the time i try it. (no offence) Although i suggest you don't try it if your parents are tooooooo strict. I only get away 'cause i lock myself up in my room.
don't worry.....you'll find something to do about your problem. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.