There is this guy I like and am planning on asking out, face-to-face. I like I like him a lot, but past experiences are keeping me timid and defensive. I am divorced, recently, but it has been two years since the separation. I have a child too. Why do I feel guilty about liking this guy and why is it so hard to ask him out? Is it wrong to want to date him? A friend said I was selfish and that I should focus on my child. I love my child and am a great parent. Again, is it wrong to like someone and want to start over?
2006-06-18 17:17:34 · 12 answers · asked by neener68 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go get him.
2006-06-18 17:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. BIG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds judgemental to me what makes her the expert?
If you LIKE this guy and can be sure you wont be bringing someone into your daughters life only to see them leave again then there is no harm in trying.
Think about it this way.....you'd be much happier with a man than without so it will indirectly be doing your daughter good too to have an emotionally satisified and happy mom who can be there for her. It wont do her any harm you going out with ppl if its done in the right way. What makes you think a life on solitaryness and a lonely mum would be right for your daughter? not that im saying it WILL be bad if you did that but being with someone else won't necessarily be worse for her, esp. if you know you can actually trust them.
2006-06-19 00:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong to start over u waited 2 years.u need a man in your life just make sure the child is in good hands when u go out .so go 4 it .have fun. good luck.
2006-06-19 00:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by pitbullloverloverofpits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait for the guy to court you? It seems to me that only you seem to be very interested. You feel guilty coz it seemed that guy is a sort of ideal & he deserves a girl who also has his ideals unlike you who is divorced and has a child already.
2006-06-19 00:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by crystals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not wrong. it's probably just hard for you because you've been out of the dating scene for a while. as far as you kid goes, dating and being a mom having nothing to do with one another. just don't be one of those girls that brings a million guys around their kids--which it doesn't sound like you're the type to do that anyways. in short, go for it...you need to be happy before you can make your kid happy.
2006-06-19 00:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so. are u saying that u can never love someone again because ur divorced? move on, have fun. but dont make ur child a last priority!
2006-06-19 00:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you have a child, that does not mean your life is over...there has to be a balance, between being a mom and also being a woman with needs...schedule your time and be happy!
2006-06-19 00:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your child you should get a dad he will not learn to do man stuff
2006-06-19 00:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by monkeytracker96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah , It's normal to have the desire to start a new relationship.
2006-06-19 00:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it, live your life to the fullest while you can
2006-06-19 00:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by thesting156 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not...you have a life too! go for it!! :) All the best!!
2006-06-19 00:21:38 · answer #11 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋