My Sister is having sex with her Husbands Brother, I caught them yesterday, she wants me to keep quiet ...?

Question

She says she is going to stop the affair. I think I should tell my brother in law. She has begged me not to and even offered me a lot of money not to do it. I mean a lot of money! What should I do?

Answer 1

Be smart and take the money and keep quiet.
You will be the bad guy one way or the other, to both him and her, if you tell.
Ever hear of the phrase "shoot the messenger"?
You don't want to be the one to break the news to the husband, trust me. And your sister will never forgive you.

Take the money and keep quiet.

Answer 2

First of all don't take the money. Don't try to right a wrong by performing a wrong yourself.

Second, your sister is your family. Are you really going to dob in your own sister? If you can't count on family then just who the hell can you count on? Think of the ramifications of telling your brother in law, you rob your sister of the chance of doing it herself, weather she intends to or not is immaterial, it's her action to take...not yours, unless you choose to take it from her. Also, by you telling him you become the instrument for the potential destruction of their relationship and the friendship of two brothers. Do you really want that on your head? Yes, they started the affair but you would be the one stepping in to finish it.

What you can do is talk with your sister. I mean that, talk with her, not to her, there is a difference. Without going into morals and such tell her how you feel about the situation. Remind her that these things always come to a head and that if she continues on with it she will have to accept the consequences.

The decision is yours, naturally, but I would think about it. After all, no matter what I did, I know how I would feel if my brother dobbed me in for it...no matter how wrong I was. They wouldn't be a brother of mine for much longer.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

If you break the news to your brother in law, your sister and your brother in law will both resent you for it. So leave yourself out of it. It's best to mind your own business, no matter how tempting it is. Your sister is old enough to make her own decisions and if she wants to ruin her marriage or save her marriage, it's her choice. Let her learn from her own mistakes and let her suffer the consequences. You can tell your sister "I love you but I don't like what your doing, it's not fair to your husband, you are risking your marriage, etc" You can tell her how you feel about it and that's it! The truth will either come out on it's own either by her getting caught or your sister will come clean to her husband anyway.

Answer 4

Definitely do not take the money. She's your SISTER. You cant do that. Talk to her. Make sure she will stop the affair. If she doesnt, it's time to go to your brother in law.

Answer 5

i would say definitely don't take the money, but i think that you should also have loyalty to your sister over your brother-in-law. if she doesn't end the affair then i would have a serious discussion with her telling her that you will tell him if she doesn't. for now, i don't think you should meddle. i mean, she is your sister and for all you know he is having an affair, too. good luck.

Answer 6

kill her with kindness.......... tell her in not so many words that she is being stupid and making a bad choice. If she wanted sex then ask her hubby....part of why she married him. At family functions, make her fell uncomfortable. Drop little hints like ..... what did you do the other day when so and so were gone. It will get to her . She is either going to have to break and tell her hubby or call it off with the in-law

Answer 7

Wow. Okay...she IS your sister, blood IS thicker than water...(money). All the money in the world isn't worth you not being loyal to her secret. It would be really hard to turn down the money, I know...but think about this...when the money is gone, at least you would still have your sister to love you. If you ever needed her to cover for you...she would because she would remember what you did for her. Be a good man and a great brother.YOU OWE YOUR ALLEGIENCE TO YOUR SISTER.

Answer 8

You should tell your sister to confront your brother in law. I mean she is the one making the mistake and she should not hide it from her husband. If she didnt want anyone to know, why did it then!? Tell her hiding a secret from her husband will ruin her marriage with her husband and even haunt her for the rest of her life!! She should go up to your brother in law and tell him the truth. It's his call to forgive her or to divorce her. I mean she has to pay what she's done.

If she refuses to tell the truth to her husband, you should take the action to. Let her know it's for her own good!! Her husband might forgive her being honest. But if her husband found that out from his brother... then she is screwed forever!!

goodluck.

Answer 9

this is a tough one. you need to search your own heart to know the right answer, first if you tell him, you might loose your sister. take time to let her end it, if not, it really should be her that tells him. to take the money...ethically it is wrong, but maybe take it, just to see if she is serious, give it to your brother in law, he made need it for a divorce. he will find out, trust me, i had an affair years ago, mine found out, just from the way i was acting, we have gotten over it, but i was honest when he asked me.

Answer 10

Stay out of it. She is your sister forever. If she was careless enough to get caught messing around by you it will catch up to her in due time. If you take the money or rat her out it will drive a wedge between the two of you that may never be fixed.

She's family, right or wrong, you have to stand by her.

Answer 11

i say take the money and give it to a good charity for kids. then tell your brother i law, of show him. like make it to where he finds out but not by you that way you and our sister can still be ok.