what to do when your significant other doesn't find you attractive?

Question

i've been dating this guy for 15 months and he's all around good(he likes to surprise me with nice gifts and plan out some exciting events for us), except that he doesn't seem to find me attractive at all - or he refused to give me a nice little compliments every now and then. the thing that bugs me the most is he isn't the type of guys who doesn't like to give compliments, better yet, he has complimented a few other girls except for me, his so called girlfriend. also, everytime we hang out with his friends and they'd compliment me about how pretty i look then he'd burst out something like, "nah, she ain't all that"..i mean, i'm already accepted that he doesn't like to make me feel pretty, but why even bother to say something that he knows would make me feel bad. i've tried pointing out the problem to him and his response is always, "you're just overreacting"..so what should i do..i really can't stand being with somebody who doesn't think or make me feel pretty.. *sob*

Answer 1

That is odd that he would give u nice gifts and paln something exciting, yet he won't give u a compliment and says hurtful things when someone else does.

Sweetie U need to talk withhim about this, u should tell him , while it's nice that he gives u nice gifts and exciting plans.

The most nicest gift and most exciting thing he can start to do is give u compliments.

And tell him that ur not over reacting ur getting ur feelings hurt and u wish he stop,

Also tell him the next time he does it ur gonna point it out right away and ur not gonna continue to put up with getting ur feelings hurt.
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Answer 2

I know how you feel, and it's not a nice feeling. In my opinion, he does think you are attractive, but for some reason he can't tell you that. Maybe he feels that you are too good for him, and if you realize it you might not stay with him. Some people who aren't confident about themselves like to bring down those around them so they aren't the only ones feeling miserable. I think he finds you attractive, but maybe he doesn't think that he is attractive.

Answer 3

Then why is he with you? None of us have the answer. You need to ask him. DOn't let him avoid the issue or make you think you're crazy. Tell him how you feel. And if he still doesnt address your feelings, maybe he shouldn't be your significant other. Good luck.

Answer 4

Leave him hun! He is not worth the pain that he is causing you! If he compliments others but not you then why is he with you? If he does not find you pretty why does he stay? Leave, thats the best advice I can give you!

Answer 5

well maybe you two should take a break for a lil while...see what he does...if he hooks up with someone else or waits it out for you. Dont be scared to date someone else. Might make him realize what he had and want it back and will be more appriciative of it. hope this helps!

Answer 6

This guy has red flags all over him - WATCH OUT!!! Dump him fast before he drags you down so far emotionally that you don't know what hit you before he actually may start to hit you or you begin to think that you actually deserve to be treated that way.
He's dangerous - be safe - get out of it before you get too invested in him.

Answer 7

Leave!!