ok i have been involved wit a certain female for a few months..we have opened up little by little..but lately she has been very closed off with her feelings..I mean we hang out, get intimate and still have interestin conversations....but i really dont know where i stand wit her..i want a serious relationship but i dont kno wat she wants..I try and ask her and i get no response..Its really confusing and irritating not knowin wat we are..I want 2 hear it from her mouth but i get nothin...Then last week we spent 5 straight days 2gether..The first couple days was quite fun, no problems and no issues..Then the last 3 days she started gettin weird on me..The affection stopped, the conversation was down to a minimal and i could tell there was some tension in the air..but when i ask her about she says nothings the matter..is it jus me, am i jus imagining things..She says im trippn and buggin out for no reason..I dont kno wat 2 do..This has been stressin me out the last couple days...
2006-06-18 16:15:59 · 19 answers · asked by luvless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is ashamed of something. Maybe you could tell her that she is fine and can tell you anything.
Try and find out what is wrong from her friends, if it isn't too intrusive.
2006-06-18 16:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really care about this person, but you can not let this this person keep you hanging. I would let them know what I want and how I feel. If you feel that something is wrong, there might be. Just tell her straight up. DO you want a relationship? , do you want to be with me? , are you seeing someone else? , You get the point. You just can't go on wondering every day what is going on. That is no way to be with someone. Hope you figure it out.
2006-06-18 23:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think when she starts becoming distant and conversing less, she is telling you in a non-verbal way that she wants her own space for now.
Perhaps she is concerned that you want a permanent relationship and she does not want that right now. She seems to care about you and enjoy being with you, but as you describe her closing up after a few days, it sounds like she needs a break. I wouldn't stress about it but take it as it comes. Why does everything have to become permanent? Why can't we all just enjoy it as it happens and bask in the memory? There really is no such thing as permanence anyway - when we die, we die alone. Become happy with yourself, and you can enjoy a less stressful relationship too.
2006-06-18 23:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what her home evident is.Maybe she wants to see were this relationship is going.Sometime it may take awhile for certain girls to open up. How will you react when she tells you,this could be on her mind. This could be confusing to her also.Sometimes females need some space.If you give her some space she will eventually come around,It will make your relationship stronger Don, t .give up on her if you really care about her.
2006-06-18 23:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by gen m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's scared to get close to you i am the same way im very negative and im afarid to fall to deep into love because i dont want to get f*cked over so mayb thats whats going on .and if thats the case then if you really care about this gurl you will hang in there .or another reason she could be acting werid is because she is dating other people
2006-06-18 23:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that she has got some issues on her mind,or somehting that she may not want to tell you,or maybe she cant tell you.I would just give her some time.When she is ready to open up to you,she will.Sometimes people just need time to figure out how to say stuff,trust me,I know all too well,lol!!Good luck!!
2006-06-18 23:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by nikkimsx66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a lost cause. She doesn't know what she wants. Back off for a while and she if she calls you. Don't push. Maybe she is just uncertain but I think it's not gonna fly.
2006-06-18 23:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by ozzysmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's with the "Ghetto-Speak?" Your feelings seem sincere but your way of expressing them leaves a lot to be desired.
2006-06-18 23:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get a good answer to this you could be rich, women are confuseing, is she just playing hard to get or are there other things in her life that are bothering, or maybe she just wants you to take charge>> good luck
2006-06-18 23:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by wildbill875 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her feel comfortable..
Try to gain trust for u from her..
Certainly she will come to you if something is bothering her.
2006-06-18 23:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by wildkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋