I have had a great with my boyfriend for 6 months, and one day, I was leaving the school after basketball practice, when my friend ran up to me. she said that my boyfriend asked out my best friend and she said yes. I am mad and sad at the same time. What should I do?
2006-06-18 16:15:33 · 37 answers · asked by Isabelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a new best friend and boyfriend!!! they both suck
2006-06-18 16:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful about this, right now it's "He said, she said." I would approach your boyfriend in a non-angry way and tell him that you heard a rumor about him asking out your best friend--once again, in a non-drama, non-angry way. Based on what he said and if you felt you could trust him, then you could go from there. Usually there are clues that either your friend or your boyfriend is lying, people just don't want to see them. So I would ask him if he's happy with the relationship and whether it could be true.
2006-06-18 16:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by TKDgirl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in which capacity did he ask her out. Maybe its nothing more then to talk to her about what to get you for your next birthday, or an anniversery. Now, if you hear a rumor about something, follow up on it and make sure he isnt fooling around. But I am sure he is just wanting to talk to someone that knows you a lot longer then the 6 months you have been going out. Good Luck
2006-06-18 16:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by RuneMage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your best friend and get the firsthand account first. DOn't make assumptions. You know how the "he said she said" stories get out of hand. If it really IS true, then your best friend is not a friend and your boyfriend it s a jerk. You'd be better off without both of them. You'l be hurt, but you'll heal in time and find people that are more true to you.
2006-06-18 16:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Melonball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! You are really in beef here.But the only way to relief stress is to completely get rid of it.So ditch your best friend and your boyfriend then after that...be flirty with other guys that are better then your boyfriend.He might get jealous and notice that he made a mistake and wants you back.But if he does ask you out again don't say yes.HE might think you are eager to be back with him...make it look like you aren't interested play hard to get.It's like you want his attention but you don't want his love that's all you have to do.And for your friend ditch her and find a new one.
2006-06-18 16:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nohemy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no longer HAVE a boyfriend if it is true.
You need to ask you boyfriend and friend directly if it is true.
They may lie about it.
It will be very painful for a long time if it is true.
I had that happen and I went crazy over it. My boyfriend told me that my friend drove over to his house and did the nasty with him.
Turns out he got her phone number out of my phone book!!!
It happened about 30 years ago and it still hurts to think about it.
The best thing to do is to try to find another boyfriend fast to help you forget and move on with your life. I don't talk to either of them ever again.
2006-06-18 16:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation(just reverse the genders) my senior year. Tell them both to forget you exist, as neither is worth your time or thoughts.
This may seem hard, but it's necessary....
I did it 3yrs ago, lost a friend who was quite literally a brother to me, and our shared friends in the process.
BUT
There's not a day that goes by that I regret it!
You will miss them, and will think of them from time to time, but you WILL be better and stronger for it.
If you can't trust someone, why would you want them in your life?
Just my 2 cents.....
Think with your head...Not your heart.
2006-06-18 16:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by blackwolf917 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with the two of them and get the story from the horse's mouth. Never rely on hear say.
2006-06-18 16:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Wants2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you - I'd find out for sure from the both of them, just what was going on. If they do intend to go out together, I'd dump them both. Obviously, your feelings don't seem to mean anything to either of them. They aren't worth keeping around.
2006-06-18 16:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lori S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THANK her and him for letting you know the kind of folks they are before you became too much more invested emotionally in both of them, then start looking at their possible replacements. Loyalty and dependability are important in lasting friendships.
2006-06-18 16:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by SweetRemission 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f@ck' em both, if the two people you care about the most want To ruin your life then dont let it happen... talk to them see their side, then explain to them how retarded they are and that they hurt you but you are strong and they will not get you down, it is big world full of opportunity, so seize the day and have fun!
2006-06-18 16:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by Kyndra Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋