Ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, we broke up twice since. I told him today that when I dont see him for awhile that my feelings start to build up..desires..etc. and so once I see him I explode...in a...deep kind of intimate way. So he said hmmm.. maybe I shouldnt come so often then so I could get that way more of course. Anyhow..it slipped out of my mouth " I need you", then yesterday he said it too. I spoke to him earlier, he said he was going to take a nap, he told me to call when I get home, I get home, call, he doesnt pick up, I send him a text message he doesnt reply, called again and he still doesnt pick up, what does this mean, and why, its been over 2 hours if he is supposively sleeping...how do I just deal with this and not start assuming things. I really wish he would just call.
2006-06-18 15:58:55 · 15 answers · asked by Priss18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a new boyfriend
2006-06-18 16:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Araya Starshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are focusing way too much on this guy and he's gonna think he has it made and can treat you any which way. Back off; do your own thing; let him do the calling and the wondering. If he doesn't then come around than he doesn't have sufficient interest in you to maintain the relationship without you constantly pushing. If that's the case, cut your losses now, if not he will just end up using you because you are needy and available. This is not easy advice to follow but the exercise of discipline is necessary. You need to learn to enjoy yourself when you're not in his back pocket. Know what I mean?
2006-06-18 16:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes even though guys may have deep feeling for you they almost always have this nagging fear of commitment or not being able to live up to your needs. He probably has a lot of questions going throught his mind rind now on how to take that comment that you mae to him even though he said it back, doesn't mean he fully gets it. If it were me I would back off quite a bit actually give him some room and maybe that will ease the tension and he will finally feel ok to open up more to you in the same way that you did him. Hang in there...just try to hang more loosely, even if it is so hard to do....it could pay off for your both in the long room....good luck :)
2006-06-18 16:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to relax he could be actually sleeping i fall asleep and my gf worrys like a mad woman too i cant help it of course i feel bad when i miss one txt let alone 9 >.<, no one says you have to call him check in every half hour or so and ry not to think about it and if he doesnt seem sorry he missed your calls then hes playign games tell him you wotn put up with it, if he seems sorry then he prolly just slept thru it and tell him wahts worring you and if he asks what he can do to make you feel better he cares if he doesnt hes either an idiot or doesnt care
PS what is with everyones lap dog, never say i need you, they are not datign they are going steady 6 months i mean unless they jsut fixed things they dotn have to play the "game" of datign anymorei love it and appreciated it when my gf tells me she needs me i tell her she doesnt and that she could take care of herself if i was gone but that i want to be her everything cause she wants me to be the same way
2006-06-18 16:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might feel like you are getting too attached to him. "I need you" is almost the equal of "I love you" but it sounds desperate. Dont try to be desperate and try to take some time off. He may feel like you are going to want a more serious relationship and he may be scared and unsure. Ask him how he feels. If he starts looking around and beating around the bush, then you know somethings up. Here's the thing:
If he's not as serious as you are, dump him and fate will take over.
If he's serious as you, then you have got yourself a winner!
2006-06-18 16:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you done screwed the pooch now honey, want and need are 2 different words, you want him you don't need anyone. you are the proverbial lap dog now. stop all the calling and texting, it looks desperate. the more you try to repair the damage the more desperate you look.just leave it alone for now. claim you had been drinking or took a pill and weren't responsible for your words if it comes up again, don't bring it up. let him contact you next, whatever you do, don't call or text.
2006-06-18 16:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweetie, Please realize YOUR worth. The only things anyone NEEDS in life are food, air, and water... NOT a man, or the relationship. You can ENJOY a man or the relationship but you do not NEED it. If you are having this many problems in the relationship in such a short time, perhaps this is not a healthy relationship for either of you to be in.
2006-06-18 16:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... how old are you?
Sounds to me he's exploiting your vunerabilities... that's not a good thing.
I wish he would call you too, but there is a LOT of game playing going on here... if you ask me. If you meant as much to him as he to you... I think he'd be spending more time with you.
Just an observation.
2006-06-18 16:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG- you are NEEDY. If you keep this attitude up I guarentee that he's going to stop talking to you forever.
Guys have to feel like they have to win you over from time to time. If you act like you're ready to give up your life for him then what fun are you? ZERO.
Don't be so available and make him make the first move sometimes. sheesh...
2006-06-18 16:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he knows you are very needy and will use that to his advantage. And the only way to deal with things is to trust him. If you can't do that then you don't have a relationship.
2006-06-18 16:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your being played he's twisting you around his finger and your letting him the only way out is to mess with his head stop calling, when he asked to meet you make it sould like you can't be bothered with him around that will wake him up if not go get yourself another play thing am free lol
2006-06-18 16:02:52 · answer #11 · answered by Big Stev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋