i am going away to college and leaving my boyfriend at home. we both agree it is something i have to do. but i am so afraid were gonna fight and stuff. i hear about so many long distance relationships ending horribly.. i need some encouragement.
2006-06-18 15:48:58 · 21 answers · asked by jeannebeanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im in the navy stationed in washington DC. my fiance is living in washington state. thats 3000 miles away. we got engaged last year. were getting married next spring. is it hard. EXTREMELY. my only tip is you have to be very good at comunication. if you cant talk you have nothing at all. you really only have 2 choices...hold on or let go and hope its meant to be when your done with college.
the navy was something i had to do or at least felt i had to do. i didnt know if i we were going to be together or not when i left, i just left the window open. when i was in boot camp i made up my mind to be with her.
you will definatly fight. just give eachother space. let eachother go out but call when u get home. call throughout the day. send packages. it will work if you both want it.
kyle
2006-06-18 15:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have a LDR with my bf who's working in India. You'd better be well prepared to face many difficulties in your relatinoship if you decided to keep your relationship. There will be times when you feel desperate to see him and miss him crazily. Though you can meet each other due to the distance problem, you can try your best to keep in touch with him. Just call him, email him, or online chatting. Do it whenever possible for both of you. Time goes really fast and be patient till you meet again. My bf will come to my place in September and I believe that we'll live together happily. The more effort you put in your LDR the less fight or hard time there will be for both of you. Good Luck.
2006-06-18 22:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by yiub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is difficult to maintain although not impossible. My best friend and her boyfriend have maintained thier relationship with several states in between them for over a year. They are both well into thier 30's. The secrets are: maintain communication, aloow the distance to strethen your trust in each other and get a great long distance cell phone plan!
2006-06-18 22:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by LifeCoachJane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to face the harsh reality but YES you two are both definitely going to quarrel. Im asking you to just be prepared for it in order to handle the situation with minimum damage to your relationships. Im going through the same fate except that my boyfriend is the one who is left me. We communicate everyday by Yahoo messenger and I admit we do disagree on many things. He distrusts me a lot but we worked it out just fine. All those things are normal in relationships because it simply shows that the both of you care. However, you two must wait patiently for the other to come back and recall the good ol' times together not swooning around over some guy or girl. yes you might miss the affection that the two of you had but bear in mind not to replace it with someone else's. You wouldn't want to waste all the moments of your emotional investment simply because you are apart. God Bless u both.
2006-06-18 23:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your bf are going to be seperated for a long period of time, then I would suggest that you allow each other to date while you are apart. If you two are meant to be together, then once you return home, then your bf and you will get back together and if not, then at least you know.
It is so much more important that you concentrate on studies right now as opposed to worrying about how things will go with you and your bf once you are both seperated.
Good Luck to you both!
2006-06-18 22:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard about it once...a long time ago a couple had a long distance relationship and it worked out in the end.
But..that was a long time ago. I haven't heard any success stories of it working out since then.
Also..in a while..you might feel very differently. You might want to explore what is out there..and you will be developing your personality further. You will change, and so will he. It's part of life..though it's sad.
2006-06-18 22:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i have been in a long distance relationship for 14 months and are doing great i have never been happier in my life...you usually don't hear much about the long distance relationships that work because it is true what they say...."Absence makes the heart grow fonder...believe me it CAN and DOES work if you put in the effort to remain a part of on another's lives.
2006-06-18 23:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. its hard at first because you are so used to being around them for so long. then they are gone and you have to find other things to do. listen get yourself a hobby, whether its going to the gym, going cruising with the girls, going to clubs, or going bowling and the movies. or get into yoga or something. do something to busy up your schedule a bit and in time you will see that its a lot nicer when you have time to think about yourself and actually do something for yourself for a change and meet new people...!!!
2006-06-18 22:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by ash4footnothin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey yeah i was fine when i moved countries we talked once a week on certain night at the same time and made sure we were avaliable to talk we are now still the best of friends and im sure you will be too ood luck at college
2006-06-18 22:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by pinkman_51192 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married one year ago. I am from netherlands and my husband is from Pakistan. I think we are an succesfull couple! We knew eachother since 2000 from internet, so i think its workable just have your faith and keep on talking to your bf and all will be fine!
2006-06-18 22:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋