My little sister is upset because she called her father today and found out he has cancer and probably one week to live. Everytime she calls him he tells her he doesn't want anything to do with her. She hasn't seen him since she was 3 years old. Am I the only one that thinks she should get over it and move on? Do you have any advise to give to her? Maybe you've been in a similar situation.
2006-06-18 15:34:13 · 12 answers · asked by bewitched28 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's not my dad, we both have different sperm donors. Obviously my mom has terrible taste in men.
2006-06-18 15:51:55 · update #1
My sister is 21 year's old now and as sisters we are really close.
2006-06-18 15:53:29 · update #2
well she has to understand her dad is only a sperm donor, not the kind that nurture her. It takes a lot for someone to be able to become parent. Obviously he does not wish to be her dad. She'll have to move on and erase all those imaginary moments that she conjure up having a super dad to take care fo her.
2006-06-18 15:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 23:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't want you to hurt any more than what they have done to you long time ago. He is trying to let you and your sister go completely before he dies. But for all is to take under consideration is that he is your father and will be in life and death on any given day. Talk to him any way and try to let him know that what happen in the pass is the pass and that you and you sister know that time is very precious and that this is the time to heal than to hurt. Time to forgive and a time to love regardless of what may happen in the end.
2006-06-18 15:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by vmed43 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs closure and if he dies before she gets it, it will be worse. That is why she is upset although she may not realize that. I have been in intense therapy throughout my life because of my father and while he is back in my life now he did abandon me at one time. Some people never understood how I could even speak to him but I did it for me, not for him. Tell her, do it for herself, for her own healing and no one else.
2006-06-18 16:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by angerooni928 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask him why he did what he did and take it from there. If you think it not a a good reason forget him then. Just let her know you will always be there for her. Be her brother and her friend. I don't speek with my father much. When I have the chance I do.... I have someone else who takes care of me and that person is my Brother !!!!!
2006-06-18 15:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by LadyLatina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My real dad didn't want anything to do with me, after my mom gave birth to me and brought me home he came to the house heard me in the other room my mom asked him it he wanted to see me and he said no he just wanted to know if she was ok. So I am realy down on dads. Even my kids dad won't call write or send money to help them. She needs to pray about it and read her bible. Lay it in her lap let it open where it will and read what it says. God will tell her what to do.
2006-06-18 15:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by pebbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS A PASSIVE ONE. SHE IS DESPERATELY REACHING OUT TO A SPERM DONOR, WHO CONSIDERS HER NONEXISTENT. EVEN ON HIS DEATH BED, HE IS TELLING HER A FATHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT HAPPEN. SHE NEEDS TO LET GO OF THE GHOST (yes, it is easier said than done). GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-18 15:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by SLOWTHINKER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that she shouldn't want anything to do with him. After all these years and he's still telling her that he don't want anything to do with her. She needs to meet him face to face (if they can) to have closure after he died. If I was her, I would want answers.
If you don't mind me asking, how old is she now?
2006-06-18 15:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by armywifeoftony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long story short: my father worked 6 days a week,left our home when I turned 18, got a call he was on his death bed,last thing he said "i am sorry ". walked away and let it go!!!!!!!
2006-06-18 15:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt care for a so called father was dying if he left me when i was young.
advice: get over it. if he wants nothing to do with you, forget about him, stop caring for his health and dont go to his funeral
2006-06-18 15:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋