I dislike my dad sooo much. We just don't get along. I am almost 16. What would you do when you are enemy's with a relative you are forced to live with? It's not like I chose this...
2006-06-18 15:11:05 · 13 answers · asked by mortician 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, he is sooo complicated. and he never lets me do anything. he is sooo mean.
i ask him if i can go to my friends house. he says NO. he has never once said yes. if i asked my mother she'd say SURE!
and i asked him if i can have a kitty and he had to yell and me...
and he tells me i'm stupid! i hate him! he makes me feel like crap!
2006-06-18 15:16:54 · update #1
BUT HE CALLS ME STUPID!!! AND WHEN I TALK ABOUT MY FURTURE HE'LL BE LIKE "YEAH RIGHT. LIKE YOU COULD DO THAT" :'(
2006-06-18 15:18:27 · update #2
my parents are not divorced
he is mentally abusive!
2006-06-18 15:21:34 · update #3
BOSCO, you are a retard! you dont know me!
2006-06-18 15:22:23 · update #4
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!!!!
2006-06-19 04:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-18 22:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing that you realize that the things he is saying to you are first of all, mean, and most of all, untrue. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, and it sounds like your mom is pretty good to you. Have you ever mentioned this to her, privately? Alot of times 16 year olds dislike their parents for many reasons, and sometimes because of hormones and puberty, and just being in that "teenage - I know everything, you know nothing" stage. Granted, it sounds like he is mean to you so I think maybe this is more than that. Perhaps you could talk to a school counselor or a private therapist, to get a sounding board (to vent) and figure out why he treats you like that. Would he ever consider going to a therapist? Did you ever talk to HIM and ask him WHY he treats you like this? I think maybe you should let him know how it makes you feel, even if you get emotional. Maybe he needs to realize what he is doing to you. Good luck.
2006-06-18 22:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by TellMeMore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand what you are going through because i dont get along well with my father as well. I'll just give you three pointers that work for me:
1. Avoid confrontation - If you know he gets upset at certain times or in certain situations avoid them
2. A 'calmer' - Find something constructive that helps you deal with your anger or resentment. I usually write about my emotions at that time, or go for walks...whatever works for you but make sure its constructive.
3. Make a conscious effort not to let him get to you. The power that another person has on you is the one that you give...So everytime you confront him., or he calls you names or whatever, Make sure you leave that place one step stronger than you got in.
I hope this helps you...
2006-06-19 11:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by teva s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. I have this situation too, except they are no relative. Whenever i get mad i try to outweigh the dislikes with more likes. Of course, this never works... I cant say anything really about your situation because i simply dont know... but to me it sounds like your parents are divorced... you could see if the courts would let you live with your mom but like i said i dont know your situation. Just try talking to him i know its tough because you dont get along in the first place but it might help when YOU bring up something you want to solve. He might see you as more responsible this way..
2006-06-18 22:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by elemenopee. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know that your father may not be the best person to be with right now, especially if you are a teenager. But try to make the best of it. Living with him is not the worst thing that you could be experiencing right now. It is important that you work hard to nurture the relationship between you and your father.
2006-06-18 22:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't like your Dad because he is a rotton , no good , sinful , despicable human. Worce yet, he had a daughter who is just like him, only worce. You will only become more like him and you will hate your husband when you marry and you yourself will have nasty rotton kids who will be even worce than you. It's only going to get worce with each generation. I feel sorry for your future husband. BOSCO
2006-06-18 22:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sara, Sara, Sara....You are ALMOST 16. Please try to have patience, AND tolerance of others. It will get worse before it gets better. He probably doesnt like you at this age either.
And that's not meant to be mean, believe me. He's probably wondering what on earth has happened to his baby girl.
WHO has stolen her? :)
2006-06-18 22:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it for a while, ask him why and tell him, there must be a reason, hey I am almost sixteen too, you ain't alone,good luck
2006-06-18 22:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sophia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here
but i cant do anything bout it either
so i try to avoid him as much as i can
but dats not good either now that ur still under his protection
talk to ur frens or ur mom
it helps ease the tension
2006-06-18 22:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by vanilla2415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋