I've been with this boy for over two months and i just gave him my virginity. I'm scared because i dont want him leave me. I think i gave it up to soon. He's not acting different but was it a little to soon that i gave it up?
2006-06-18 15:03:46 · 37 answers · asked by Tbaby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hay whats up avoid the other comments below. If you feel like you regret it yes you did give it up to early. But if you truly love that person you made the right decision.
2006-06-18 15:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan C 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Guys have no clue about how special it is to receive a gift like someone's virginity. They take it for granted. And he may not ever treat you the same way again. But I am going to help you out, okay?
This is a talk that our Daddy's should have had with us about boys. I will tell you my Daddy didn't tell me and I had to find out by experience. Let's hope that the Diva's mistakes can help you take care of yourself so you don't have to learn the hard way.
Boys look at sex the same way that they look at scoring points at the basketball game. They have to have the most points because they have to seem like men. Now, they will do or say ANYTHING they can to get you to give it up. They will tell you they love you or they will stay forever. All lies. Take note: It is worth more points if it is your first time because they know that they can come back and get it from you again and again and again. They know that we fall in love a littler harder for guys that we give our virginity. Sad but true.
So here are a few tips for the future. Two months is not enough time to know someone to have a intimate relations with. If you were to become pregnant, would you want to be with this guy for the next 18+ years? I don't think so. Boys that I loved when I was 16 years old are GROSS now. I wouldn't even give them the time of day. Take your time, there's no hurry and if he really loves you he will wait until you are ready. And just ins case, always INSIST that you man wears a condom because you are too young to get yourself tied down and he will never have the same level of responsibility if you get tied down with a baby. Don't believe anything a guy tells you. You are smart, you know BS when you hear it.
In the meantime, don't call him. Give him some space. he may really be a nice guy and is afraid that he will somehow hurt you. If he does leave you, you will survive. There are other things more important that securing a boyfriend. For instance, your education. Think about what you want to be when you grow up and make a goal to achieve it.
Your body is a precious jewel. Don't just give it away. Make him earn your love.
2006-06-18 15:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by ms_diva_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you did give up your virginity too soon. Even if you're not going to wait until you're married to have sex, you should be comfortable enough and know the person well enough to tell if they will leave you or not. I don't know how long you plan to be with this person, but many relationships end sooner than they should over issues like this. If he does end up leaving, you have to be strong enough to move on because if he leaves you because you gave it up too soon then that shows you how much he really cares about you despite what he says. There are too many good men out there to put up with that!
2006-06-18 15:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by mdot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I lost my virginity after ONE DAY of knowing they guy so I am very jealous of you. If hes not acting different then thats a very good sign. Hes not necessarily going to leave you, it's a little bit sexist to assume thats all he obviously wants.
I have lost my chance to ever remember it as anything special, but it sounds like you lost yours in a romantic way which is the major thing mine was lacking. I think 2 months is a little soon nowadays but if the guy dosen't act different that tells you a lot.
Also I am intrugued as to why you think he will leave you? If you didn't sleep with him until he told you he loved you, are you saying he said those things just to get you into bed?
2006-06-18 15:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it depends on the guy, your age, his age, the details, the kind of closeness you had before you did it. so it really is up to you to fix how things go from now on. And please DONT waste your time regretting anything!! everything that happens happens for a reason - it was meant to be that way - you lost your virginity - there is nothing you can do to get it back and you shouldnt want to , because each experience teaches you something Very important. So just be happy that now you are that much wiser about life. And good luck with the boyfriend =)
2006-06-18 15:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's the good news hun... i was 15 when i lost my virginity to a handsome slightly older guy. we werent in a relation before i lost my virginity but we sure were in one after i did. we stayed together for 3yrs almost 4 if you count the year we were still seeing each other after we broke up. this will be the 5th year that ive known him and we're actually very close friends. i want you to take in account that its not about how long you wait unless you're dealing with an immature guy.
now for the bad news... you seem to regret losing your virginity thats not good. its done honey so dont regret just learn. but appreciate the fact that he isnt treating you differently and becareful next time if you dont wanna have sex anymore for a while. by all means follow your heart and keep those legs locked. good luck hun
2006-06-18 15:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by princesaa20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be straight up and complete honest with you....
No matter how old you are....."over two MONTHS" is WWAYYY too early to give up your virginity. No matter how you think you may feel....two months is just too new. You should have waited. Feelings will change from when you first meet....and dont be surprised if the guy does leave you. After all, if you gave it up after 2 months, he will move on and get something new and quick again.
2006-06-18 15:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by may_may_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said ur 17 so thats not that bad. i wouldnt of done it after 2 months only cuz i no what can happen. but im only 16 and when i was 14 (really early) i lost my virginity to a guy who id been going out with for about 3 months and it was ok like we both still loved each other but then our relationship started revolving around sex and it sucked so just dont let that happen.
2006-06-18 15:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how old u r.. i was 14 when i lost my virginity and i only knew the guy about a week and we only hung out once b4 i had sex with him.. i used to be a total whore lol and i still kinda am but only with the one guy.. i love him... but anywhooo.. lol.. if u were younger than like.. hmm.. 16, yea it was too young and too soon.. i regret giving it up so fast and soon becuz now everyone thinks I'm a whore and they all think I'm gonna be pregnant by the tI'me im 17 so yea... don't make that same mistake that i did girl cuz it ruins your whole life. even if u don't think it will, it does and you'll regret it
Good luck with your man doll. i hope it all works out good for u and him :-)
2006-06-18 15:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Juno. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is one of those things that once you give up, there is no chance of ever getting it back. Yes, I agree you did give in too soon, but guess what millions of women have done it, and millions of us have all had the same regrets. Don't be so hard on yourself, but try to avoid having sex until you get married.
2006-06-18 15:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋