Baby boy or Baby girl........for your first born, does it matter?

Question

MY HUSBAND AND I ARE PLANNING ON HAVING OUR FIRST CHILD(MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS, NOW) WE BOTH WANT A BABY BOY FOR OUR FIRST BORN.

LADIES: HAVE YOUR REALATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUBBY CHANGE BECAUSE OF THE SEX OF YOUR CHILD? OR AM I JUST BEING SILLY?

Answer 1

I hate to say it, but I think you're being silly.

Even if you WERE able to pick your child's sex, you don't know what the child will be like. What if the little boy you dreamed about wanted to write poetry or dance? Would you love him any less? What if the little girl you imagined dressing up all cute ended up wanting to cut off all her hair and play hockey? These things are all stereotypes, of course, but my point is that children are themselves, first and foremost, and since you don't get to pick their abilities, interests, or personalities, what difference does their SEX make, you know?

I have two little girls. One loves her long hair, and a twirly dress, and she's extremely verbal and chatty, but not very physically adept. And we have another one who's completely fearless and VERY physical, but not as chatty or as stereotypically "girly." And they're both "daddy's girls" and he loves them to death. We would have loved boys, too, of course, but that's the crux of the matter: it's so amazing to see traits of yourselves in them, and to see how familiar and yet how different they are. We can't imagine our lives any other way, no matter what we might have imagined before.

Babies change your lives in so many ways. I think that the sex of your first born is the least of your worries!

A baby is TOUGH on a relationship. Even when you think you agree on all the big issues, there are a million little things about parenting that you squabble over. And you're tired, and frustrated, and kind of missing your old freedom, and it's easy to get too wrapped up in your baby (not taking time for YOUR relationship) or to take your frustrations out on each other. You could, I suppose, blame some of the stress on not getting a child of the sex you wanted (although that wasn't an issue for us--we didn't know beforehand, and we didn't have a preference), but I think that's just a smokescreen for other, more basic issues.

Good luck.

Answer 2

well, to start the husband or man is the determining factor here not because he can control his sperm but, he is the one that will determine the sex of the baby. How about trying to have a healthy baby? it won't matter girl or boy then, you guys will just have a healthy baby. then sometime during the time you might have a test that will also tell you the sex of the baby or you can say you would like to be surprised. and about being silly no you are a pregnant lady you can be silly if you need to be. I hope you can let the babys sex thing go just want a healthy baby thats all that counts anyway, Right?

Answer 3

It depends upon your hubby! No you aren't being silly...You 2 need to talk about this and resolve it before the baby is born. What is important here is that you love each other and will rejoice in the birth of your new child no matter what the sex...

Answer 4

the sex of the child really don't matter. although it is ideal for the boy to come first to protect their siblings it really don't matter. we were told that we were having a girl for the first and we were estatic. then about 7 months we were told nope it's a boy we were still estatic and love him to this day. then 7 yrs later we had an oopsy and have a little girl so a baby is a baby and the sex is just a sex.

neither one of my children like wearing a dress. he just cried during his cristing and she pulls the over her head and cries that it is on her at 4 months so we say a baby is a baby.

Answer 5

Here's an idea: Don't pay $300 for a doctor to chop bits off his penis, and spend the $300 on clothes and toys for your son instead. Its not covered by many insurance companies nowadays because its seen as an *elective procedure*, i.e. it is NOT medically necessary. Only half of American baby boys are being circumcised in the 21st-century, and in the California only 30% are circumcised.

Answer 6

I always wanted a boy first and a girl second, because I knew a big brother could protect my daughter at certain times when we as parents can't. But I am having a little girl as my first, and we couldn't be happier. You don't get to choose the sex of your baby, and I believe everything happens for a reason, so maybe my little darling will grow up and be such a strong-willed woman that she protects her brother (if we give her one, that is)!!

Good luck!!

Answer 7

I always wanted a boy first, just to please my husband because that is what he wanted, well it didnt go that way I got a girl first then a boy. I dont think it matters because once they see the baby you fall in love with whatever gender it is, and guys tend to bond better with their little girls, mothers bond easier with their boys :)

having a girl first has never changed anything, and he actually wants more girls because boys are a pain lol

Answer 8

we had a daughter first and he showed a real soft side all the time, but now with our son hes more macho dad, but its cute. nothing really that made us feel different about each other. i think the sex of your baby will just decide how cute and funny your husband will look when their playing together. dont worry.

Answer 9

it depends on the parents.
If the parent loves the child uncontionally and look past the hole or the pole, then answer is no.

Just cherish the child and remember if you at first do not succeed, always remember children do better when they have a sibling to play and learn with.

Answer 10

my first born was a girl, and the second was a boy. i wouldn't have it any other way. their ages are so close, it really doesn't matter to us. once you are pregnant, pray for a healthy baby.