Why do you feel, that as humans being sexual creatures, we impose this one love stigma on ourselves?

Question

Now I ask that whatever religous background you may have, you restrain yourself from letting it influence your answer or wind up in any part of it. Sex is without a doubt a human instinct, a natural pull towards fulfillment, so why do we as creatures with these natural urges, try to bind ourselves to just one sexual love at a time?

The second part of this question is, Do you feel that in an unbiased, unselfish and unjealous society we could have many sexual fulfilling relationships and retain our integrity?

Answer 1

you already answered your own question. not as long as religious zealots roam the Earth!!

Answer 2

I think one of the main reasons for it is disease. It's easier not to spread disease if you are only with one person. Yeah, I know there can be testing and all, but still. I think if we had fail safe pregnancy protection for women, and disease protection for both people, then it would probably be a bit more acceptable. I'm talking something 100% safe. I also think that there is the whole religious aspect to it, which I won't go into. I think some people get jealous. Some people want their partner all to themselves. It makes some people feel more loved, and like the sex is more special. Some people just don't like the idea of someone being with lots of different people. It's just a preference. In answer to the second question, it's rather hard to say. If everyone is just happy go lucky, maybe yeah. I mean if everyone is unjealous, that takes care of the multiple person thing. Unbiased takes care of any religious, racial, sexuality, etc. issues. I saw a documentary about a tribe in South America, which I can't remember the name of, and the people there had open sexual relations all around the community. True they were all of the same race, tribe, etc. but still. And the only problem came when someone got jealous and they changed some tribal laws. So there's an example of how your second question part would work in the real world if you took out jealousy.

Answer 3

I think your question demonstrates a lack of insight into the human nature because you are only looking at the physical element of the sexual relationship.

Sex without love doesn't do anything more than going to the bathroom does when you feel pressure on your bladder. All it does is provide a temporary release from a physical demand.

When a person unites their body with that of another person in a sexual relationship they are demonstrating, at least for that moment, the ultimate vulnerability and intimacy that two people can experience. When this is combined with love and trust and commitment then it is truly a thing of beauty.

When it is reduced to something more like an agreement between a cab driver and his fare the beauty is eliminated and a person who thinks that this is "fulfilling" has deceived themself because they have either never had true fulfillment or they are afraid to make the commitment necessary to experience it.

Having multiple partners is just a way to avoid the responsibilities that come from being committed to only one person for life. It treats other people like Kleenex who can be tossed away after they have served their purpose and replaced with another one at any time.

Answer 4

Many creatures mate for life with a single partner. It has many more benefits to the species than not.

The very premise of your question is askew because the primal urge isnt sex, its survival. Survival of self, followed by survival of the genetic line. A creature has sexual urges for the use of promoting the species, not for the experience of many lovers.

Thats what separates humans from animals. We have less of a drive for survival or preservation of the species, but instead for social interaction, and the thrill of sexual stimulation. Other creatures dont have this motivation.

Further more, animals that do mate with many different partners only do so during a heat cycle, because this is not only the time when the female is receptive, but the only time that pregnancy can occur.

People are social creatures, with society, morals (in place by the majority), family structure, and the desire to live a certain quality of life. It takes two people to raise a healthy well rounded child, any research or honest person will tell you that. Our society frowns on multiple sexual relationships because of the lack of family structure, and the risk of disease, and mental anguish.

Those aside from religious reasons.

Answer 5

Human beings are complex beings. Many different feelings come to play in ones everyday life. add sex to the equation and more emotions come to play on two or more parties involved. During the earth's lifetime of 5000 years or so, it has been tried in many ways and several varies ways. With some it worked better than with others and one never knows the extent that a human's feelings will change in love/sex relationships.

Sex was not only for sexual gratification but used also to produce children. Only one woman can give birth to a child and only one father can be the father of that child. So if multiple parties are involved, the issue then arises that it's my child not our child. We're not like some animals that can reproduce having several fathers and males can share this.

There are some societies that you can go and live like this but beware, once you're in, they may not let you out. What are the consequences of your actions upon someone else?

As long as we have human beings, we will have human emotions. If we haven't learned in 5000 years or so why do you think we can change now.

Answer 6

It's hard, but I'll try not to let my Christian faith influence my answer. I think that, besides religious reasons, people try to only have one sexual partner at a time for two reasons:
the possibility of children, and wanting to have a family for that child (particularly women)
second, people are jealous, and it's impossible to separate the sexual act from emotional committment (or at least it should be that way)

The second part of your question I can't really answer without my Christian faith playing a role.

Answer 7

We are essentially animal beings. The sex drive has been suppressed throughout our history. It doesn't make natural sense that this drive has been suppressed. It has always been a stigma of religion and government. Go with what you feel....

Answer 8

So that you would know who your parents are, so you would not be unknowingly having sex with your father/brother/uncle etc. and so the species would prosper by not having everyone have STD's.

Answer 9

what r u a counsiler or somethin who cares!!!